Val...

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Hi Val:

Being a parent is tough and the job is never done. My eldest is in Mexico right now with her best friend who has family there. My mother who lives in San Francisco, California/USA got her birth certificate so she could cross the border. We both tried to tell her to get a passport but she did not listen. It wasn't till she got to the border that she realized her BC did not have her middle name on it that matched the rest of her ID. My ex-ASPIE has always said, "how can someone so SMART be so STUPID at the same time? Lol She called us immediately but there was nothing WE could do as she needs to wait till she gets back to the States to fix this. After hours they let her cross the border. Our concern was Nik getting back into the States. We have been trying to reach her for weeks by voice mail, text and email and nothing. I told Larry maybe she left her lap top here and her cell phone does not work down there??? She has Sprint, I don't know her plan? Her voice is on and taking calls so she must be receiving our messages or her voice box would be full by now?? Maybe she is having the time of her life? Larry is really worried.

My AS mother told me, "remind YOU of anyone?" Sadly, ME! Lol I refuse to believe the worse and if she is anything like me is having a wonderful time. I told Larry, chill out. Norma has family here and there, IF there was a problem, they would call us for help.

I wish the best for your son. My situation is a lot different than yours. I work for a tech company and we had a young man that was brilliant and loved by everyone who said one day, "I am done. I want to experience being a hobo with nothing." He left. I asked him WHY? He said, "It has always been of interest to me. I want to jump into box cars and live with no money and see if I can do it?" This is a young man that can go far with many tech companies and this is the life he has chosen for the moment. Co-workers from my generation said, we were no different in our day. How many lived in their Vans and traveled cross country only to work for gas and food? How many back backed through Europe and came home and settled down? I argue we are living in more violent times and some in my generation say, it has not changed that much. Maybe someone who is book SMART just wants to experience what it is like being STREET smart? Maybe this experience will push him into a career of public service for the homeless or maybe it is just one of many paths he will choose in his life for reasons that only make sense to him and not you? If this was me as his mom, I would feel exactly like YOU do. We never stop caring, loving or worrying about our kids that WE feel are making STUPID decisions. BUT, it is THEIR decision and their lust for life and a path that they choose at that time to travel down that makes them their own person. Right or wrong, maybe it is just a life lesson that they are embracing? My generation certainly believed this was OUR rite of passage. Why is this generation different? <Wink>

As a mom I would probably and do worry for the worse, but that is just me and U can't live YOUR life that way always waiting for the other shoe to drop. He made is choice as an adult as was hell bent on choosing this life style for him at this moment in his life. I wish U all well.

Just my 2 cents worth as usual.

PS: My regret in life growing up? When I was in HS I wanted to go Israeli and live on a hut or join the United Nations and serve. My parents said U have 2 choices, college and work and I said that is one choice and they said that is the only choice if U want to continue to live in this house. I left the house a year later and professionally danced for over 10 year where I got to travel and do what I had trained to do for years and loved it much to the chagrin of my family at times. I also got to see how others lived in other States and some countries. My dream is still to see Israeli and many other parts of Europe.