Guest guest Posted July 13, 2004 Report Share Posted July 13, 2004 I don't tend to have too much problems in these sort of areas of frustration. This is thanks to my excellent Executive Dysfunction talents. When such a situation confronts me, my mental OS crashes and automatically restarts in safety mode. Complex tasks are automatically removed to the bottom of the list so that I can function. This method works very well until someone decides to take me to court for my negligence. Anas Where dysfunctions compliment dysfunctions for the sake of intermittent harmony > Had an insight that belongs with my last post on this > topic: The reason why dealing with the insurance stuff > puts me into frustration slough so quickly is that it > is the opposite of " the way humans should communicate > with one another. " It is complicated and opaque (too > much hidden " between the lines " or in " sub-text " where > it is inivisible to me), contains too much rote > " emotion " (on their part: caring and concern, which > is not matched by the clarity and straightforwardness > that would be real compassion), and reminds me too > forcefully of what a " game " insurance is. > > In other words, it's a concentrated dose of NT-world > aspects that I find irritating in the extreme and for > which I have a very low tolerance. > > Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2008 Report Share Posted October 6, 2008 i have lots of emotional issues regarding loneliness and my 'special' and 'unsocial' life. everytime i do the work on a statement.. it basically shows me im wrong.. and that everything is fine the way it is. and then nothing changes.. and soon enough the same thoughts and desperation returns. im doing the work over and over on the same thoughts. and again and again it shows me there's no real problem to solve, and that it is only a state of mind.. which i understand at the time. what do i need to change? -my financial state. -my social life.. or more accurate the lack of. -the fact that im 24-7 hours a day infront of the computer, that is where i feel the safest. -the fact that im afraid of people and girls -the fact that i can never afford myself to travel or do fun stuff. it says.. dont change your life, change your mind. and i do investigations over and over.. and its a pit with no end. and at the end of all comes the despare, where ironically this is where the suffering ends. this is where i no longer care, and im done with it all.. and then i discover silence in it, and great power.. i no longer care.. and im free. but until i get to that point of desperation there is great suffering, and i lose that desperation point very quickly. i wish i could stay there. anyway thats it .. needed to share. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2008 Report Share Posted October 7, 2008 Act on, for example, not seeing every attractive woman as a sex object. Act on every pleasant conversation not leading directly to someone becoming your girlfriend. Vivian frustration > > > i have lots of emotional issues regarding loneliness and my 'special' > and 'unsocial' life. > everytime i do the work on a statement.. it basically shows me im > wrong.. and that everything is fine the way it is. > and then nothing changes.. and soon enough the same thoughts and > desperation returns. > im doing the work over and over on the same thoughts. > and again and again it shows me there's no real problem to solve, and > that it is only a state of mind.. which i understand at the time. > what do i need to change? > -my financial state. > -my social life.. or more accurate the lack of. > -the fact that im 24-7 hours a day infront of the computer, that is > where i feel the safest. > -the fact that im afraid of people and girls > -the fact that i can never afford myself to travel or do fun stuff. > > it says.. dont change your life, change your mind. > and i do investigations over and over.. and its a pit with no end. > and at the end of all comes the despare, where ironically this is > where the suffering ends. > this is where i no longer care, and im done with it all.. and then i > discover silence in it, and great power.. i no longer care.. and im free. > but until i get to that point of desperation there is great suffering, > and i lose that desperation point very quickly. i wish i could stay there. > anyway thats it .. needed to share. > > > > > > > ---------------------------------------------------------- > > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com > Version: 8.0.173 / Virus Database: 270.7.6/1711 - Release Date: 10/6/2008 5:37 PM > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2008 Report Share Posted October 7, 2008 > > Act on, for example, not seeing every attractive woman as a sex >object. Act on every pleasant conversation not leading directly to >someone becoming your girlfriend. so by " act " you mean " not seeing this and this.. as that and that.. " that is some action! i wish i could actually act this. but i dont control the way i view them (yet).. it's just the way i view them.. and believe me im going though incredible links in order to change the way i view them. there's nothing i want more than to feel as ease next to them. and just for clarification, i dont view girls as sex objects at all, thats not it.. > > Vivian > frustration > > > > > > i have lots of emotional issues regarding loneliness and my 'special' > > and 'unsocial' life. > > everytime i do the work on a statement.. it basically shows me im > > wrong.. and that everything is fine the way it is. > > and then nothing changes.. and soon enough the same thoughts and > > desperation returns. > > im doing the work over and over on the same thoughts. > > and again and again it shows me there's no real problem to solve, and > > that it is only a state of mind.. which i understand at the time. > > what do i need to change? > > -my financial state. > > -my social life.. or more accurate the lack of. > > -the fact that im 24-7 hours a day infront of the computer, that is > > where i feel the safest. > > -the fact that im afraid of people and girls > > -the fact that i can never afford myself to travel or do fun stuff. > > > > it says.. dont change your life, change your mind. > > and i do investigations over and over.. and its a pit with no end. > > and at the end of all comes the despare, where ironically this is > > where the suffering ends. > > this is where i no longer care, and im done with it all.. and then i > > discover silence in it, and great power.. i no longer care.. and > im free. > > but until i get to that point of desperation there is great suffering, > > and i lose that desperation point very quickly. i wish i could > stay there. > > anyway thats it .. needed to share. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ---------------------------------------------------------- > > > > > > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > > Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com > > Version: 8.0.173 / Virus Database: 270.7.6/1711 - Release Date: > 10/6/2008 5:37 PM > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2008 Report Share Posted October 7, 2008 Facy I hear your frustration and i know it well and all I can say is that learning to love yourself where your at is what is working for me. I am learning to honor myself right here, right now where i am even when i think i;m fucked up. having compassion for that part of myself that is a scared little child. You mention trying to get rid of it/ these thoughts/ these behaviours, and if you are using The Work in this way from my experience it won't work. Learning to love those parts of us and having compasion and being alright with whatever is arising whther that is hurt or pain is what is helping me right now. I am also attending al-anon which is for people who have had alcohol affect their lives, although my father wasn't an alcoholic he had the mood swings of one and this has left me kinda co-dependent. I recently found this out that I have co-dependency issues and now I am working the 12 step programme and feeling alot better for it. I am learning to feel all the feelings i thought having a relationship would get rid of. and so i got to see my thoughts were just trying to protect me and how can i be angry at a 5 year old child who know's no better. another suggestion could be to do some inner child work. I love The Work and it works hand in hand with the 12 steps and inner child work.. hope that helps pipxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 8, 2008 Report Share Posted October 8, 2008 I also felt you see women as sex objects. I think its an engram.. that causes you to react Engrams can act like hypnotic suggestions. - I know it isnt work related.. but its described in dianetics.. which isnt easy to read. but there is a video that is much easier to understnad. rh -- In Loving-what-is , " facy102 " wrote: > > > > > > Act on, for example, not seeing every attractive woman as a sex > >object. Act on every pleasant conversation not leading directly to > >someone becoming your girlfriend. > > > so by " act " you mean " not seeing this and this.. as that and that.. " > that is some action! i wish i could actually act this. > but i dont control the way i view them (yet).. it's just the way i > view them.. and believe me im going though incredible links in order > to change the way i view them. > there's nothing i want more than to feel as ease next to them. > and just for clarification, i dont view girls as sex objects at all, > thats not it.. > > > > > > Vivian > > frustration > > > > > > > > > i have lots of emotional issues regarding loneliness and my > 'special' > > > and 'unsocial' life. > > > everytime i do the work on a statement.. it basically shows me im > > > wrong.. and that everything is fine the way it is. > > > and then nothing changes.. and soon enough the same thoughts and > > > desperation returns. > > > im doing the work over and over on the same thoughts. > > > and again and again it shows me there's no real problem to > solve, and > > > that it is only a state of mind.. which i understand at the time. > > > what do i need to change? > > > -my financial state. > > > -my social life.. or more accurate the lack of. > > > -the fact that im 24-7 hours a day infront of the computer, that is > > > where i feel the safest. > > > -the fact that im afraid of people and girls > > > -the fact that i can never afford myself to travel or do fun stuff. > > > > > > it says.. dont change your life, change your mind. > > > and i do investigations over and over.. and its a pit with no end. > > > and at the end of all comes the despare, where ironically this is > > > where the suffering ends. > > > this is where i no longer care, and im done with it all.. and then i > > > discover silence in it, and great power.. i no longer care.. and > > im free. > > > but until i get to that point of desperation there is great > suffering, > > > and i lose that desperation point very quickly. i wish i could > > stay there. > > > anyway thats it .. needed to share. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ---------------------------------------------------------- > > > > > > > > > > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > > > Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com > > > Version: 8.0.173 / Virus Database: 270.7.6/1711 - Release Date: > > 10/6/2008 5:37 PM > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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