update on Don

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Hello all, Many of you know much of our story, this is a catch-up and an

update.

Don is having more problems than I can handle. His daughter has been a nurse

for about 25 years in a NH about 70 miles north of here. Don wants her to

take care of him. He knows he has to go. It hurts both of us, but the time has

come.

He isn't in a hospital. Don's daughter asked a doctor, she knows well, and

highly respects, to see her daddy, and he is going to write up the paper work

to send him straight to the NH, bypassing the hospital.

It has been more than my health can handle. My kids have made arrangements

between themselves to drive me back and forth. I can very well drive the

trip, but it makes them more comfortable. When I am not strung out emotionally

with Don's high agitation, and argumentative state, I can handle many things.

In time all of you will see some of the mail I have sent the list. One night

he insisted I call two different doctors at ten thirty at night to tell them

that I won't take him to his appointments. He had kept insisting I take him

right now! I told him it was night. He doesn't seem to know day and night

anymore.

This morning was another highly agitated time of it, before I even had

coffee. I never argue back or fuss with him. I try to redirect him. His

sundowning

comes in the mornigs more than at night. I finally calmed him with talking

about all the good times we have had together.

Then I suggested he call , (a very good classmate friend) and he was as

happy as a lark. I dial the phone, and he chattered away as if nothing was

wrong.

(ugh! the urge to wring his neck, except I know he is very sick)

We are going up on Friday for the Doctor's appointment, then on the 24th he

is having surgery on his scalp. At least he doesn't have Melanoma. It is

Squamous Cell carcinoma. It has spread over a pretty big area. Squamous Cell

isn't as dangerous. After his surgery is all over, stitches and all, then he

will go to the nursing home.

Oh the horrors of LBD, and poor health. You have no idea how thankful we are

for our children.

I love you all

Imogene

Caregiver for my true Texas Gentleman Husband of 37, almost 38, years. First

diagnosed with Alzheimer's by a Neurologist OCT, 2005. But, on May 2, 2006

Dr. Schillerstrom, Geriatric/Psychiatrist diagnosed LBD with

Parkinsonism. My precious husband, Don, is taking Zoloft and Razadyne.

A happy personality is contagious. Infect someone today.

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