Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 << .I have the problem of spoting my panties with cum and don't know why this happening when I don't have sex >> I personally find your posts offense in their language and nature....I think you could find ways that are less offense to discuss an issue that is already very personal in nature....I have to be honest and tell you I think that maybe reading the posts, on this list, is causing your problem.....Is there a moderator, on this list that is suppose to moderate this type of stuff.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 << Because I am not the list moderator & therefore cannot enforce any list guidelines, this is merely a posting suggestion & hope others will be open minded to my posting tips. >> I think that your suggestions are valid, Debra. If a person truly has a problem, and is a poor speller, I can live with that. I can't live with being made to feel " dirty " ..There is still a part of me that has a hard time talking about various parts of my body and for someone else to refer to these parts in such an explicit manner disturbs me....Just my opinion! Take Care, Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Hi all, Heidi: Congratulations on your new business venture! I wish you nothing but success. Also, so glad you are feeling better! I hope it only continues. (Note: this is in reply to a post a week or so ago. I'm not online often.) Also: I agree totally with the message " Offensive Poster. " I hope that the list moderator can do something about this!! I personally believe that this person is NOT on this list for the same reasons that the rest of us are (i.e. support/advice). Can this person be stopped from posting? I hope so. Very crude and unnecessary! Thanks... Deb S. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Hello friends, I have only lurking on this list for about three months but, I felt I had felt as if I had to speak up here. I think this poster has us confused with a support list for anatomical disorders? There has to be a hemaphradite (sp?) support list somewhere out there on the WWW. This is not the place for these rudely put, graphic and disgusting posts. This person is definitely uneducated in their demeanor of how to address delicate women's issues. Not being a true women ony complicate this. I understand fully with those who comment that these posts are making them feel " dirty " . I am sure this is why the mail volume has dropped-off so sharply. I hope this person finds the appropriate forum for their questions/concerns. This mail-merge is *not* the place to address such issues. I hope that when Heidi comes back from vacation she will be able rectify this problem! I agree with Debra that some form of moderation is necessary. Especially when a poster is offending so many. Healing thoughts to all, le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Hi everyone, Ladies, you have been much too kind. Who cares about the spelling mistakes or that this poster has the wrong forum, it is obvious to me that HE is some sick pervert who gets his jollies from reading about our medical nightmares. No serious person would write to this list the way HE did. Perhaps He doesn't have clean underwear because he is getting too arroused from reading about our problems. A hermaphrodite would not use such disgusting language when talking about such a serious problem. They would not use the word " balls " . This disgusting pervert is trying to shock and offend us. I know we try to be supportive of everyone. However, we must be aware that this list is vulnerable to these creeps. So far as I can tell, everyone except this psycho has had legitimate posts. People may misspell some words here and there - not everyone has English as their primary language. But it is not the spelling that gives away such a sick pervert, it is the disguting content of his post. What do we have in common with a hermaphrodite. NOTHING. And if this were for real HE wouldn't be on our list. He would be talking to people with a similar problem using medically correct terms. I hope he gets off this list soon and gets the mental help he needs. Sandi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 << it is obvious to me that HE is some sick pervert who gets his jollies from reading about our medical nightmares. No serious person would write to this list the way HE did. Perhaps He doesn't have clean underwear because he is getting too arroused from reading about our problems. >> Thank you, Sandi!.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Because it was sent through to the list, I > can only assume that Heidi is no longer moderating this list Heidi did post that she was going on vacation and would set this list to run by itself while she was gone. It's kind of scary to think how many messages she must remove all the time to keep the list in " good shape " like it normally is. I'm sure she'll take care of the problem when she gets back. -Kitty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 I believe that this person accidently got a post from our list and answered it in a crude manor trying to shock us without any regard for our pain and feelings. I have gotten onelist messages from other boards accidently. I now just delete any message from that person before even reading it. Until Heidi returns and fixes the probem with onelist we may have this person trying to bug us. Let's not let them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 I'm not on here much, but I do lurk. I would be very offended by language that was not cleaned up before sending, however, there are some on here that suffer from FM and CFS and that means cognitive problems. This includes misspelled words, repeated sentences etc. as cognitive means brain confusion. I do not want to be made to feel unsure of myself in sending messages if there is someone grading me. I try to use the spell checker, but for my fellow CFSer's out there and FM suffers who also have VV and IC, I can read between the lines of misspells. I do agree with crude wording though, that is never necessary. Lainey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Sandi, Everyone, I also wonder how many of you ladies on this list are aware that there are other men lurking on this list? Not ladies who share e mail addresses with a man and have addresses that seem to be male but men who have themselves listed as a man on their profiles. Surely the only thing that separates them from our confused poster is they don't post! Perhaps we not only need moderation of offensive posts but another (ugghhh!) rule that makes this an all female forum? There is a partners list already in place so there is no need for men to be members here. Understand I do not mean men must never be here! I think a legitimate male partner who is interested in his woman's problems should read these posts but under her/their screen name and posting should be welcomed under and in the right context. We did have a gentlemen here once or twice and he was welll intended and defiantly honest. I know any warped person can get on this list and say they are anything. Male, Female, Cat, Dog, Whatever. But we can at least try to keep this from getting out of hand and booting anyone who does not fit the criteria for membership initially with being a woman. As far as the offensive posts are concerned that rule is already in place. We do have co moderators. Heidi Walsh and Carley Frost. I'm sure Carley is unaware of what is happening and I am dropping her a note to ask her to remove this person from out list as well as block any other attempts by him to post if that is possible. Shirley Re: Re: Offensive Poster..... > From: SandiSharp@... > > Hi everyone, > > Ladies, you have been much too kind. Who cares about the spelling mistakes > or that this poster has the wrong forum, it is obvious to me that HE is some > sick pervert who gets his jollies from reading about our medical nightmares. > No serious person would write to this list the way HE did. Perhaps He > doesn't have clean underwear because he is getting too arroused from reading > about our problems. > > A hermaphrodite would not use such disgusting language when talking about > such a serious problem. They would not use the word " balls " . This > disgusting pervert is trying to shock and offend us. > > I know we try to be supportive of everyone. However, we must be aware that > this list is vulnerable to these creeps. So far as I can tell, everyone > except this psycho has had legitimate posts. People may misspell some words > here and there - not everyone has English as their primary language. But it > is not the spelling that gives away such a sick pervert, it is the disguting > content of his post. > > What do we have in common with a hermaphrodite. NOTHING. And if this were > for real HE wouldn't be on our list. He would be talking to people with a > similar problem using medically correct terms. > > I hope he gets off this list soon and gets the mental help he needs. > > Sandi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Carley, I'm writing to you for help with the list. Their is a man posting who claims to have been born with both sexual organs, is using crude and offensive language and is asking bizarre questions. It is apparent he is either confused, ill or both. There is concern by me and other ladies about this. As the co moderator will you delete these posts from the list and if possable block this person from further posting Thank you, Shirley. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 > > > > Because it was sent through to the list, I > > can only assume that Heidi is no longer moderating this list > > Heidi did post that she was going on vacation and would set this list to run > by itself while she was gone. It's kind of scary to think how many messages > she must remove all the time to keep the list in " good shape " like it > normally is. I'm sure she'll take care of the problem when she gets back. > -Kitty > In the meantime we should just delete any messages from that person without reading them. Responding to them merely adds fuel to his/her fire via the shock factor. Ora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Heidi has fixed the problem. Ora > From: White4Art@... > > I believe that this person accidently got a post from our list and answered > it in a crude manor trying to shock us without any regard for our pain and > feelings. I have gotten onelist messages from other boards accidently. I > now just delete any message from that person before even reading it. Until > Heidi returns and fixes the probem with onelist we may have this person > trying to bug us. Let's not let them. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 1999 Report Share Posted November 23, 1999 Thanks for your post, Shirley!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 1999 Report Share Posted November 24, 1999 I agree. I was quite disturbed after reading his post. I am glad I wasn't the only one. ---------- > From: DR2460@... > To: VulvarDisordersonelist > Subject: Re: Re: Offensive Poster..... > Date: Tuesday, November 23, 1999 7:59 AM > > From: DR2460@... > > Hello friends, > > I have only lurking on this list for about three months but, I felt I had > felt as if I had to speak up here. > > I think this poster has us confused with a support list for anatomical > disorders? There has to be a hemaphradite (sp?) support list somewhere out > there on the WWW. This is not the place for these rudely put, graphic and > disgusting posts. This person is definitely uneducated in their demeanor of > how to address delicate women's issues. Not being a true women ony > complicate this. I understand fully with those who comment that these posts > are making them feel " dirty " . I am sure this is why the mail volume has > dropped-off so sharply. > > I hope this person finds the appropriate forum for their questions/concerns. > This mail-merge is *not* the place to address such issues. > > I hope that when Heidi comes back from vacation she will be able rectify this > problem! I agree with Debra that some form of moderation is necessary. > Especially when a poster is offending so many. > > Healing thoughts to all, > le > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 1999 Report Share Posted November 26, 1999 Gals, I'm a psychologist and I strongly suggest we all totally ignore offensive letters since they may like our attention. (That's on the assumption that no one can throw the person off.) Consider this like getting on the bus to go somewhere (we're all going somewhere--to the healthier place). Sometimes there are people who are just obnoxious, so KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE PRIZE. Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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