Guest guest Posted November 24, 2008 Report Share Posted November 24, 2008 None of the above, just post when I am interested. I see it is important to you that other people behave the way you do :-) Posting to this group > So, just sitting here, thinking about posting to this group - what is > it that stops you, holds you back or worries you about posting to > this group? > > These are probably things that can be inquired into - can be, don't > have to be. > > Here's some possible beliefs I can think of: > > I'll get it wrong > They won't like me > They'll just tell me to do the work :-) > I'm new (and I know less than the others here) > I don't want to show that I'm a " bad person " > I shouldn't post so much > The work is for losers > I don't want the group to know this about me > I don't want a specific person in the group to know this about me > They'll use it against me > > What about you, any beliefs / thoughts that come up? > > Jon > > > ------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2008 Report Share Posted November 24, 2008 Hi Hanle, I can certainly feel that way at times with people, wanting other people to behave the way I think they should, which is when it feels stressful. That's when I (sometimes) inquire. And it doesn't feel that way about the group and members at this moment - just sharing some beliefs that have come up for me or can - they may ring true with others, may spark others, whatever - that's none of my business. Even just typing the posting I was surprised with some of the beliefs that came up that can feel true for me at times. Another one I would add is " I don't know enough " . There are no new thoughts. Much love and thanks, Jon > > None of the above, just post when I am interested. I see it is important to > you that other people behave the way you do :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2008 Report Share Posted November 24, 2008 Sometimes it seems almost impossible to do the work. When I first started doing it, I loved it, I loved the changes in perseption, I loved the turn arounds, I loved the clarity it brought. Now it seems as if I tend to get stuck early on. Sometimes it is just so hard to look at myself that honestly, it is almost painful. Giving up my judgements?!!! Yikes, just pull the rug right out from under my feet and flip the world upside down. It is late tonight, I will try posting one tomorrow. I'm pretty sure I can get some useful feedback. Lauri > > Another thought Leanna - are you using the Judge-Your-Neighbour > worksheets? If not, they are a useful way to uncover judgements about > others - start with your mother, father, friends, partner(s), > children, whoever comes to mind and see what you write. > > If you don't have it, it is available on the work website as a download: > > http://thework.com/thework.asp > > You'll find it under 'Downloads' on the left of the page, about a > third of the way down. There's also a download called " Universal > Beliefs " which is useful - just a list of beliefs that most people > have at one time or another. > > Jon > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2008 Report Share Posted November 25, 2008 Cool stuff Lauri - and thanks for sharing this piece on giving up our judgements - you've reminded me that we don't have to give them up if we don't want to, simply that the work allows us to take a peek at what life might look like if we didn't believe our thoughts. It's certainly a fear I can feel about doing the work. With thanks, Jon > > Sometimes it seems almost impossible to do the work. > When I first started doing it, I loved it, I loved the changes in > perseption, I loved the turn arounds, I loved the clarity it brought. > > Now it seems as if I tend to get stuck early on. Sometimes it is just > so hard to look at myself that honestly, it is almost painful. > > Giving up my judgements?!!! Yikes, just pull the rug right out from > under my feet and flip the world upside down. > > It is late tonight, I will try posting one tomorrow. I'm pretty sure I > can get some useful feedback. > > Lauri > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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