Guest guest Posted December 5, 2008 Report Share Posted December 5, 2008 Hi , What do you mean by listen better? There's always a temptation to refer people to the work whenever something like this is posted. More practically, what is it you're wanting to do better / what is the situation you're looking to improve your listening skill in? With thanks, Jon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2008 Report Share Posted December 5, 2008 , I've uploaded a file called " Work With A Partner " to the files section, under Byron material - you'll find it in here: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Loving-what-is/files/%2A%20BYRON%20KATIE%20\ MATERIAL%20%2A/ It's an exercise that two people can use to hear each other's thoughts and beliefs, and also go through the work with each other. Of course, this may not be appropriate for what you are looking at, but it does contain some ideas/thoughts on receiving feedback from others, which may be what you are looking for. Even to just have someone else fill in a JYN worksheet about you, what they want from you and go away with it to sit with it. Another thing I'll add is that I do seem to be able to listen better the more I do the work as I'm not using as much energy trying to defend myself (it's all relative to how I used to be of course), so there's more available for receiving. With thanks, Jon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2008 Report Share Posted December 5, 2008 You could referr me to the work and it is not really what im looking for. Its not that i should listen better, but I would like to develop deep listening skills or heart listening or the ability to listen without feel in the need to comment. I practice the work and am asking here as there are many people online that may have books or teachers that they can rec from their experience. thanks jon > > Hi , > > What do you mean by listen better? There's always a temptation to > refer people to the work whenever something like this is posted. > > More practically, what is it you're wanting to do better / what is the > situation you're looking to improve your listening skill in? > > With thanks, > > Jon > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2008 Report Share Posted December 5, 2008 Jon, thank you, some of the stuff is helpfull martin > > , > > I've uploaded a file called " Work With A Partner " to the files > section, under Byron material - you'll find it in here: > > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Loving-what- is/files/%2A%20BYRON%20KATIE%20MATERIAL%20%2A/ > > It's an exercise that two people can use to hear each other's thoughts > and beliefs, and also go through the work with each other. > > Of course, this may not be appropriate for what you are looking at, > but it does contain some ideas/thoughts on receiving feedback from > others, which may be what you are looking for. > > Even to just have someone else fill in a JYN worksheet about you, what > they want from you and go away with it to sit with it. > > Another thing I'll add is that I do seem to be able to listen better > the more I do the work as I'm not using as much energy trying to > defend myself (it's all relative to how I used to be of course), so > there's more available for receiving. > > With thanks, > > Jon > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2008 Report Share Posted December 5, 2008 Cool stuff , I'll have a think about what I've seen and see if there's anything there. I know you say you're not looking to use the work and I can understand that - what does come to mind is exploring your motives when listening, for example feeling the need to comment or say something in reply, or even maybe feeling that you need to help or something like that (a thought comes up for me here - " just listening is not enough " ). So having thought about it, I remember there is something in " I need your love " - a listening exercise, going for a meal with friends and simply listening, keeping conversation about ourself to a bare minimum. There may be more in there. Thanks, Jon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2008 Report Share Posted December 6, 2008 , A few years ago I trained as a life coach and listening skills were included as part of the training program. There is also a book that covers the basic elements. It is aimed at life coaches or prospective life coaches, however you may find the section on listening useful. Essentially, part of the process is noticing which " level " of listening we are in at any point - internal voice (level 1), the other person (level 2) or 'global' (level 3). I don't use it anymore, but you may find something useful in there. The book is here: http://www.amazon.com/Co-Active-Coaching-2nd-Skills-Success/dp/0891061983/ref=pd\ _bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8 & s=books & qid=1228555246 & sr=8-1 Although I wouldn't recommend buying it just for the listening stuff - maybe see if a local library has a copy available. Jon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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