Guest guest Posted November 14, 2008 Report Share Posted November 14, 2008 If my wife whom I believe has AS, does not want to go forward with the IEP for my son whom I believe has AS, what do I do? My wife's main concern is that the school observation part isn't that discreet and can be embarrassing for kids. She's seen it as a teacher's aid. At that point staff and students become aware of it. So she wants to cancel the whole IEP. I'd appreciate feedback and suggestions. Jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2008 Report Share Posted November 14, 2008 Jim wrote: > I believe she's afraid my son will be embarrassed from having someone > (the psythologist) monitor him at school. She said it's not that > discreet and staff and students will likely know it's for my son. > > I thought a work-around would be to ask the psychologist involved to not > do that part of the assessment. Still my wife doesn't believe they'd > follow the request and wants to cancel. > > Jim Here's where you need the wisdom of , *and* a very clear notion of *exactly* what you want to accomplish regarding: .... Your child vs the school system, and .... Your wife vs you. Just how disruptive *is* your child? Can you, at all, handle him vs school *without* going the system's route (IEP, etc)?? How are you fixed for having your kid visit a private " child psychologist " for awhile? Or/and if need be placing him in a private AS-oriented school? Or even home-schooling? Personally I think your wife's concerns (in principle) are well founded. It all depends on " The System " - how it may turn out for all three of you. Remember: All the experts in the world don't know your kid like you do. They've not had the time to learn; and never will have either the time or the interest that you do. Good luck! - Bill, 76, dx AS; ...three grown kids, all doing well (one likely AS.) > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > *From:* Jennie Unknown > *To:* aspires-relationships > *Sent:* Thursday, November 13, 2008 11:20:44 PM > *Subject:* Re: IEP > > Is she concerned about your kid being embarrassed or about herself being > embarrassed for having a kid with an IEP? - Bill, 76, dx AS -- WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2008 Report Share Posted November 14, 2008 Hi Jim, I am also an Educational Assistant and I will tell you that your son will know he is being observed because my son knew and hated it, but the other kids didn't know that he was being observed there is definately ways around that. My son is very sensitive and takes in everything that is going on around him. His friends don't know that he has AS and he doesn't want to tell them yet.I know that you can ask for your son to be taken out of the class by the psythologist which will be done one-on-one for the psytho-educational assessment. If they are not discreet while assessing or before they assess your son go to the principal and let him know your son is sensitive and it may cause distress. They have to be professional while assessing a student in any case. Ask to meet with the princaple and teacher and anyone envolved with assessing your son and get it made clear to you and your wife excatally what will take place. The school team will appriciate the communication and they will do what they can to make things better. I believe the IEP is wonderful and my son has definately benifited from it. Please talk to the principal before you deside to cancel it.. Kennedy [aspires-relationsh ips] IEP If my wife whom I believe has AS, does not want to go forward with the IEP for my son whom I believe has AS, what do I do? My wife's main concern is that the school observation part isn't that discreet and can be embarrassing for kids. She's seen it as a teacher's aid. At that point staff and students become aware of it. So she wants to cancel the whole IEP. I'd appreciate feedback and suggestions. Jim No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg. com Version: 8.0.175 / Virus Database: 270.9.2/1784 - Release Date: 11/12/2008 7:01 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2008 Report Share Posted November 14, 2008 Jim wrote: > Bill, > > I understand from reading and from personal experience that at the heart > of AS, is a significant lack of empathy. However, far beyond an intense > interest, your responses show empathy, compassion and sensitivity. How > do you explain that? Simple. " Lack of empathy " is NOT one of the diagnostic criteria. All of the few AS I know personally have plenty of empathy. All though, and I join with them, find it takes a very long time for that reality to percolate into others' perceptions. I think you'll find most AS on this List will claim at least *some* empathy. Many of us claim (and can display, betimes) quite a lot. - Bill, 76, dx AS; ...empathy enough -- WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2008 Report Share Posted November 15, 2008 WD Loughman wrote: > I think you'll find most AS on this List will claim at least *some* > empathy. Many of us claim (and can display, betimes) quite a lot. Nope. All I get is anxiety, ain't a clue on what the people refuse to say. I suspect this is what people as objects means. Most of us eventually cope, cognitively workaround but it is never the real thing. This list would not exist if we could. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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