Re: moving, thoughts

July 11, 2004

Hi Tess,

Why don't you take the accommodative unit. You have to think about what

you need now. Worry about the future later. If in time you feel you don't

need the ground unit, you could probably get something else. But I would

take it for now, it is what you need. Why not make your life a little

easier.

Lynn (MeMom)

Grammi_Love@... wrote:

> Hi...the surgery related remission is over and I'm sad to say I still

> have RA...I guess it's just wishful thinking to hope it would disappear

> permanently. I knew it was inside hiding, but it was sure nice not to

> experience it for awhile.

>

> We'll be moving within the month, and I was offered an apartment that

> has been made " accomodative. " Well, the housing fellow called Friday

> and asked me if I " really " needed an " accomodative " apartment. Now mind

> you, I did not ask for one as I didn't know I could. But as the

> apartment is subsidized, in my application I was asked if I had

> disabilities and I listed RA, PsA, OA and FMS. Well, I told him

> honestly that I probably did not need one as badly as someone in a

> wheelchair, but I cannot, at this point, carry groceries, laundry, and,

> at times, me, up a straight flight of stairs. So he faxed over a form

> to my rheumy to see if he will say I do indeed need a ground level,

> accomodative unit.

>

> OK, now I feel guity. My kids and friends are 100% adamant that I need

> this type of apartment. Maybe I'm being too hard on myself, or getting

> ahead of myself. I am losing weight and feeling stronger in some ways.

> But the RA et al are not likely to totally disappear as I lose weight.

> And in the " here and now " , I do need some assistance. If I get to the

> place where I am much more healthy I hope, hope, hope to be able to work

> and not need accomodation. But, I can't forsee the future.

>

> Anybody have any thoughts?

>

> I see my bariatric surgeon tomorrow, so I'll report the news when I get

> home.

>

> Love & hugs to all...

>

> Tess

>

July 11, 2004

Tess, You are too hard on yourself, don't feel guilty. I think you

should take the accomodative apartment, like the others adviced.

Good luck at the doc tomorrow, Tawny

> Hi...the surgery related remission is over and I'm sad to say I

still

> have RA...I guess it's just wishful thinking to hope it would

disappear

> permanently. I knew it was inside hiding, but it was sure nice not

to

> experience it for awhile.

>

> We'll be moving within the month, and I was offered an apartment

that

> has been made " accomodative. " Well, the housing fellow called

Friday

> and asked me if I " really " needed an " accomodative " apartment. Now

mind

> you, I did not ask for one as I didn't know I could. But as the

> apartment is subsidized, in my application I was asked if I had

> disabilities and I listed RA, PsA, OA and FMS. Well, I told him

> honestly that I probably did not need one as badly as someone in a

> wheelchair, but I cannot, at this point, carry groceries, laundry,

and,

> at times, me, up a straight flight of stairs. So he faxed over a

form

> to my rheumy to see if he will say I do indeed need a ground level,

> accomodative unit.

>

> OK, now I feel guity. My kids and friends are 100% adamant that I

need

> this type of apartment. Maybe I'm being too hard on myself, or

getting

> ahead of myself. I am losing weight and feeling stronger in some

ways.

> But the RA et al are not likely to totally disappear as I lose

weight.

> And in the " here and now " , I do need some assistance. If I get to

the

> place where I am much more healthy I hope, hope, hope to be able to

work

> and not need accomodation. But, I can't forsee the future.

>

> Anybody have any thoughts?

>

> I see my bariatric surgeon tomorrow, so I'll report the news when I

get

> home.

>

> Love & hugs to all...

>

> Tess

July 11, 2004

Tess,

Currently, we live in a home we built 25 years ago. It's a 2 story with all

the bedrooms on the 2nd floor.

There are days when I don't have major problems with the stairs. But there

are days when the only way I can get down them is on my behind.

There are days I can drive to the grocery store, don't need to park in a

handicapped space, and have no problems shopping. There are days when I can get

to the store, park in the closest handicapped space, and by the time I get into

the store, am literally hanging onto the cart. There are days I can't make it

past a couple aisles. And there are days I can't even drive.

We hope to build a much smaller house that is fully accessible. I may never

get worse than I am now, but I may also end up confined to a wheelchair. And

the hardest part is that you never know when one or more of your illnesses is

going to rear its ugly head and take it up not one, but a few notches. And when

it does, the possibility exists that there may not be an accommodative apartment

available.

You may not need it every day now, but there will be days when you do, and

days when you are so much better with it.

I also believe things happen for a reason. It may be more than coincidence

that the apartment is available now. I have the same illnesses you do, plus a

few others. And even though I know there are many people who are worse than I

am, I'd give anything for that accessible house today.

So count your good fortune, and take it.

My daughter, who is wise beyond her years, says things come to us when we

need them, even thought we may not realize it. She would also say that you

would have a better quality of life with it, and quality of life is very

important.

And she would also tell you that you deserve it after all you have been through.

Now, are those enough reasons? If you want, I could give you more!

Dix

[ ] moving, thoughts

Hi...the surgery related remission is over and I'm sad to say I still

have RA...I guess it's just wishful thinking to hope it would disappear

permanently. I knew it was inside hiding, but it was sure nice not to

experience it for awhile.

We'll be moving within the month, and I was offered an apartment that

has been made " accomodative. " Well, the housing fellow called Friday

and asked me if I " really " needed an " accomodative " apartment. Now mind

you, I did not ask for one as I didn't know I could. But as the

apartment is subsidized, in my application I was asked if I had

disabilities and I listed RA, PsA, OA and FMS. Well, I told him

honestly that I probably did not need one as badly as someone in a

wheelchair, but I cannot, at this point, carry groceries, laundry, and,

at times, me, up a straight flight of stairs. So he faxed over a form

to my rheumy to see if he will say I do indeed need a ground level,

accomodative unit.

OK, now I feel guity. My kids and friends are 100% adamant that I need

this type of apartment. Maybe I'm being too hard on myself, or getting

ahead of myself. I am losing weight and feeling stronger in some ways.

But the RA et al are not likely to totally disappear as I lose weight.

And in the " here and now " , I do need some assistance. If I get to the

place where I am much more healthy I hope, hope, hope to be able to work

and not need accomodation. But, I can't forsee the future.

Anybody have any thoughts?

I see my bariatric surgeon tomorrow, so I'll report the news when I get

home.

Love & hugs to all...

Tess

July 11, 2004

Hi Tess,

I agree with the others....RA is far too unpredictable. If you can make your

life easier, you should. You don't need the stress to add to your everyday

situations of just being able to do whatever is required of you. None of us

asked for RA, but it found us, and now we need to make life as easy as possible

for ourselves. If help is offered, take it...it's often hard to come by!

Jefersea