When gets mad at me, he should apologize right away.

February 24, 2008

1) Is it true?

Yes

-What's the reality of it?

He doesn't.

-Whose business is it?

His.

2) Can you absolutely know it's true?

No.

-And it means that...

He doesn't respect me, doesn't love me, isn't playing by the rules,

isn't trying as hard as I am, is being lazy and selfish.

-What do you think you would have?

I would have respect and love in my home.

-What's the worst that could happen?

He could make me upset, like I am now. Ha!

3) How do you react when you think that thought?

I become offended when he doesn't. I stop being kind to him... I ignore

him. There is a fire in my chest and stomach. I feel indignant. How dare

he! I wait and wait for him to apologize, and am incensed when he

doesn't. I tell myself that I am innocent and have been wronged.

4) Who would you be without that thought?

I wouldn't be in his business. I would see him as someone on his path,

living out his stories / beliefs / projections... it has nothing to do

with me. (Especially when there is no 'me'... ha)! I would be kind and

loving to him... which, ironically, is what I want from him.

Turnaround

When I have mad thoughts, I should apologize to right away.

Ouch... that's a hard one to swallow. But very true. I mean, I'm

expecting that he always have his angry feelings extinguish right away?

Or to apologize while he's still feeling angry? How insane is that?

When I get mad, I should apologize right away. Yeah... if I expect

others to do that, I should do the same.

When I get mad, my thinking should apologize right away to my thinking.

I am willing to/ I look forward to getting mad, and not

apologizing right away.

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