Re: music

[Guest guest]

I think it's possible but for me there is specific music I like and

others I don't I did grow up playing the piano, flute and singing in

the choir. I DO get songs stuck in my head. I also will listen to

the same song over and over (on headphones) for hours.

But from what I've learned this COULD be an autism thing also.

Leigh

> I have a question for the aspies on the list. Does music bother you? My

> husband gets really upset with me if he catches me listening to music. He

> doesnt like any kind of music at all and I was just curious if this was an

> individual quirk of his or if it has a basis in his autism? He tells me he

> doesnt like music because he is afraid that he will get the lyrics stuck in

> his head and they will drive him crazy repeating in his head but he also

> gets really mad if I am listening to instrumentals. Asking him doesnt always

> get me the info I need as sometimes he cant figure out either what to say to

> explain it to me or he doesnt honestly get it himself, so I thought I might

> ask here.

>

>

>

> Breezy

>

> Life is too short to wake up with regrets.

> So love the people who treat you right.

> Forget about those who dont.

> Believe everything happens for a reason.

> If you get a chance, take it.

> If it changes your life, let it.

> Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be

> worth it

>

>

>

>

> Subject: Choosing Civility

> To: aspires-relationships

> Date: Tuesday, June 17, 2008, 8:08 PM

>

> I listened to this today on NPR. It was very interesting. Diane Rehms

> interviews P M Formi, a Professor at s Hopkins University who is working

> on a Civility Project. Has written two books...Choosing civility and The

> Civility Solution. He defines Civility as the lack of Rudeness. I would

> appreciate any of you to listen to this and tell me what you think. He

> stresses Civility, manners, as important in relationships, trying to help

> control violence, and overall for health. But his definitions were very

> interesting. There is much here that can relate to many of our discussions

> in this group...

>

> I think that both NT and AS will find this enlightening.

>

>

> http://wamu. org/audio/ dr/08/06/ r2080617- 20528.ram

>

> You may need to use real time audio or some media player to make it work.

> We can just clik on the link.

>

>

>

> Sandy

>

>

[Guest guest]

Music or any sound bothers me if it is too loud and sustained but music in and of its self is fine. I love to sing and would like to learn to play a harp someday. Also if music is too clattery, like if it has lots of clanging or a very jerky beat to it my head starts to feel weird... even if it's not loud. Also often people automatically listen to music loud so possibly your husband has never had the opportunity to listen to quiet music. sometimes my ears become sensitive and I have to turn the music way down to the extent that others cannot hear it at all but I can still hear it fine.

My dad (presumed AS) is pretty picky about the type of music. It has to be very simple and straightforward. Like just singing of the melody line, or just playing straightforward melody no elaboration at all.

My nephew (definitely AS) had difficulty with singing in church, figuring out and understanding what people were singing, why they were singing, etc. Once his mom showed him how the music book worked and was structured he has been fine with it as far as I know.

Jennie AS

Choosing CivilityTo: aspires-relationships Date: Tuesday, June 17, 2008, 8:08 PM

I listened to this today on NPR. It was very interesting. Diane Rehms interviews P M Formi, a Professor at s Hopkins University who is working on a Civility Project. Has written two books...Choosing civility and The Civility Solution. He defines Civility as the lack of Rudeness. I would appreciate any of you to listen to this and tell me what you think. He stresses Civility, manners, as important in relationships, trying to help control violence, and overall for health. But his definitions were very interesting. There is much here that can relate to many of our discussions in this group...

I think that both NT and AS will find this enlightening.

http://wamu. org/audio/ dr/08/06/ r2080617- 20528.ram

You may need to use real time audio or some media player to make it work. We can just clik on the link.

Sandy

No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG. Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 270.4.0/1506 - Release Date: 6/17/2008 4:30 PM

[Guest guest]

Breezy wrote:

> & nbsp;I have a question for the aspies on the list. Does music bother

> you? & nbsp; My husband gets really upset with me if he catches me

> listening to music. He doesnt like any kind of music at all and I was

> just curious if this was an individual quirk of his or if it has a

> basis in his autism? He tells me he doesnt like music because he is

> afraid that he will get the lyrics stuck in his head and they will

> drive him crazy repeating in his head but he also gets really mad if

> I am listening to instrumentals. Asking him doesnt always get me the

> info I need as sometimes he cant figure out either what to say to

> explain it to me or he doesnt honestly get it himself, so & nbsp;I

> thought I might ask here. & nbsp;

Yes there is strangeness but it seems to vary.

For me music does generally mean anything and sound, there are things

too involved to explain.

In fact I play although not recently. In a way music is for playing and

is private. I sight read perhaps because I have no memory, yet this

freaks some people who play by ear, just two totally different camps,

same as I cannot comprehend by ear.

This is a heck of an effort, trying to do multiple things and with

control. Some of it I just do not really have the strength, which spills

over into an oddity that I am particularly weak and never have been able

to understand how so many others seem to be able to build strength.

Do I play recorded music? Very rarely. Maybe a couple of times this year.

Woodwind.

Old glove is a picked up cheap years ago tenor recorder of all things,

good in parts, impossible in others. (have a couple of descant, don't

like them)

Flute, used to play it a lot until I damaged a nerve in a finger.

Rarely an old French Tenor Sax, can only manage 5 minutes.

Similarly a clarinet.

My wife play the piano and we have a decent one and it is in tune.

Various other things around.

A bearing on not playing music might be working for years in audio. I

know what should be and rarely is. This is mostly getting much worse.

Make it right, no-one wants to know with the likes of Dolby causing

immense harm. Broadcast industry not caring a fig and pumping out

mangled to death stuff so that just about everyone is conditioned to

terrible sound. This is one reason I do not use TV or radio, makes me

feel physically sick after a short while. People and things do not sound

like that, never did and never will.

It's salutary hearing a sound track made on location, terrible and it's

only job is for playing to the artists when they dub a new track,

probably with mangling by electronics later to get it to fit better.

Some of the jokes? Spotting when someone turns away from the camera and

the sound does not change. :-)

And so on. As fake as the makeup, seconds, botox, niceness etc.

Ah well newsreaders. " Cross funnel cherry " and that makes up for things.

Best sound is silence. Why I love Christmas early morning, no damn

aircraft, no trains (oddly, road traffic worries me little, a different

nature of noise). Aircraft are particularly onerous because there is

low intensity sound almost all the time so it tends to go unnoticed

until it stops, rather like soft snow starting to fall. Can't hear jets

at 40,000 feet? Of course you can.

Low frequency sound is where I wish noise regulation bit but they

deliberately don't, would upset some big organisations. A snag is that

low frequency sound travels much longer distances rather easily.