Re: Posting to this group (leanna)

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I keep thinking that I don’t deserve to do the work. Or that I won’t do it

right. I keep wanting to just do it on myself and not on the people in my

life. When I try to do it on myself it just does not work right. I keep

thinking that yall wont really want to help. That I will be judged, knowing

full well in my heart no one judges me as bad as I do. I really need to get

started on this. I tried to take my life yet again last week………..lol…..can’t

get that right either. Leanna

From: Loving-what-is [mailto:Loving-what-is ]

On Behalf Of Jon

Sent: Monday, November 24, 2008 7:16 AM

To: Loving-what-is

Subject: Posting to this group

So, just sitting here, thinking about posting to this group - what is

it that stops you, holds you back or worries you about posting to

this group?

These are probably things that can be inquired into - can be, don't

have to be.

Here's some possible beliefs I can think of:

I'll get it wrong

They won't like me

They'll just tell me to do the work :-)

I'm new (and I know less than the others here)

I don't want to show that I'm a " bad person "

I shouldn't post so much

The work is for losers

I don't want the group to know this about me

I don't want a specific person in the group to know this about me

They'll use it against me

What about you, any beliefs / thoughts that come up?

Jon

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10:59 AM

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I suggest you go ahead and focus on others. Trust me, it will turn out to be

about you in any case.

Vivian

Posting to this group

So, just sitting here, thinking about posting to this group - what is

it that stops you, holds you back or worries you about posting to

this group?

These are probably things that can be inquired into - can be, don't

have to be.

Here's some possible beliefs I can think of:

I'll get it wrong

They won't like me

They'll just tell me to do the work :-)

I'm new (and I know less than the others here)

I don't want to show that I'm a " bad person "

I shouldn't post so much

The work is for losers

I don't want the group to know this about me

I don't want a specific person in the group to know this about me

They'll use it against me

What about you, any beliefs / thoughts that come up?

Jon

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10:59 AM

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Who do I start with……..past or present?

From: Loving-what-is [mailto:Loving-what-is ]

On Behalf Of Vivian Barning

Sent: Monday, November 24, 2008 11:54 PM

To: Loving-what-is

Subject: Re: Posting to this group (leanna)

I suggest you go ahead and focus on others. Trust me, it will turn out to be

about you in any case.

Vivian

Posting to this group

So, just sitting here, thinking about posting to this group - what is

it that stops you, holds you back or worries you about posting to

this group?

These are probably things that can be inquired into - can be, don't

have to be.

Here's some possible beliefs I can think of:

I'll get it wrong

They won't like me

They'll just tell me to do the work :-)

I'm new (and I know less than the others here)

I don't want to show that I'm a " bad person "

I shouldn't post so much

The work is for losers

I don't want the group to know this about me

I don't want a specific person in the group to know this about me

They'll use it against me

What about you, any beliefs / thoughts that come up?

Jon

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10:59 AM

[Guest guest]

Hi Leanna,

Start with anyone, including yourself If that's where you are, go

with that. As you continue, you'll see that your focus moves to

others as well.

And if you've got judgements about others from the past or present, go

with that as well.

And I hear that it doesn't seem to work right when you do it on

yourself. That you believe you can't get anything right.

Then you believe that:

- They won't really want to help

- They will judge me

Perhaps you could inquire into these, or if you do feel like sharing

an inquiry, also share that you're feeling this way about sharing it

with the group.

Much love and thanks for sharing how you are feeling.

Jon

[Guest guest]

Another thought Leanna - are you using the Judge-Your-Neighbour

worksheets? If not, they are a useful way to uncover judgements about

others - start with your mother, father, friends, partner(s),

children, whoever comes to mind and see what you write.

If you don't have it, it is available on the work website as a download:

http://thework.com/thework.asp

You'll find it under 'Downloads' on the left of the page, about a

third of the way down. There's also a download called " Universal

Beliefs " which is useful - just a list of beliefs that most people

have at one time or another.

Jon