My 26 year old son should be working and taking his responsibility.

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Dear Group Owner,

Thankyou for this opportunity.

I am confused on how to adress this issue.

My 26 year old son is not earning a steady income. After completing his

graduation , rather than going in for further studies, he took up a job in a

small paying firm. Fine. After a year and a half he left it saying that he

wanted to become a writer. He asked us for a year to prove his writing skills. A

year passed during which he opened up a blog after doing research on blogging

and then towards the end of the 1st year after the blog didn't take off he said

I need some more time to make things work. I pressured him to take up a proper

writing course or journalism or mass communications course, but he insisted that

would affect his original style of writing.According to him, he didnt want to do

a course because he says that Writers don't go to colleges to learn writing or

they'll all be stereotyped. None of the great writers went to college and learnt

how to write.(He is staying at home with us. We are paying for his expenses and

we are ready to fund his studies).

The second year is ending since he left his job. He's just written stories and

hasn't shown them to the publisher .We have friends who are willing to help him

in showcasing his work.

Now he's working on a site saying he'll make it big there.He wants another 2

years for that.

My son's routine is irregular. He's working on a Western site where his clients

are available in our night time. We are in India. So he is on the net most of

the night and refuses to take up a regular job or study ahead.

My husband and I are worried sick. My husband needs to change his job but can't

because my son & daughter aren't settled as yet and he's the only earning member

in our family.

My question is where do I draw the line with our son.

I get confused as to am I being an unfair mom in not giving our son a fair

chance.

What about our own assertiveness. Where do I put my foot down and what am I to

do in this situation.My son is loving, caring , compassionate and understanding

by nature.

How do I frame my questions for this all to reach somewhere.

Thankyou for your patient reading.

If I am in the wrong place could you please guide me to someone who could help

me as a volunteer to do the Work on this one. I believe in the efficacy of the

Work. It has helped me a great deal.

I am stuck on this.Where does my boundary begin? The boundary that is being

affected by my son.

Thankyou again,

Anamika.