Guest guest Posted March 1, 2008 Report Share Posted March 1, 2008 Hey Facy, I have my own experience of this at times - and the temptation is to try and get out of it - and I've used The Work in the past to try and do that, to change things - it hasn't worked :-) Can you simply be with what is and allow it, in this moment, right now? This moment, not the next one or the next one. The belief that I kept hitting up against was " If I let go I will die. " Some thoughts / beliefs that could be inquired into: " Everything is going wrong " " Things can go wrong / have gone wrong " (Can you find anything in your life that you believe has gone wrong?) " I lack clarity " " I should be doing The Work on my beliefs " " There is something wrong with me " Maybe also try this out when you're in that place: " I'd be happier if....: and fill it in - for me it is stuff like: " My mind was calmer " " I didn't shake so much " " I didn't have to deal with any of this stuff " Thanks for your email - a helpful reminder for me that there is nothing wrong with me and nothing has ever gone wrong in my life - even if I sometimes believe that :-) With love, Jon x PS OK, I feel inspired to share a poem I wrote about a year ago - didn't even really know what it was about when I wrote it: " Down on my knees " life brings me down on my knees, bang down on my knees, nothing left down on my knees, more dust to eat down on my knees, the grass is closer, greener down on my knees, less of me to hold up down on my knees, freedom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2008 Report Share Posted March 1, 2008 Another piece of writing - from some guy called Rumi :-) With love, Jon --------------- Rumi - Guest House This being human is a guest house Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2008 Report Share Posted March 1, 2008 Rumi is wonderful. much wonderful stuff > > Another piece of writing - from some guy called Rumi :-) > > With love, > > Jon > > --------------- > > Rumi - Guest House > > This being human is a guest house > Every morning a new arrival. > > A joy, a depression, a meanness, > some momentary awareness comes > as an unexpected visitor. > > Welcome and entertain them all! > Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, > who violently sweep your house > empty of its furniture, > still treat each guest honorably. > He may be clearing you out for some new delight. > > The dark thought, the shame, the malice, > meet them at the door laughing, > and invite them in. > > Be grateful for whoever comes, > because each has been sent > as a guide from beyond. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2008 Report Share Posted March 1, 2008 FAcy..This may not apply to you at all.. if it does i suggest you do the work on your mom.. In a New Earth tolle writes on page 179 " A man who had been an unwanted child and was given no love and a minimum of care and attention by his mother developed a heavy ambivalent pain body that consisted of unfulfilled intense longing for his mothers love and attention and at the same time intense hatred toward her for withholding what he so desperately needed. When he became an adult, almost every woman would trigger his pain body..and neediness a form of emotional pain and this would manifest as an addictive compulsion to conquer and seduce almost every women he met and in this way get the female love and attention that the pain bdoy craved. ... as soon as a relationship turned intimate or his advances were rejected the pain body's anger toward his mother would come up and sabotage the relationship. " I dont know if this is accurate or not.. but the main message of a new earth is that you just need to be aware of the pain body.. and not try to escape or beat yourself up for it.. but just be aware. And conscious Since the pain body or what scientology calls the reactive mind . is unconscious.. BEing aware and conscious it doesnt effect a person so much.. hope that is helpful to you. i wonder if i gave my kids enough attention. I think for so many years i have been so into my own problems.. maybe i wasnt very attentive either.. roslyn - In Loving-what-is , " facy102 " wrote: > > every now and then i have a couple of days or weeks which everything is > going wrong. > im sick, girls dont want me, a function horribly, all my worst sides > are manifested etc. > in this time i simply can't do the work, i can't focus, my answers are > lame and my emotional system is claming thru the roof. > it is like being inside a bad dream. > it feels like a mental disease. > so im doing the work as much as i can.. but i hardly can make myself > sit down and do it..i just cant think straight... my nurves.. i dont > know.. something is very wrong and i lack clarity. > so is this familier to you? what would you suggest? > thanks. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2008 Report Share Posted March 1, 2008 my son is also without a girlfriend.. and hed like to meet someone There are more girls then boys but i think looking for someone is stressful I keep telling him to be happy single.. but i guess that is easier said then done how do you make yourself happy if your not. Except as tolle says just accept not being happy and youll be happier. ive also wanted him to be interested in the work but he isnt. your very lucky to at least know about the work. even if you dont do the work.. and i speak for myself.. here. roslyn -- In Loving-what-is , " facy102 " wrote: > > every now and then i have a couple of days or weeks which everything is > going wrong. > im sick, girls dont want me, a function horribly, all my worst sides > are manifested etc. > in this time i simply can't do the work, i can't focus, my answers are > lame and my emotional system is claming thru the roof. > it is like being inside a bad dream. > it feels like a mental disease. > so im doing the work as much as i can.. but i hardly can make myself > sit down and do it..i just cant think straight... my nurves.. i dont > know.. something is very wrong and i lack clarity. > so is this familier to you? what would you suggest? > thanks. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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