todd should love me

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todd should love me

1, no

2, no i don't know that it would be best for my path if he did.

3, sad, living in the past, afraid that he won't , crying, hurt, a

feeling of lack , like i lost something, like a little girl. i feel

scared of him, i'm tempted not to see him because i think it's gonna

hurt.

i neglect myself, i'm over there in his business and not present for

myself.

i worry, i feel depressed, i miss him, i feel crap.

i get to believe that if he loved me i'd feel better, this pain would

go away, i get to believe that if he takes care of me then i don't

have to do it. i get to be a victim.

i can't find a worse thing that would happen.

4, calmer, feeling the sadness and grief arising, being ok, not

looking to him for anything, holding my own hand and loving yself in

this moment. being present, noticing tears. possibly not crying.

without this thought i would be freer and have no expectations of him.

i would notice the love he does have for me even if it's just

friendship

Todd shouldn't love me

1, no because it's my job to love me and if he loved me what would i

have ?? security until he changed his mind.

2, because it's helping me to step in to these feelings more and to

be with whats arising here in this space

3, because if it means i would be freer in my life for having this

expereince then i wouldn't change it for the world.

4, because if he's happier not being in a relationship with me then i

wouldn't be loving him if i wanted him to be wih me .

T.A i should love him

1, yes truer if i love him then i would be ok ( can't quite manage

happy yet) that he wants to be alone. and I do understand that. I am

happy he's stepped into his power and looking out for himself.

T.A i should love me

1, yep even with all these uncomfortable feelings arising, to be able

to hold myself in that space

2, by not blaming myself for anythng that happened and thinking i did

something wrong,

3, i should give me what i wanted him to which was holding me,

telling me i care and being present with whats arising now.

feedback always welcome and any underlying beliefs or turnarounds