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I am disapointed by T because he is too nice and passive

because he is too into me

because he is too needy

I want T to be more of a man

to stop looking at me as if I'm some sort of hero

to kiss and touch me with more passion

T shouldn't think I'm his dream girl

should back off and stop trying to please me

shouldn't be so needy

I need T to be more unavailable

stop dropping everything for me

T is sweet, honest, mature, lovable and too needy

I don't ever want to feel unattracted to T again.

ok so i'm gonna see how much i get thru and come back

HE'S TOO NICE AND PASSIVE

1, yes

2, no i can't know thats true, i've only known him a few weeks

this also takes me to he shouldn't be too nice and passive.

3, i pull away, i turn myself off, i can't see him for my story,

i feel like i'm gonna take advantage of him, i feel like i'm gonna

hurt his feelings, that i am responsible for his feelings and that i

need to walk on eggshells around him in order to avoid hurting him or

upsetting him. I feel unworthy of his affections for me. I feel like a

fraud, that when he see's what i'm like he'll run away. I treat him

without desire, a friend but not lover material, i loose interest, i

try and push his buttons and see his fire. I distance myself, I avoid

his advances, I feel repulsed by his gentle caresses, I feel

disapointed in him. I don't feel challenged.

My mind slips into a future of me hurting his feelings and him getting

really needy and overbearing.

the worst thing that could happen is that i would end up with a guy

with no back bone and have no respect for him and feel barren and

unchallenged.

4, i would see him more clearly, i would enjoy being with him more, i

might not turn myself off, i would be open to seeing his beauty more,

i would feel peaceful and notice that i'm either attracted to him or

not without judging him, i would feel more respectful. i would be more

present with him rather than finding fault.

T.A HE ISN'T TOO NICE AND PASSIVE

1, no he says it like it is for him, he just has a gentle way of

delivering it.

2, he was quite clear on the phone with his friends when he was

displeased about something

3, he told me he was pissed off last night when i told him i didn't

want him to come out with me and my friends

T.A I am too nice and passive

1, especially when i'm over there in his business feeling responsible

for his feelings

2, when i don't ask for what i want by telling him how i'd like to be

kissed and touched.

3, i was definately too nice and passive when i was with shalimar

because i wanted him to like me.

4, when i kissed him and i didn't feel like it.

HE'S TOO INTO ME

1, yes

proof, he looks at me with puppy dog eyes

he strokes me softly

he always seemed to have free days when i asked him his plans

2, no i can't know what was going on in his mind

and i can't know it's true i'd be happier if he was less into me. i'd

probably be complaining that i want him to be more into me !

3, i feel responsible for his feelings, i feel scared of the intensity

of his feelings, i feel overwhelmed, i turn myself off, i feel like i

won't live up to his expectations, i feel unworthy of so much

attention. i feel repulsed, i feel unattracted to him,

I don't feel i can be true to myself and have a relationship with this

person because i'm gonna hurt his feelings so i'm likely to compromise.

4, I would see his expression and not make it mean anything about me.

I would see him as sweet and understanding,

i would be more open to hanging out with him,

i might be more attracted to him

calm, peaceful, loving in his presence,

seeing him as an equal

waiting to see if he's gonna be a friend or a lover without trying to

predict the future.

enjoying his openess

T.A HE'S NOT TOO INTO ME

1, truer he hasn't returned my email i sent him today

2, he hasn't called me today

3, he's just enjoying his story of me

T.A I'M TOO INTO HIM

1, yes dictating how his affections should look

2, being in his business and assuming i know what he's thinking

3, yes telling myself if he were less into me then we could have a

good relationship and i don't know thats true.

ok bedtime for me .

more tomorrow

feedback welcome

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