Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly say that I am happy I have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one. breezy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 Now that I've read some of these advantages, it's good knowing about the advantages. > > There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly say that I am happy I > have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one. > > breezy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 Now that you know the advantages what will you do with the knowledge? I hope you will use it to benefit all mankind LOL breezy Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about those who dont. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it.Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely beworth it. Subject: Re: AdvantagesTo: aspires-relationships Date: Monday, July 7, 2008, 9:52 PM Now that I've read some of these advantages, it's good knowing about the advantages. >> There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly say that I am happy I> have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one.> > breezy> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 Breezy, What a lovely way to speak about your husband! I have much appreciation also, for our 18 year old son, . He has an amazing mind, is an incredible slam poet, has such compassion for those whom he feels have suffered social injustice, and a wit and humor that makes me smile big a lot. Thanks for mentioning the great side of those we love. Val > There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly say that I am happy I > have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one. > > breezy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 Gosh 18 is such an ugly and weird age isnt it? Your too old to be a child too young to be an adult. I wouldnt go back to 18 for all the money in the world. Your sounds like he has some special gifts, when he gets his sh*t togethor as the phrase goes, I believe he will find a use for those gifts that will grace those who know him. In the mean time trust your parenting will shine thru as he gets the chance to screw up and learn that what you taught him was right on and true. Your love for him comes thru your posts and he carries that too breezy Subject: Re: AdvantagesTo: aspires-relationships Date: Monday, July 7, 2008, 10:00 PM Breezy,What a lovely way to speak about your husband! I have much appreciation also, for our 18 year old son, . He has an amazing mind, is an incredible slam poet, has such compassion for those whom he feels have suffered social injustice, and a wit and humor that makes me smile big a lot.Thanks for mentioning the great side of those we love.Val> There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly say that I am happy I> have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one.> > breezy> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2008 Report Share Posted July 8, 2008 Breezy, I'm glad you responded with the advantages of loving your husband. My husband has many of the same qualities as yours does. He is honest in all his affairs, very loyal, very caring for me in some ways and I trust him. He embraced my adult children when we married. He has great respect and love for nature and animals. When an animal is in need, you can't find a more caring person. Yes, its a bumpy ride and unfortunately as I became more disabled, some of what he did or did not do became huge problems. But I am slowly learning to find ways to work these out with him. So far he's being very cooperative. A lot of that is because he cares for me and wants to make life better for me. What more can a spouse expect? He sometimes is unable to see the path that is needed, until I help him find it. I wouldn't trade him for anyone else. Sometimes when I feel overburdened with it all, I want to escape. But those are mostly fleeting moments. My first husband was NT and I would never want to go back to that. I remain friendly with him because we have children and grandchildren together. He even comes to dinner. isn't threatened by this at all. Many men would be threatened to have the first husband hanging around. Having been socially isolated his entire life until he met me, just couldn't " see " certain things. For example, he would let a door to a restaurant slam into the face of an elderly person using a walker. I knew he wasn't a callous person, so I just thought he was in a daydream and didn't see the person. So I began to comment ahead of time about how difficult it was for the person behind us to get through the door. He now doesn't even need a reminder. He automatically holds the door for other people. Perhaps this is an example of NT-AS teamwork. Verleen > > There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly say that I am happy I > have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one. > > breezy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2008 Report Share Posted July 9, 2008 Of course I volunteer working with food pantries and homeless kitchens. I have with overnight shelters and halfway houses in the past. I'll never forget the one time I was volunteering at a halfway house. After helping this guy out, he did things he would have never dreamed possibly in his life. Even that makes me smile to this day. > > > > There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( > myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult > life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, > but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build > me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has > a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. > He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me > that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has > insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and > faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever > doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT > friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as > frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get > over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly > say that I am happy I > > have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride > but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one. > > > > breezy > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2008 Report Share Posted July 9, 2008 Thanks, Breezy. I appreciate your response. Sometimes I believe we " done good " and other times I doubt it. It is clear that has always learned by the school of hard knocks - so I guess we sit back and pray at this point! thanks, val -- In aspires-relationships , Breezy wrote: > > Gosh 18 is such an ugly and weird age isnt it? Your too old to be a child too young to be an adult. I wouldnt go back to 18 for all the money in the world. Your sounds like he has some special gifts, when he gets his sh*t togethor as the phrase goes, I believe he will find a use for those gifts that will grace those who know him. In the mean time trust your parenting will shine thru as he gets the chance to screw up and learn that what you taught him was right on and true. Your love for him comes thru your posts and he carries that too > breezy > > > > > Subject: Re: Advantages > To: aspires-relationships > Date: Monday, July 7, 2008, 10:00 PM > > > > > > > Breezy, > What a lovely way to speak about your husband! I have much > appreciation also, for our 18 year old son, . He has an > amazing mind, is an incredible slam poet, has such compassion for > those whom he feels have suffered social injustice, and a wit and > humor that makes me smile big a lot. > Thanks for mentioning the great side of those we love. > Val > > > There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( > myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult > life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, > but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build > me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has > a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. > He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me > that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has > insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and > faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever > doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT > friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as > frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get > over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly > say that I am happy I > > have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride > but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one. > > > > breezy > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2008 Report Share Posted July 9, 2008 Thats Awesome . breezy Subject: Re: AdvantagesTo: aspires-relationships Date: Tuesday, July 8, 2008, 5:38 PM Of course I volunteer working with food pantries and homeless kitchens. I have with overnight shelters and halfway houses in the past. I'll never forget the one time I was volunteering at a halfway house. After helping this guy out, he did things he would have never dreamed possibly in his life. Even that makes me smile to this day.> >> > There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list ( > myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really difficult > life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying that, > but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can build > me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He has > a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. > He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me > that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has > insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and > faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever > doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my NT/NT > friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as > frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes get > over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly > say that I am happy I> > have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride > but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one.> > > > breezy> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2008 Report Share Posted July 17, 2008 Thank you.. has it been this long since I last posted? Gotta admit that I have felt rather bombarded in the past week or so. But, I'm surviving > > > > > > There are advantages of loving an aspie. The spouses on this list > ( > > myself included) do have a frustrating and sometimes really > difficult > > life with their aspie partners, there is absolutely no denying > that, > > but loving an aspie comes with perks too. My aspie husband can > build > > me anything provided he gets the materials he needs to do so. He > has > > a warped and wicked sense of humor that never fails to make me > laugh. > > He sometimes thinks outside the box in such a way that it amazes me > > that I was so stupid to not get it before. He occasionally has > > insights that are nothing short of brillant and he is loyal and > > faithful to me in the extreme. Not once in 25 years have I ever > > doubted his honesty or his faithfulness to me. Not many of my > NT/NT > > friends can say that with as much conviction as I can. So as > > frustrating as he can be and as angry or resentful as I sometimes > get > > over his many issues I still wouldnt change him and I can honestly > > say that I am happy I > > > have stayed with him all these years. It hasnt been a smooth ride > > but it has been an interesting and mostly fun one. > > > > > > breezy > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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