Re: Suicide was I'm Having a Very Difficult Time

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Hi All,

Well said Kathy.

I would also like to add my two pennyworth.

However bad a situation is, if you really look hard enough I can absolutely guarantee 100% that you can find something to be happy about.

Now that is only the start because the best medicine in the world is the body functions you gain from feeling happy. OK so it takes a little effort to find a happiness slot, but once you have found one the next one gets easier to find and lasts longer and before long you find you are enjoying life again.

Remember it just takes one little happiness slot to get you started.

Give it a go there is nothing to lose.

Larry

From a website with words that might help.When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are theresult. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect ofcharacter; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of painversus coping resources.You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1)find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase yourcoping resources. Both are possible.Now I want to tell you five things to think about.1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feelas badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very goodchance that you are going to live. I hope that this information givesyou some sense of hope.2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hoursbefore I do anything.†Or a week. Remember that feelings and actionsare two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself,doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put somedistance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even ifit’s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just byreading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing toread this page. Keep going, and realise that while you still feelsuicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is veryencouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain.Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it.You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either becausethey are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your paininstead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doingthoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions areabout their fears, not about you.Please go to the website to read more:http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/> --- I'm Having a Very Difficult Time> > Date: Sun, September 17, 2006 5:14 pm> To: ProstateCancerSupport > > > > > > > When I joined the group a week or aso ago I mentioned that I had> recently been diagnosed and that my wife of nearly 38 years had left> me. I am having a horrible time going through this so far by myself,> and it's only going to get worse. I am very despondent and don't know> what to do. I now realize why some people take their own life.> > There are just two rules for this group 1 No Spam 2 Be kind to othersPlease recognise that Prostate Cancerhas different guises and needs different levels of treatment and in some cases no treatment at all. Some men even with all options offered chose radical options that you would not choose. We only ask that people be informed before choice is made, we cannot and should not tell other members what to do, other than look at other options. Try to delete old material that is no longer applying when clicking replyTry to change the title if the content requires it

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> Hi All,

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> I would also like to add my two pennyworth.

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> However bad a situation is, if you really look hard enough I can

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> guarantee 100% that you can find something to be happy about.

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> Give it a go there is nothing to lose.

Hello--

Sometimes people in this mood are so blinded by a " grey fog " that

they can't even find any little-bitty thing to be happy about.

I must say that in this case you don't have to look too far. It

makes me feel good just going through these posts. It's obvious

that people have spent a lot of time preparing such thoughtful,

sensitive responses (e.g. Kathy, Terry, et al).

And BTW there is a lot of good advice out there for everybody not

just the depressed.

Leah

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> > Date: Sun, September 17, 2006 5:14 pm

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> > When I joined the group a week or aso ago I mentioned that I had

> > recently been diagnosed and that my wife of nearly 38 years

had left

> > me. I am having a horrible time going through this so far by

myself,

> > and it's only going to get worse. I am very despondent and

don't know

> > what to do. I now realize why some people take their own life.

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> There are just two rules for this group

> 1 No Spam

> 2 Be kind to others

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> Please recognise that Prostate Cancerhas different guises and

needs

> different levels of treatment and in some cases no treatment at

all. Some men even

> with all options offered chose radical options that you would not

choose. We

> only ask that people be informed before choice is made, we cannot

and should

> not tell other members what to do, other than look at other

options.

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> Try to delete old material that is no longer applying when

clicking reply

> Try to change the title if the content requires it

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