What to do about the holidays? (OT)

November 18, 2004

Ok here's the scoop.....DAB is seperating from his wife. It has been bad

for several years so it is just as well for them, but bad for everyone else.

{ This isn't the first time, but no one liked the first ex. } They are still

living together because of finances and it is her house. First of all DAB

is under the impression that everyone should be on his side no matter what

he has done and everyone should ignore his ex. It has made it a very hard

situation for the kids and grandchild. Oh yeah, he is in his 50's and still

acts like a baby! Personally, everyone in my family loves his ex and we

want her to participate in the holiday festivities with us. He is having a

hissy fit about it. We are afraid he will whine enough to his kids that

they won't show up. The poor soul is so insecure that he has been bribing

them with gifts and money....Yeah that bad. (Now you see why he can't get

his own place!) I just talked to his ex a couple of days ago and he has

convinced her she isn't welcome in the family anymore. I want to kill my

DAB for that one. I told her, she is part of the family whether she stays

with him or not. He has no right telling her that BS. She will always be

our SIL! His granddaughter was with her and I could tell it was taking a

toll on her. She loves my SIL and had a big smile on her face when I said

Grandma will always be part of the family.

So right now, we don't know if anyone (his side) is coming Christmas Eve. I

don't see why my DAB is putting up such a stink about it. He is still

living in her house. They see each other every day. Why can't he behave

for one night!!

I am in my 50's and I just don't know how to deal with this. This has never

been a problem before in the family.

HELP!!

in Ct.

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