Re: Re: Vivian's posting / Jon

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My message was well-intended and not meant to be critical. I wouldn't have

minded an aggresive message, maybe you should still send it and see how you

feel about doing it? Do you think there is anything wrong with wanting to be

liked? I don't. I think that is what we do. It is no co-incidence that

's prayer is that we will stop looking for love and approval. I think

there is great freedom in letting this search finally go. I recognise it in

you because I recognise it in me.

I am looking forward to your aggresive message :-)

Re: Vivian's posting / Hanle &

> Hanle,

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> Just wanted to share something with you - it's not the first time

> you've made a comment about me wanting to be well like / regarded by

> others.

>

> The previous times I'd felt a twinge when I had read words to this

> effect from you, but couldn't get to what the belief was behind the

> " twinge " for me.

>

> This time I have been able to, so thank you. I started writing quite

> an aggressive message to you, letting rip, and in that I was able to

> see what was really bugging me - the belief that I was holding about

> you. Just seeing it was enough to feel it dissolving and the need to

> send the message dropped away.

>

> This is the value of the group for me - uncovering the beliefs and

> assumptions that hold us without knowing it, the only clue being

> stress, anger, irritation, etc.

>

> mentioned growing pains of the group in one of her postings - it

> occurs to me that while this may be true, it's not really my business

> - my business is inquiring and outgrowing the beliefs that hold me in

> pain.

>

> It doesn't matter whether they are about you, the world, whoever -

> it's all my projection.

>

> With thanks,

>

> Jon

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