should be more positive

[Guest guest]

I can't stop thinking of that quote, 'your teacher is the person you're

living with.' So the next thing I want to inquire about is 's

attitude. I have a difficult time accepting his negativity. So, here

goes...

Belief: should be more positive.

1) Is it true?

No

2) Can you absolutely know it's true?

No

- And it means that...

I have to work to prevent his negative mood from influencing my mood.

Usually I can't.

- What do you think you would have?

It would be easier to be happy.

- What's the worst that could happen?

I could suck in his negative mood and feel bad.

3) How do you react when you think that thought?

I am annoyed by his endless pronouncements of doom and gloom. I

alternate between ignoring his thoughts to protect myself from hurt, and

being sucked in to his words and feeling hurt. I somehow don't feel like

I love him, and I wonder if it's because I don't accept this part of

him... which causes me to not be affectionate.

- Can you see a reason to drop that thought? (And please don't).

Yes

4) Who would you be without that thought?

I would accept him more. Perhaps feel more love? I would be in my

business more. Perhaps I would be better able to prevent myself from

sucking in his negativity?

Turnaround

to myself: I should be more positive. Ouch. Didn't even see that one

coming! Hahaha. Sh**t... didn't realize that I have difficulty with this

myself. Oh my. I mean, I'm positive in ways he's not, but then in other

ways he's much more positive than I am. I should be more positive about

accepting all of me. I should be more positive about him! I should be

more positive about all the negative beliefs I have...

to the other: should not be more positive. He's trying his

hardest... reading, going to meditation. He's just doing his best, like

we all are. He already suffers from his negativity... I don't need to

add to it by not accepting him. Also, his being negative is a great

teaching tool for me... to help me practice not attaching to his

negative thoughts. If he's supposed to let go so easily, then they

shouldn't even present a problem for me.

to the opposite: should be more negative. Hmmm... so that it

caused him to hit his bottom more quickly. So that he would be yet a

better teacher for me.

I am willing to/ I look forward to being negative.

(Wow! I feel it! Yay!)