trying to complete my sentences....

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....I was trying to say more importantly for me at this point is to know how I NT think and what I can and cannot handle in others. No apologies, excuses or explanations. Just an awareness that I see the world through these eyes and need to know how they work. thanks ummee

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Ummeee,

You have mentioned not being able to deal with certain things. What kinds of things are they? what can help? Here are a few of mine:

Sometimes, AS people cannot handle things, too, but for - likely - different reasons. One set of them are sensory issues. I still have a few, though not very many. Some are overload, and others are lack of perception. When I am interacting with people, I frequently find that I need to use cognitive skills to compensate for the fact that I do not pick up social cues all that well, and cannot read facial emotion terribly well, either. (I am improving, because I am practicing on software that helps a lot.) When I get tired, it is sudden, and I have to rest, or I will not be able to make sense, socially. I do not need long to recharge, but without a bit of down time, I literally canot carry on a converstion that carries the right depth where the people skills are concerned. I can stil do mathematics without difficulty, though- it is actually much easier for me. So, I need to get away for a few minutes,

close my eyes, and come back. I try to get enough sleep and eat enough protein 9these things help), and eat proper nutrition, but while it makes it better, it is not 100%.

What makes things much esier for me is understanding why people do the things they do. then, I am not solving difficult puzzles in having normal interactions, but just applying what I know- and this frees me up to use my energy for caring abou people, rather than having to work out what everyone means.

There is a whole other area that some of us have, too: lack of sensory input, or inadequate input. For example, if you give me a picture, I will not remember as much of it as a typical person will. Verbal descriptions, I remember quite well (far above average). It really helps when someone believes me, when I tell him or her that I do not know something, or do not remember. When the other person takes offense, and will not listen to the truth, then I cannot say anything to counter that (well, maybe I can-- I will have to learn how! Help would be great!).

Subject: trying to complete my sentences....To: aspires-relationships Date: Sunday, November 23, 2008, 7:30 PM

....I was trying to say more importantly for me at this point is to know how I NT think and what I can and cannot handle in others. No apologies, excuses or explanations. Just an awareness that I see the world through these eyes and need to know how they work.

thanks

ummee