Re: Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I mean what I say? >:o

December 8, 2008

Not an expert since im a guy,but probably should be a notch more assertive with

all three.

Tell the pests you dislike their way and do not speak to you that way again.

The other guy, ask him to go get coffee or lunch with you.

My 2 cents

Usarian

Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I

mean what I say? >

Hi everyone,

I was schedule to work yesterday at a synagogue. There were two different

synagogues having us coming from work do to what we do.

I was going to go to the one I like the most, but had to give it up!

I usually do not work the weekends, I prefer keep as resting day(s). Still

when there is work to do at the synagogues, or a place where they need

translations, I go!

I gave up yesterday pretty much against my will. I did so because there is

a guy who the past two times I have been there insist in taking me out. I do

not like the guy, I do not like who he asks, and I do not like his attitude.

I did not want to deal with him yesterday, so I gave it up.

All night Saturday I felt bad, and I did not sleep well either, I even fell

of the darn bed! (free fall too :-( and hurt my elbow a little bit) But I am

alright now.

All day yesterday I was sad, and had this terrible feeling that I should

have been there.

I have in the past tell this guy with nice words that I am not interested.

He says (like most of them) you do not have a ring on your finger. I say: I

do not need a ring to have someone in my life and be loyal. Still he does

not understands I do not appreciate his advances.

Same happens at another place I go to work at. I am in a mobile unit, so I

visit many places all over GA.

There are some places I have tried to switch in the past so that I do not

have to deal with the guys who keep on insisting. Thanks God most of them

understand the first time, but there are three that make me angry.

My co-workers seem to notice before I do if a guy is interested in me. They

tell me, he was flirting with you and you did not give him the time of the

day!

I am appreciative of the attention, but I am sure it has something to do

with my accent!

I think that is why they get curious.......

I do not have anyone in my life, but I do like a lot one guy in particular

December 8, 2008

Not an expert since im a guy,but probably should be a notch more assertive with

all three.

Tell the pests you dislike their way and do not speak to you that way again.

The other guy, ask him to go get coffee or lunch with you.

My 2 cents

Usarian

Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I

mean what I say? >

Hi everyone,

I was schedule to work yesterday at a synagogue. There were two different

synagogues having us coming from work do to what we do.

I was going to go to the one I like the most, but had to give it up!

I usually do not work the weekends, I prefer keep as resting day(s). Still

when there is work to do at the synagogues, or a place where they need

translations, I go!

I gave up yesterday pretty much against my will. I did so because there is

a guy who the past two times I have been there insist in taking me out. I do

not like the guy, I do not like who he asks, and I do not like his attitude.

I did not want to deal with him yesterday, so I gave it up.

All night Saturday I felt bad, and I did not sleep well either, I even fell

of the darn bed! (free fall too :-( and hurt my elbow a little bit) But I am

alright now.

All day yesterday I was sad, and had this terrible feeling that I should

have been there.

I have in the past tell this guy with nice words that I am not interested.

He says (like most of them) you do not have a ring on your finger. I say: I

do not need a ring to have someone in my life and be loyal. Still he does

not understands I do not appreciate his advances.

Same happens at another place I go to work at. I am in a mobile unit, so I

visit many places all over GA.

There are some places I have tried to switch in the past so that I do not

have to deal with the guys who keep on insisting. Thanks God most of them

understand the first time, but there are three that make me angry.

My co-workers seem to notice before I do if a guy is interested in me. They

tell me, he was flirting with you and you did not give him the time of the

day!

I am appreciative of the attention, but I am sure it has something to do

with my accent!

I think that is why they get curious.......

I do not have anyone in my life, but I do like a lot one guy in particular

December 8, 2008

Not an expert since im a guy,but probably should be a notch more assertive with

all three.

Tell the pests you dislike their way and do not speak to you that way again.

The other guy, ask him to go get coffee or lunch with you.

My 2 cents

Usarian

Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I

mean what I say? >

Hi everyone,

I was schedule to work yesterday at a synagogue. There were two different

synagogues having us coming from work do to what we do.

I was going to go to the one I like the most, but had to give it up!

I usually do not work the weekends, I prefer keep as resting day(s). Still

when there is work to do at the synagogues, or a place where they need

translations, I go!

I gave up yesterday pretty much against my will. I did so because there is

a guy who the past two times I have been there insist in taking me out. I do

not like the guy, I do not like who he asks, and I do not like his attitude.

I did not want to deal with him yesterday, so I gave it up.

All night Saturday I felt bad, and I did not sleep well either, I even fell

of the darn bed! (free fall too :-( and hurt my elbow a little bit) But I am

alright now.

All day yesterday I was sad, and had this terrible feeling that I should

have been there.

I have in the past tell this guy with nice words that I am not interested.

He says (like most of them) you do not have a ring on your finger. I say: I

do not need a ring to have someone in my life and be loyal. Still he does

not understands I do not appreciate his advances.

Same happens at another place I go to work at. I am in a mobile unit, so I

visit many places all over GA.

There are some places I have tried to switch in the past so that I do not

have to deal with the guys who keep on insisting. Thanks God most of them

understand the first time, but there are three that make me angry.

My co-workers seem to notice before I do if a guy is interested in me. They

tell me, he was flirting with you and you did not give him the time of the

day!

I am appreciative of the attention, but I am sure it has something to do

with my accent!

I think that is why they get curious.......

I do not have anyone in my life, but I do like a lot one guy in particular

December 8, 2008

Make their advances look like a joke and laugh at them. Then usually they will laugh with you to save face but don't want to be embarrassed again. If they are pushing this much it's time for more firm measures than just refusal. Men don't like to be made fun of.

Jennie AS

Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I mean what I say? >

Hi everyone,

I was schedule to work yesterday at a synagogue. There were two different synagogues having us coming from work do to what we do.

I was going to go to the one I like the most, but had to give it up!

I usually do not work the weekends, I prefer keep as resting day(s). Still when there is work to do at the synagogues, or a place where they need translations, I go!

I gave up yesterday pretty much against my will. I did so because there is a guy who the past two times I have been there insist in taking me out. I do not like the guy, I do not like who he asks, and I do not like his attitude. I did not want to deal with him yesterday, so I gave it up.

All night Saturday I felt bad, and I did not sleep well either, I even fell of the darn bed! (free fall too :-( and hurt my elbow a little bit) But I am alright now.

All day yesterday I was sad, and had this terrible feeling that I should have been there.

I have in the past tell this guy with nice words that I am not interested. He says (like most of them) you do not have a ring on your finger. I say: I do not need a ring to have someone in my life and be loyal. Still he does not understands I do not appreciate his advances.

Same happens at another place I go to work at. I am in a mobile unit, so I visit many places all over GA.

There are some places I have tried to switch in the past so that I do not have to deal with the guys who keep on insisting. Thanks God most of them understand the first time, but there are three that make me angry.

My co-workers seem to notice before I do if a guy is interested in me. They tell me, he was flirting with you and you did not give him the time of the day!

I am appreciative of the attention, but I am sure it has something to do with my accent!

I think that is why they get curious.......

I do not have anyone in my life, but I do like a lot one guy in particular.

He is the Sweet Cherub of my heart and the King of my thoughts and feelings.

If it was him who miraculously would come to work and ask me out, I will most definitely embrace him, kiss that bald head of his and also go out with him. I really like him and have feeling for him!

It would be OK that I do all of that, he pretty much knows that I have feelings for him.

I want to go to the places I love being in, like the synagogues, the special company we go once or twice a year. And the places where I get to translate. I do not want to even have to feel the way I felt yesterday-- feeling I must have gone to the synagogue-- and having to stop myself form doing so as not to have to face the guy who has a bad attitude in wanting me to go out with him. I can pay myself a plate of food, no need for him to ask me out!

I usually keep my cool, and do not want to loose it. Yet two guys really make me want to send them to h _ _ _!

Until I get over the guy I so dearly like, there is no much hope for anyone else at all.

How do I handle guys who do not take NO for an answer? I want to go back to the synagogue next time they have us there! It is really important to me, specially now that I want to learn about Judaism.......

I actually find it interesting and I was gong to go to classes which start tonight. But they canceled the December classes due to not having enough students. I will go to the ones offered in February instead!

My dad always admired and liked the Old Testament and the traditions in them. they were pretty much his belief and in a way my views.

See why I wanted so badly to talk to the Rabbi in there, he always comes to donate....... he is a cool young Rabbi in my views. I thought he would be old, old and thin (like the one in Fiddler on the Roof! He is not, he is a cool Rabbi form this century! He is fun too, very pleasant person indeed. I wished I was there yesterday in person, working and enjoying it.

My heart was there, and so my mind all the time; but I missed going there, I felt and still feel, I was to be there!

, who wishes to know how to make this two guys in particular know to please leave me alone when I go to work. Even when I try others coworkers to take them, they wait for me. One even refused to go through the process unless I do it! I am FED UP with it!

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December 8, 2008

You should not have to stay away from places you love

because of others idiocy. I would make it clear you had no interest

what

so ever in pursuing any personal relationship. I would then inform

them if

they still did not leave you alone that this is sexual harassment and

against

the law. If someone is making you so uncomfortable that you would

rather

stay away from what you love than deal with them, they have stepped over the

line of friendly interest to creepy and irritating.

As for the other guy, go get him girl.

e

From: Jennie Unknown

Sent: Monday, December 08, 2008 3:14 PM

To: aspires-relationships@ya

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Subject: Re: Need advise, How can I make

GUYS understand I mean what I say? >

Make their advances look like a joke and laugh at them. Then usually

they

will laugh with you to save face but don't want to be embarrassed again. If

they are pushing this much it's time for more firm measures than

just refusal. Men don't like to be made fun of.

Jennie AS

Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I mean what I say?

>

Hi everyone,

I was schedule to work yesterday at a synagogue. There were two

different synagogues having us coming from work do to what we do.

I was going to go to the one I like the most, but had to give it

up!

I usually do not work the weekends, I prefer keep as resting

day(s). Still when there is work to do at the synagogues, or a place

where they need translations, I go!

I gave up yesterday pretty much against my will. I did so

because

there is a guy who the past two times I have been there insist in taking

me

out. I do not like the guy, I do not like who he asks, and I do not

like

his attitude. I did not want to deal with him yesterday, so I gave

it

up.

All night Saturday I felt bad, and I did not sleep well either, I

even

fell of the darn bed! (free fall too :-( and hurt my elbow a little

bit) But I am alright now.

All day yesterday I was sad, and had this terrible feeling that

I

should have been there.

I have in the past tell this guy with nice words that I am not

interested. He says (like most of them) you do not have a ring

on

your finger. I say: I do not need a ring to have

someone

in my life and be loyal. Still he does not understands I do not

appreciate his advances.

Same happens at another place I go to work at. I am in a

mobile unit, so I visit many places all over

GA.

There are some places I have tried to switch in the past so that

I

do not have to deal with the guys who keep on insisting. Thanks

God

most of them understand the first time, but there are three that make

me

angry.

My co-workers seem to notice before I do if a guy is interested in

me. They tell me, he was flirting with you and you did not

give him the time of the day!

I am appreciative of the attention, but I am sure it has something to

do

with my accent!

I think that is why they get

curious.......

I do not have anyone in my life, but I do like a lot one guy in

particular.

He is the Sweet Cherub of my heart and the King of my thoughts and

feelings.

If it was him who miraculously would come to work and ask me

out, I will most definitely embrace him, kiss that bald head of

his

and also go out with him. I really like him and have feeling

for

him!

It would be OK that I do all of that, he pretty much knows

that I have feelings for him.

I want to go to the places I love being in, like the synagogues, the

special company we go once or twice a year. And the places

where I get to translate. I do not want to even have to feel

the

way I felt yesterday-- feeling I must have gone to

the synagogue--

and having to stop myself form doing so as not to have

to face the guy who has a bad attitude in wanting me to go out

with

him. I can pay myself a plate of food, no need for him to ask

me

out!

I usually keep my cool, and do not want to loose it. Yet

two

guys really make me want to send them to h _ _

_!

Until I get over the guy I so dearly like, there is no much

hope for anyone else at all.

How do I handle guys who do not take NO for

an answer? I

want to go back to the synagogue next time they have us there! It is

really important to me, specially now that I want to learn about

Judaism.......

I actually find it interesting and I was gong to go to classes

which

start tonight. But they canceled the December classes due to not

having

enough students. I will go to the ones offered in

February instead!

My dad always admired and liked the Old Testament and the

traditions in them. they were pretty much

his belief and in a way my views.

See why I wanted so badly to talk to the Rabbi in there, he always

comes

to donate....... he is a cool young Rabbi in my

views. I thought he would be old, old and thin (like the one in

Fiddler on the Roof! He is not, he is a cool Rabbi

form

this century! He is fun too, very pleasant person

indeed. I

wished I was there yesterday in person, working and enjoying it.

My heart was there, and so my mind all the time; but I missed going

there, I felt and still feel, I was to be there!

, who wishes to know how to make this two guys in

particular

know to please leave me alone when I go

to work. Even when I try others coworkers to take

them,

they wait for me. One even refused to go through

the process

unless I do it! I am FED UP with it!

Make your life easier with all your friends, email, and favorite sites in

one

place. Try

it now.

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December 9, 2008

Hi ,

The guy who thinks you don't have a ring on your finger, therefore you are 'fair game' for his unwanted attentions? Tell him that you don't have a ring through your nose either, and will not be led by it. Laugh it up, and change the subject, dead quick. These kind of guys tend to prey on kindly, nice ladies, and its almost a sleaze. Leave him to get on with his chat up lines elsewhere.

You don't owe this guy any explanations, or any qualification of your reasons for not throwing yourself into his arms (uew).

Concentrate on the guy you do like, and see what happens!

You come across as a warm person in your posts, and very astute; you always seem to take a bit of time to think about want you want and how you might go about it? A good approach.

There's no rush, and there's no requirement for you to respond to just any guy who hovers around. There are plenty more plankton in the sea for that kind.

Wishing you well,

Judy B, Scotland. It took me 25 years to find the right guy, so I am not the one to ask about romantic encounters!

Subject: RE: Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I mean what I say? >:oTo: aspires-relationships Date: Monday, 8 December, 2008, 8:27 PM

Not an expert since im a guy,but probably should be a notch more assertive with all three. Tell the pests you dislike their way and do not speak to you that way again. The other guy, ask him to go get coffee or lunch with you. My 2 centsUsarian [aspires-relationsh ips] Need advise, How can I make GUYS understand I mean what I say? >:oHi everyone,I was schedule to work yesterday at a synagogue. There were two different synagogues having us coming from work do to what we do. I was going to go to the one I like the most, but had to give it up! I usually do not work the weekends, I prefer

keep as resting day(s). Still when there is work to do at the synagogues, or a place where they need translations, I go! I gave up yesterday pretty much against my will. I did so because there is a guy who the past two times I have been there insist in taking me out. I do not like the guy, I do not like who he asks, and I do not like his attitude. I did not want to deal with him yesterday, so I gave it up.All night Saturday I felt bad, and I did not sleep well either, I even fell of the darn bed! (free fall too :-( and hurt my elbow a little bit) But I am alright now.All day yesterday I was sad, and had this terrible feeling that I should have been there. I have in the past tell this guy with nice words that I am not interested. He says (like most of them) you do not have a ring on your finger. I say: I do not need a ring to have someone in my life and be loyal. Still he does not

understands I do not appreciate his advances. Same happens at another place I go to work at. I am in a mobile unit, so I visit many places all over GA. There are some places I have tried to switch in the past so that I do not have to deal with the guys who keep on insisting. Thanks God most of them understand the first time, but there are three that make me angry. My co-workers seem to notice before I do if a guy is interested in me. They tell me, he was flirting with you and you did not give him the time of the day! I am appreciative of the attention, but I am sure it has something to do with my accent!I think that is why they get curious..... .. I do not have anyone in my life, but I do like a lot one guy in particular

December 9, 2008

I think you should talk to the rabbi at the synagogue that you are uncomfortable coming there because of the flirtations and harassment. He should take care of tension and it easier to be part of your community. Some of those guys might like your attention, "hard to get". Well he needs a stern voice and after more than once no sounds like they need ultimatums or dicipline.

Matt