AW: Re: Figure out a belief /alex

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Dear facy,

> > > i get really horny and tensed and feel like i must have her, i

> > > totaly

> > > freak out.

> > So...

> >

> > " I need her "

> > Is that true? Now? In this moment?

>

> no.

> i dont think i need her.

> i dont believe i have a rational thought regarding this.

What is a " rational " thought? Does it differ from other thoughts?

So, you WANT her.

Is that true, for this moment?

If I go there, I look at her, find her attractive, her neck, for instance, I

picture how I ebrace her, start kissing her, observing where my hands go, how

her skin feels, how she smells, how her lips taste, how soft her tongue is...

And, where I am at, I know this is a nice dream. And that it has nothing to do

with that woman over there. So I let my mind wander...

And I know, I don't want HER.

Where are you at? You said you must have her. So, again: in this moment? Or can

it wait until tomorrow? But maybe that's too long to be comfortable. What about

in one minute? Could you relax, if you knew she would be yours in a minute? Or

at least come over and start a conversation? Or whatever you would like the

first step to be. Maybe grab you and drag you into a corner for... some romantic

purposes. Or looking deep into your eyes, totally giving herself up to you.

Maybe a minute is too long to wait? What about a second?

Thoughts are MUCH faster than that!

And can you absolutely know she won't?

But maybe you'd rather look at the part " I totally freak out " - What does that

look like, and how is this uncomfortable? What could happen, if you did? And I

am not suggesting you to freak out, but to look if there's any fears involved,

for instance. Get to know who you are, explore yourself, explore your thoughts.

Without investing anything into the outcome, just out of curiosity to meet

yourself.

And if you don't want to... how can you expect anyone else to be interested in

who you are? Especially that hot woman hover there?

But this is not about women falling in love with you.

This is about not being anxious around them. About understanding your nightmare.

And you DO have thoughts about it. You have a dream, you see pictures, things

happening betwenn you and her.

Don't you?

That's your thoughts. Either about wishing to get it, or fearing of never

getting it. Feels like loosing something, doesn't it?

> > If she was yours, what would you have?

> sex, romantic expirience's, way's to express myself with another, joy

> beyond reasone with the knowing this amazing girl is inlove with me.

> the peace of mind from knowing i can be loved, and the evidence of it

> where this girl desire's me.

All at one time?

Go into slow-motion. What's the first desire? work with that.

So, get all the hot/desirable girls to love you, and *then* experience some

peace of mind.

That's what it's about, isn't it?

The " knowing " is something you can have right now, anyway. Or... You'll never

get it from her. If you get it, it's beacause you got to know yourself. You

explored your thoughts. One way to do that is to do the work.

> > If she was with you, now, what would you have?

> i would have sex love relaxation and peace of mind and peace of body.

So she's with you and she doesn't want sex.

hm...

Is that it? She should let everything she has planned go, just to be with you,

and have sex with you, now!

What about after the sex? May she go back to her own life, or should she stay

around a bit longer?

Have you ever had sex with someone just to please that person?

Or, have you ever done anything to please someone, although you didn't feel you

should do it, or want to do it?

Remember how that feels like?

Is that an experience you want that woman of your choice to make?

> > And would you feel as excited if you knew she would be all the time

> > around?

> yea i would. allthough i wouldn't want her the whole time .. i'd want

> her as an option, for the time i feel lonly.

Sure. To please YOUR needs.

You don't care about hers.

So how does it feel to be so demanding?

> > So... Find what's really not ok about the situation, now.

> now everything is ok.

> it is not ok when i see a girl or have an option.

ah! Now I understand the problem:

you think you have an option!

Love,

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