Re: Re: my news... and still NC

[Guest guest]

Wow, , that took a great deal of courage to

say n/c to your nada about the birth of your son.

CONGRATULATIONS!!

Greg.

--- sherby2k wrote:

> Hi Grace,

>

> Congrats on the good news!!

>

> We just had our first baby, and I also decided to

> maintain the NC

> boundary with my nada. I struggled with guilt, but

> in the end it was

> so nice to be able to enjoy the new arrival without

> having to worry

> about nada - quite a change from every big event I

> had growing up.

> Instead of it being all about HER, it was all about

> HIM (my little

> one), and that's how it's supposed to be, isn't it?

>

> Congrats!

>

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Wow... I don't check my email for a couple of

> days, and then all of

> > a sudden they pile up! It's been good to see what

> everyone's up

> > to... and I have some news. DH and I are expecting

> baby #2! Yea!

> >

> > I'm still NC... I talked w/ my T about whether or

> not to break the

> > NC to tell nada and dishrag, but both T and DH

> agree that the

> > situation w/ them has NOT changed. Pregnancy or no

> pregnancy, the

> > problems are still there, and as it stands they

> refuse to meet w/

> > us. And I'm not about to lose my mind and go back

> to Oz out of some

> > misplaced obligation. So, that is just kind of

> where I'm at. It's

> > emotional though... any girl will want to share

> this w/ her mom,

> but

> > come on... this is not your typical scenario, and

> I don't even want

> > to think about her being involved at this point. I

> know she would

> > keep seeing us and have us in the background, but

> only to ferry

> kids

> > back and forth... dishrag said to DH that night on

> the phone (two

> > weeks ago) that we should " sit and smile at each

> other and play w/

> > DD " I think they have just written us off, split

> us black, and

> their

> > only possible motivation in ever seeing us would

> be so they can see

> > their grandkid(s). I don't feel like being used

> that way,

> ESPECIALLY

> > because it's opening up my family to further

> attacks and nada's

> > divisive nature and influence.

> >

> > Well, enough venting and thinking it through. Just

> wanted to post

> > about that and keep everyone up to date on what is

> up w/ me and NC.

> >

> > Grace

> >

>

>

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