Guest guest Posted July 13, 2008 Report Share Posted July 13, 2008 Hi again Bill,Sounds like these factors are all out of your control - they either pre-date you or have nothing to do with you.We have a similar isolation from my husband's family.Sadly, sometimes the best thing that we can do is to protect ourselves and our families against the rest.Warmly,Daneka No, the barriers are three-fold: Cultural isolation - many of my relatives are *still* more Old World than New. Think "traditional" Mennonite, or Amish, though strictly speaking they're not of either faith. Strangers and "their ways" aren't very welcome. Religious belief - my extended family mostly still are River Brethren, with a strong fundamentalist insistence that "'God's Will' be done..." Autism often is viewed as punishment for (??); even by some in much younger generations. The family quarrel - still alive and very well. Even my *one* close family contact (cousin, my age) now won't talk about it any more. Out of fear he'll draw the wrath of others, closer to him than me. And *I've* felt that wrath! Amazing, after c.65 years; generations! "The sins of the (mother) shall be visited on the sons..." ??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2008 Report Share Posted July 14, 2008 Daneka Wheeler wrote: > Hi again Bill, > Sounds like these factors are all out of your control - they either > pre-date you or have nothing to do with you. True. *Except* that apart from re-connecting, or making new connections with " family " , I'm still trying to locate my same-age autistic cousin (in an institution since she was 14-or-so). Talk about circling the wagons: That woman's whereabouts are more closely guarded than Fort Knox. " Hmm. Just *why*, Bill, do you want to know where she is...?! " But you're right about pre-dating me. My Mother's quarrel with *everyone* certainly has, uh, ...generalized. > We have a similar isolation from my husband's family. > Sadly, sometimes the best thing that we can do is to protect ourselves > and our families against the rest. My deepest sympathy. I think you're right. Sometimes self-protection is the only thing left. > Warmly, > Daneka Thanks Daneka. *From the heart*! > No, the barriers are three-fold: > Cultural isolation - many of my relatives are *still* more Old World > than New. Think " traditional " Mennonite, or Amish, though strictly > speaking they're not of either faith. Strangers and " their ways " aren't > very welcome. [ snip ] > Religious belief [ snip ] > The family quarrel - still alive and very well. [ snip ] - Bill, 76, AS -- WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2008 Report Share Posted July 14, 2008 Welcome back Bill! It's good to have you back in (Our) family. You were missed. Get the scoop on last night's hottest shows and the live music scene in your area - Check out TourTracker.com! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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