Re: what's happening

[Guest guest]

i am so glad you had fun on your trip.the concert sounds like fun.i know how

a song can move you. i am on countdown day 27 until my trip!! (look out jimmy

pankow!) i am not sure my son is in the best relationship either. but i

know how it is to be in love. so i stand behind his decision in whatever he

chooses. he has been thru enough and i just want him to be happy. it's about all

i

can do to get the 30 minute visit a week (if i'm lucky) kathy in il

[Guest guest]

Tess,

I made poor choices in men and relationships for most of my life. Is

your daughter willing to see a therapist? The only times I have made

headway in seeking stronger, more mature and more fulfilling

relationships is through a counselor. Sometimes it's easier to

accept advice from a neutral party, and a good therapist can help a

person see the issue for themselves.

The person I am seeing now is a relationship psychologist, and he's

really helped me to understand what mistakes I made in choosing my

husband and what other decisions have led me to have unhealthy and

unsatisfying relationships. My mom encouraged me to see one, but it

was only after I started dating someone and thought, this guy is

great and oh my I know I am going to screw it up, that I went and

started therapy. I'm so glad I did.

Jennie

> Hi All...lots going on. I did travel to see Cosby, Stills &

Nash...they

> came onstage at 6:35pm, took one 15 minute break about 7:40 - then

> played til 9:30. It was wonderful music which brought back many

happy

> memories of Vince and I. My 2 friends and I each wore a flower

wreath

> in our hair, and had " glow-sticks " to wave in the dark (like some

folks

> use lighters). The concert was in the open-air on a brisk, clear

> evening, and was so much fun.

>

> My middle daughter, Emmy, went back with her boyfriend. He still

says

> there is no marriage or children in the future, and Em still

believes

> she can change his mind. I yi yi. Em has some learning

disabilities

> and emotional disabiltes, but is not so handicpped that she cannot

make

> her own decisions. Carroll (boyfriend) told her that he loves her,

but

> that she really should find a guy who can offer her the marriage and

> family she's dreamed of...yet he is quite ok with her moving in with

> him. Grrrrr. Well, there's a lot of praying & " let go, let God "

> happening on my end. I am very tired of people's criticisms which

are

> either I should protect her from this, or I should encourage her

> independance more. Parenting children with learning and emotional

> disabilities is very hard, with many " gray " areas and there are no

easy

> answers. So, she knows I love her, she knows I am really concerned

> about her decisions, and whatever may happen, I'll be here.

>

> My insurance has changed the way Humira is made available...I used

to

> get it at the local pharmacy, but now it is delivered directly from

my

> insurer's pharmacy. I don't think they've gotten the bugs out of

the

> system yet so the Humira came late and I flared, pretty bad hands &

> wrists. It'll be fine if they just get the delivery issues figured

out.

>

> I'm thinking of going back to school next Spring...nothing for

sure, but

> it's exciting thinking it may happen.

>

> I see my bariatric surgeon next Monday, so I'll report my weight

loss

> then. Most of the time I feel pretty good, with bumps in the road,

as

> we all experience.

>

> Love, Hope & Hugs for all....

>

> Tess