Re: CMT ignored in childhood

[Guest guest]

Geri -

Thank you so much for sharing such intimate details about your childhood. Is it

possible, as you look back and reflect, that your parents were in denial about

your disability or maybe just afraid of it?

You have always been so kind to everyone on this forum and so supportive. You

are a very special person in my eyes.

What you went through is tragic. Thank you for understanding that I don't want

my son to have to have to go it alone. If that makes me overprotective...so be

it! I gladly wear that crown!

I am sending you a big ole cyber hug...because you are right, life is way too

short!

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> Don't EVER worry about being protective!!!

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> How I wish my mother and dad would have helped me! I had to fight my own

battles by my self.All the way through school the teachers didn't give a darn

either. No matter how hard I tried it was never good enough and I was always in

trouble at no fault of mine.Late for class, then detention,a three mile walk

home/with blisters from my ill fitting shoes.Many days of just being to tired to

get my homework done,being so tired ,I couldn't think straight.Bad grades.

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> Afraid all the time.I got tripped all the time, shoved to the ground,books

knocked out my arms as a circle of kids would count to see how long it took me

to pick them up. Then laugh as I struggled because it took me so long, my arms

would be twisted up behind my back in the girls bathroom.Never being asked

out,going to dances alone.Sometimes I thought I would have a friend but not for

long for I was a drag on their life style.

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> My mother didn't try to make things better it was me that asked for my classes

to be closer together or to give me a few more min. to get to class.

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> There was nothing I could do about the hard time getting up those bus steps.or

trying to walk on ruts of snow and ice down the country road to catch the bus. I

would toss my books as far up into bus as I could then crawl up the steps .it

was embarrassing esp. as a teen, with dirty knees before I'd get to school...I

wonder why didn't my mom give me a ride to school? Why didn't she help me with

the problems at school?

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> I was so very lonely,felt worthless, I didn't matter to anyone.an

embarrassment to myself and my mother ..she had after all such a imperfect dorky

acting child. an abused child leads to other bad abusive things like a abusive

marriage. My husband had a crush on my mother.Gee, what we don't do too get

accepted and hope someone will love us for who we are!

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> The memories past.and now in the present, wondering.why??

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> Do all you can for you kids..don't let them fight disables alone.its to lonely

and they are a target for abuses..they have to have someone on their side. Who

better them parents that care.

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> You know whets so strange? I love everybody but trust know one.

> Thanks for letting me rant. Hug your kid today and tell them how proud of them

you are. Life is short.

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> Geri

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[Guest guest]

My dad also had CMT and suffered rom the abuse's of my mother.My mother often

times would mock my dads walk,she cheated on him many times. Was it any wonder

he was always in a bad mood! .Please know I love both of them, just wish they

would have known how much...In their fits of fighting with one another they

forgot me...my life.

Don't worry what others think just be a good mom and follow your heart.(ya cant

go wrong)...children are a gift to us and on loan for us to love and care for.

May you have many crowns.

Blessings

Geri

[Guest guest]

I have read hugh amount of materials about family of origin and its impact on

children.

According to what I read, the issue is not only abou CMT. 95% families are

relatively dysfunctional. The real issue is about the abuse and negelect of

children. Abuse includes physical, emotional, verbal abuses and so on.

Parents' negelect of children cause psychological trauma in children.

If parents have no or very limited emotional interactions with a child,

the child will feel that he or she is not lovable, feel shamed about himself

or herself, low self esteem, has no clear sense of who he or she is ( this

is

called self concept), doesn't know how he or she feels, doesn't know what he

or she wants in life and so on.

After the child growing up in dysfunctional family and become an adult, the

adult

child tend to attract the unhealthy partener, because the adult is unable to

check

what is normal and healthy relationship.

This is about healing the child within. Many people grow up in dysfunctional

families,

e.g., alcholic ,have these kinds of problems, not only for CMT people.

Myself, I am trying to solve these problems in my life.

What I have learned is that ---- take ownership of our lives, make decisions and

be responsible for our choices and lives, regret what we have never recevied

from life, regret mistakes we have made in our lives, love ourselves, and move

on our lives.