Advice on condoning abuse

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Hi there,

Im lookng for thoughst on this subject again:

I hear the CD's and videos of people doing turnarounds on abuse, and I do them

too, and it does feel good. i feel more clear. I also see that some things that

I thought happened didnt.

I guess my question is this. If reality is perfect as it is, why would I call

the police on a burglar once my stuff is stolen. says " because that is

the way of things " which is an answer I dont quite understand.

As I am thinking of this, I guess sometimes perhpas it could end up being most

loving to share one's experience of " abuse " . Perhaps the abuser might learn

somehting that could help them. In that sense I guess coming from a clear mind I

might just act in love. I also recognize how my thinking they could use help

comes from a belief that they arent perfect as they are.

Hmmm...when I ask, that is true. They are perfect as they are, and Im trying to

help them change, when actually they're perfect.

I guess I am back to wondering why change anything if it is perfect. In the

option method they speak of the idea, that things are perfect even if you dont

like something. In other words, you can have preference, and still be completely

happy.

ie: I prefer to not be being beaten right now, but my unhappiness comes from my

beliefs about an experience, not the actual experience.

So then I might put up my hand to stop it. Or I might report it to them or

someone else or the police. I take an action.

I guess Im trying to resolve the fact that in so many ways I get that my life,

and all reality is perfect up to this point. Its like I can feel that in my

heart often. And then I want to speak of things in the past, and I wonder why.

Why did call the police for that burglar?

Any thoughts?

Thanks!

Jon