Re: Vivian's posting / Hanle &

[Guest guest]

Hanle,

Just wanted to share something with you - it's not the first time

you've made a comment about me wanting to be well like / regarded by

others.

The previous times I'd felt a twinge when I had read words to this

effect from you, but couldn't get to what the belief was behind the

" twinge " for me.

This time I have been able to, so thank you. I started writing quite

an aggressive message to you, letting rip, and in that I was able to

see what was really bugging me - the belief that I was holding about

you. Just seeing it was enough to feel it dissolving and the need to

send the message dropped away.

This is the value of the group for me - uncovering the beliefs and

assumptions that hold us without knowing it, the only clue being

stress, anger, irritation, etc.

mentioned growing pains of the group in one of her postings - it

occurs to me that while this may be true, it's not really my business

- my business is inquiring and outgrowing the beliefs that hold me in

pain.

It doesn't matter whether they are about you, the world, whoever -

it's all my projection.

With thanks,

Jon