Re: don't read if you're already depressed

[Guest guest]

My 3 brothers, 1 sister and I, ranging in ages 45 to 60 have always

tried to honor our Mom by trying to not let this disease ruin our

relationship. Our brother is an alcoholic and has always caused strife

in the family. Things got worse when our Dad died 15 years ago, and Mom

tried to hide financial help ( in the 10's of thousands of dollars) to

him and many other things from us. Her main concern was that we all get

along, even though she did put a clause in her will that the money she

gave him would be subtacted from his inheritance, at the time of her

death. He has not been involved in her care, problems or decisions in

the 10 years since her first hospitalization and subsequent Nursing

Home placement last summer, but we do speak to him and keep him

updated. Her money is now depleted and there will no inheritance for

the rest of us. We just sold Mom's house for a small price just to get

rid of it, and since he was on the title, he got a share. He happily

took the check and we all giggled inside. Afterward, I told the rest

of my siblings that it's a miracle we all still love each other, and

that I'm proud of us. Mom would be happy, and I guess that's all that

matters.Best wishes. Elaine from Michigan