Re: I should love myself/ I should be jealous

[Guest guest]

Hi, - whoever is going to read this!

Well, there it is - a classic " opportunity to do the work,

because i´m still angry, i feel the anger, the jealousy, the frustration when i

think or her: THAT WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THANKED ME (instead of my colleague)!!!

It was on November, 17th, in a meeting with parents, and me (i´m a teacher) and

my co-teacher, when one woman was enthusiastically thanking my colleague (who´s

much younger than me, btw) for something small - in my view, of course (lol)!

O.k., i tell myself no need to do the Work ´cause i already know for sure that

SHE SHOULD HAVE THANKED MY COLLEAGUE - AND NOT ME - BECAUSE SHE DID!

NO doubt about that.

I also realize that it´s nothing but the ego talking, thinking, making noise...

(i´ve listened many times to Eckhart Tolle audio books) and i also read " Your

Immortal Reality " by Renard - this one´s due to you, Roslyn, you

mentioned it a couple of months ago so i bought the book - thanks, Roslyn!

According to him as well as to i know what´s the question

here: Do you want to be right or be happy ? (Do you want to know the truth and

be happy or be right and suffer?)

Well, it feels like suffering. Still. Whenever i think of that woman.

Having acknowledged that i´m actually choosing suffering, at the same time i

feel i just WANT to be right.

The thought THIS WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THANKED ME INSTEAD OF HER just feels right to

me...

So, according to some posts i´ve been reading here recently ( " i should not love

myself - until i do. " or : " i should have stressful thoughts - because i have " )

i´m going to add:

I should be jealous - because i am ...?

Wondering if you could share any similar experiences ...?

Thanks for listening,

Rosemarie

> >

> > Lamar,

> >

> > Trust me and trust , if you point outward and do

> the Work on

> someone or something else, it will still end up being about

> you. It

> can't be otherwise.

> >

> > My biggest complaint with this board at the moment is

> that most

> people seem not to be following the guidelines of the Work.

> a great

> example is people continually doing the Work on themselves

> and then

> wondering why the turnarounds don't feel right.

> >

> > Vivian

> >

> > Aside to Jon: a strong suggestion from you in this

> direction might

> be helpful and appropriate.

> > I should love myself

> >

> >

> > So, I've been putting these off because

> says that in the

> > beginning we shouldn't try and do the work on

> ourselves. But thats the

> > entire reason I came to the work, because as far as

> I can tell, I am

> > the person I have a problem with. And at the behest

> of the very kind

> > woman on the other end of the Hotline (and an

> emotional breakdown

> > today) I have decided to do a little on myself.

> >

> > Heres a couple I pondered

> >

> > I should love myself

> > I shouldnt be anxious

> > I shouldn't have stressful thoughts

> >

> > Oh boy oh boy, let me tell you how nice it feels to

> question those.

> > The only turn arounds I used were, I shouldnt love

> myself until I do.

> > I should be anxious if I am, and I should have

> stressful thoughts.

> > Its very hard for me to SAY the opposites and

> believe it, but if I

> > just think them and let them sink in, it feels very

> kind.

> >

> > Lamar

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Dear Rosemarie,

I guess I'm whoever.

Jealousy is a great teacher. What did this younger teacher do to

deserve such praise? Something small, in your opinion, but it was big

in the eyes of the parent.

So nice to see you name here again....love, M

>

> Hi, - whoever is going to read this!

[Guest guest]

Rosemarie,

What similar experiences are you looking for - knowing that it's all

you, etc, etc and using that as an excuse to not do the work? Seriously!

Believing there is no need to do the work when you feel angry or

frustrated about something is craziness.

You may well " know " stuff, but there's a huge difference between

mentally knowing it and feeling it / living it.

Judge the parent, judge your co-teacher (who is younger, btw....) and

inquire. Everything else is just reading around the subject, as

Eckhart Tolle says, becoming an expert in honey, without ever tasting

honey.

Much love to you,

Jon

[Guest guest]

-rosemarie..

thank you for thanking me.. but i never suggested

gary renards book..as i have never read it.

i did read REnards first book

the disappearance of the Universe. also good.

Funny you just thanked the wrong person..

for the wrong book.

i did recommend his first book but that was

about a year ago.

Well now you can see how thanking the wrong

person can happen.

love, and thanks, roslyn

-- In Loving-what-is , Rosemarie Sadjed

wrote:

>

> Hi, - whoever is going to read this!

>

> Well, there it is - a classic " opportunity to do the work,

> because i´m still angry, i feel the anger, the jealousy, the

frustration when i think or her: THAT WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THANKED ME

(instead of my colleague)!!!

> It was on November, 17th, in a meeting with parents, and me (i´m a

teacher) and my co-teacher, when one woman was enthusiastically

thanking my colleague (who´s much younger than me, btw) for something

small - in my view, of course (lol)!

> O.k., i tell myself no need to do the Work ´cause i already know for

sure that SHE SHOULD HAVE THANKED MY COLLEAGUE - AND NOT ME - BECAUSE

SHE DID!

> NO doubt about that.

> I also realize that it´s nothing but the ego talking, thinking,

making noise... (i´ve listened many times to Eckhart Tolle audio

books) and i also read " Your Immortal Reality " by Renard - this

one´s due to you, Roslyn, you mentioned it a couple of months ago so i

bought the book - thanks, Roslyn!

> According to him as well as to i know what´s the question

> here: Do you want to be right or be happy ? (Do you want to know the

truth and be happy or be right and suffer?)

>

> Well, it feels like suffering. Still. Whenever i think of that woman.

> Having acknowledged that i´m actually choosing suffering, at the

same time i feel i just WANT to be right.

> The thought THIS WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THANKED ME INSTEAD OF HER just

feels right to me...

>

> So, according to some posts i´ve been reading here recently ( " i

should not love myself - until i do. " or : " i should have stressful

thoughts - because i have " ) i´m going to add:

> I should be jealous - because i am ...?

>

> Wondering if you could share any similar experiences ...?

> Thanks for listening,

> Rosemarie

>

>

>

>

> > >

> > > Lamar,

> > >

> > > Trust me and trust , if you point outward and do

> > the Work on

> > someone or something else, it will still end up being about

> > you. It

> > can't be otherwise.

> > >

> > > My biggest complaint with this board at the moment is

> > that most

> > people seem not to be following the guidelines of the Work.

> > a great

> > example is people continually doing the Work on themselves

> > and then

> > wondering why the turnarounds don't feel right.

> > >

> > > Vivian

> > >

> > > Aside to Jon: a strong suggestion from you in this

> > direction might

> > be helpful and appropriate.

> > > I should love myself

> > >

> > >

> > > So, I've been putting these off because

> > says that in the

> > > beginning we shouldn't try and do the work on

> > ourselves. But thats the

> > > entire reason I came to the work, because as far as

> > I can tell, I am

> > > the person I have a problem with. And at the behest

> > of the very kind

> > > woman on the other end of the Hotline (and an

> > emotional breakdown

> > > today) I have decided to do a little on myself.

> > >

> > > Heres a couple I pondered

> > >

> > > I should love myself

> > > I shouldnt be anxious

> > > I shouldn't have stressful thoughts

> > >

> > > Oh boy oh boy, let me tell you how nice it feels to

> > question those.

> > > The only turn arounds I used were, I shouldnt love

> > myself until I do.

> > > I should be anxious if I am, and I should have

> > stressful thoughts.

> > > Its very hard for me to SAY the opposites and

> > believe it, but if I

> > > just think them and let them sink in, it feels very

> > kind.

> > >

> > > Lamar

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

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> > >

> > >

> > > Internal Virus Database is out of date.

> > > Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com

> > > Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.9.15/1839 -

> > Release Date:

> > 12/9/2008 9:59 AM

> > >

> > >

> > >