$ for the work and an argument that blew up out of my dissapointment

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Hi Lamar,

Nice work - seems like you are getting some good practice with

pointing judgements outwards :-)

Good stuff, my experience with the work has been that as I've

continued with it I've noticed these more and more - getting these out

onto paper or typing them, becoming conscious of them, is the first

step to " working " them.

In your second inquiry, it wasn't clear what the belief was that you

were inquiring into - the turnarounds didn't match any of the

statements you made before it. My advice is to try and get clear on

the belief you are inquiring into and stick with that structure for

the turnarounds - otherwise it's a way for the mind to get slippery

and get out of looking at certain things.

Out of all of the statements you've come up with, which are the ones

that feel most true?

I love the one about religious views... have you heard talk

about our beliefs being our religion - that her religion used to be

" My children should pick up her socks " . One of my religions used to

be " My mother should mind her own business " - still comes up from time

to time :-)

Jon

[Guest guest]

I want mom to understand me. Mom should understnad my situation. Mom

doesnt understand me. Mom should understand me.

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(clarify) what would it look like

She would know that I'm not happy here and not feel bad about it.

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TA. I shouldnt feel bad about mom being unhappy

I shouldnt feel bad about mom being unhappy I'm here.

Mom should feel bad about me being unhappy here.

-I feel like thats true because I am happy here so her feeling bad was

telling me its a lie!

Yah, I see what your saying Jon. I guess it doesn't really come

through when I just write it here, but my experience of the last turn

around was I dont want my mom to understand me. I dont want my mom to

be sympathetic. My mom should not be sympathetic.

That was a real mindblower and felt fantastic.