Guest guest Posted August 16, 2000 Report Share Posted August 16, 2000 Lynn, How old are your children? The reason I ask is that my daughter's father (my ex-boyfriend) died suddenly at the age of 38 of heart failure. My daughter, Shauna, was 7 at the time. Although he and I were split up at the time, they had maintained a very close relationship. For the first 3 months after he died, she didn't show any outward signs of grief. At about 3 months she began to have trouble sleeping, crying in the middle of the night. I would go in and comfort her but, I soon realized that this was more than I could handle, and luckily the area I live in has a support group for children who have lost close family members. They also had a separate support group for teenagers. Does the area you live in have anything like that? It really helped Shauna a lot. They used a lot of art therapy to get the kids to draw out their feelings. Shauna went until she said she didn't want to go anymore (about 6 mos. + 2 week long camps). I figured she knew best. Overall, a very positive experience. Now, I know that your situation is different, given that your kids knew that Mike was sick, but I would encourage you to look into it. Take of yourself, Eileen <My children on the surface seem to be doing well...though I suspect that's not the case.> <Matter of fact I'm going to attend a closed session in September on the loss of a spouse that's put on by Hospice. I hope this will help me to understand my feelings.> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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