Can you help me find some turn arounds?

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Hi. I've been reading the board for about a month (about as long as

I've been doing the work) and I wrote out some of my inquiries. I had

a little bit of a problem finding T.A.s on these so I was hoping you

could help.

Heres the initial thoughts:

I should have gone to the movie with my mom

I missed out on a good oppurtunity to bond with my mom.

I should have gone to the movie with my mom

is it true - i think so

can I absolutely know that it is true? No

Whats the effect of thinking I should have gone to the movie with her?

I feel sick inside, I feel sad I didnt go. I tell myself that I wanted

to see the movie and because I didnt go I made a mistake. I feel

stupid and small. I want to make it up to my mom. I think of what my

mom thinks about me not going. I try and guess her mind.

Can I imagine what or who I would be if I could not think that I

should have gone to the movie with her? I would just love that she

went to a movie that I thought looked good. I would want to talk to

her about it.

The only turn around I could find was

I should not have gone to the movie with my mom.

It IS what happened so in that sense its true, but it doesnt really do

it for me. When I think I SHOULD NOT have gone to the movie with my

mom and that is what happened, it feels like a nice breath of fresh air.

I missed a good oppurtunity to bond w/ my mom.

Is it true?

Can I absolutely know its true? no. How can I really " miss " anything.

And I cant know that it would have been good at all.

So whats the effect of believing this thought?

I feel like I'm missing something. That I need to repair my

relationship with her. I beat myself up by feeling like I failed

something important. I think that Ill never get it. I try hard to make

up for it and always fail. I try and be the loving person and I feel

kinda fake for it.

Can you see who you'd be without the thought I missed a good

oppurtunity to bond with her?

It would be such a load off my back. Just peace with it.

T.A.

I gained a good oppurtunity to bond with my mom

I didn't miss an oppurtunity to bond with my mom

neither of these really seem to " fit "

I guess I'm just not quite sure how to do the turnarounds with these

sorts of statements.

ALso, if anyone is interested in doing some Inquiry together, I am

interested. So write me and maybe we can do it over email or something.

Lamar