What if it is hard to imagine yourself not believing a thought?

[Guest guest]

Hi

Something came up for me to do the work on that happened when I was 6 (43

years ago). I have done some therapy on it in the past and thought it has

been worked through. Apparently not.

Without going into details, what do you do if you find it almost impossible

to imagine yourself without the thought yu are believing in? I was back to

being 6 and at the scene and for a long time could not get myself to imagine

what I would be there, on the scene, without the thought. Should I come back

to today and imagine it? There is a lot of guilt associated with the

incident, even though I can totally see with my rational thoughts I could do

nothing to help.

I still get tearful about it. I think there are so many beliefs I have today

coming from that one incident that I would really like to be free of it.

Any suggestions?

Thanks

Hanle

[Guest guest]

Hi Hanle,

My suggestion is not to try and force it - without knowing the thought

you are working on, it's tricky to go further than that - I notice if

I try to imagine it too hard it doesn't work, that being softer with

it works better, even if I can lift it 10%.

It will work in it's own time and not before - the belief that you

want to be free of it, for example, could be inquired into.

And, of course, just keep going with the process to the turnarounds -

sometimes I find they bring new insights for question 4.

If you feel able to, why not post the inquiry here for feedback? And

if you don't feel able, or it feels stressful, maybe check out what

you make up will happen if you post it here.

With love,

Jon

>

> Hi

> Something came up for me to do the work on that happened when I was

6 (43

> years ago). I have done some therapy on it in the past and thought

it has

> been worked through. Apparently not.

>

> Without going into details, what do you do if you find it almost

impossible

> to imagine yourself without the thought yu are believing in? I was

back to

> being 6 and at the scene and for a long time could not get myself to

imagine

> what I would be there, on the scene, without the thought. Should I

come back

> to today and imagine it? There is a lot of guilt associated with the

> incident, even though I can totally see with my rational thoughts I

could do

> nothing to help.

>

> I still get tearful about it. I think there are so many beliefs I

have today

> coming from that one incident that I would really like to be free of it.

>

> Any suggestions?

> Thanks

> Hanle

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Hanle,

Another suggestion, again not sure how applicable this is to your

belief, find the concept behind it and imagine your life without the

concept - e.g. he shouldn't talk so much - who would I be without the

concept of 'talking too much' in my life - or even 'too much'.

I sometimes find this makes it less personal and helps to 'dislodge'

the belief a little.

With love,

Jon

>

> Hi Hanle,

>

> My suggestion is not to try and force it - without knowing the thought

> you are working on, it's tricky to go further than that - I notice if

> I try to imagine it too hard it doesn't work, that being softer with

> it works better, even if I can lift it 10%.

>

> It will work in it's own time and not before - the belief that you

> want to be free of it, for example, could be inquired into.

>

> And, of course, just keep going with the process to the turnarounds -

> sometimes I find they bring new insights for question 4.

>

> If you feel able to, why not post the inquiry here for feedback? And

> if you don't feel able, or it feels stressful, maybe check out what

> you make up will happen if you post it here.

>

> With love,

>

> Jon

>

> >

> > Hi

> > Something came up for me to do the work on that happened when I was

> 6 (43

> > years ago). I have done some therapy on it in the past and thought

> it has

> > been worked through. Apparently not.

> >

> > Without going into details, what do you do if you find it almost

> impossible

> > to imagine yourself without the thought yu are believing in? I was

> back to

> > being 6 and at the scene and for a long time could not get myself to

> imagine

> > what I would be there, on the scene, without the thought. Should I

> come back

> > to today and imagine it? There is a lot of guilt associated with the

> > incident, even though I can totally see with my rational thoughts I

> could do

> > nothing to help.

> >

> > I still get tearful about it. I think there are so many beliefs I

> have today

> > coming from that one incident that I would really like to be free

of it.

> >

> > Any suggestions?

> > Thanks

> > Hanle

> >

>