The foundation of support...

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.... went back to work for the survival of the family, so there would be a place for children and grandchildren and her "adopted" grandchildren, to come to after the inevitable happened. And believe me it would have happened whether took a job or not. She was wise to look out for her children and herself!- Helen

Hi everyone:

ASPIRES started on the YAHOO server and then was hosted on the One List that was a private server hosted by FEAT. Unfortunately, dismantled the FEAT server and YAHOO did not allow our archieves to transfer back to YAHOO so I own the logs. There has to be 7 best sellers in those logs because it was a time when we all were just discovering the adult population and sharing our lives thinking we were alone and trying to make some sense of our lives.

Many folks have graced our board in the past from both sides and had a hand in shaping ASPIRES that are no longer with us and have moved on with their lives. It is unfortunate you don't have access to those logs. We had to regroup and move FF. My life with Larry was not always easy, but I had 3 kids in the mix and 3 adopted grandkids like Helen alluded to to think about. As bad as it got at times, my mantra and new life was NEW BEGINNINGS for all of us with the divorce. Even the divorce was painful. I remember Bill (AS) posted me privately and said, hang tight as hopefully this will become a distant memory in time and it has. I still see Larry because of our kids and we get along so much better as we are no longer living under the same roof and our finances are separate.

ASPIRES has always celebrated all the good mixed relationships. We have laughed and cried and supported each other through difficult times. We have celebrated new beginnings and talked through the difficult times, i.e. when is it time to call it a day? When dealing with AS when does abuse meld into the equation or is AS an excuse for bad behavior?

At the end of the day, each and every one of us has to make that call in reference to our own lives. YOU make that call and no one else.

When I was a special education advocate an attorney said, "You don't stop fighting the gorilla when you are tired, you stop fighting when the gorilla is tired." Private life is different as we have choices that we make daily for different reasons. You don't have to like mine and I don't have to like yours, but we can respect and support our choices.

This is the foundation of support. This is why ASPIRES is still going strong. We add members daily and YOU all make it work. You ask the tough questions that professionals can't answer. You talk and sort it out. That is what ASPIRES is all about.

Just my humble opinion.