Re: Help - Advice

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Hi Diane,

Situations like this are always difficult. However, maybe you forgot one other

solution!! You and hubby go to your sisters as planned for Thanksgiving. Then

when you are done there, stop in to 's and see his kids, have some dessert

and coffee. This is over and above what you should do being that you gave up

Thanksgiving with your sister last year, last minute, for them. Offer this to

them and if it's not acceptable or good enough, then shame on them for being so

ungrateful on the day that they should be most thankful. Not your fault or

Dean's. Their problem now, you did all you could do.

Just my opinion.

Hugs and good luck!

~Tommie

Help - Advice

Hi everyone

I'm doing pretty good. Haven't been on for a while because my leg

has really been bothering me, so I've spent a lot of time in bed

sleeping and reading.

I need some advice. Dean and I are suppose to go to my sisters

house for Thanksgiving this year. He said yes, but now he's found

out that all of his kids are going to their aunt's house - his ex-

wife's sister. His oldest daughter (the daughter from hell)stopped

this weekend and wanted to know why he couldn't go to 's house

for Thanksgiving? He told her that we were going to " Diane's

sister's house this year " . Her comment (with me in the room)

was " Well why do you have to go? Your not family? You should be

with your kids on the holidays " . Dean's reply was " It's our turn to

go to Diane's side of the family " . She still couldn't figure out

why her dad had to go with me? She's 30 yrs old. Two days later

Dean's other daughter stopped to have her dad put oil in her car for

her. She was telling her Dad about who all was going to be at

's for Thanksgiving. She also asked him if he (not we) was

going up to 's for dinner. He told her that we already had

made plans and that hadn't called and invited him. She went

on to say that she didn't think that would mind if he came for

Thanksgiving.

The problem I have is last year we were going to go to my sister's

until his oldest daughter called 2 days before thanksgiving and said

that we're stopping over to see you about 1:00 on Thanksgiving. He

told her that we weren't going to be around and she told him that

she had called everybody and they were all meeting there at 1:00.

So I called my sister and told her that we wouldn't be able to make

it. I cooked a Thanksgiving dinner with all the trimmings for Deans

5 kids and their spouses and grandkids plus my 4 kids.

I don't feel like giving up going to my Family's Thanksgiving just

because his kids want him to go with them to their Aunt's house.

Hence my dilema. I have two possible soloutions to the problem, but

neither one will make anyone happy.

1. Have Dean go with me to my side like we had planned and tell his

kids " Oh well. "

2. Have Dean go to his ex sister in laws by himself and I'll go to

my sisters by myself.

Either soloution people will be hurt by it.

Help

Hugs

Diane - Minnesota