Guest guest Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 Deaths Shock Those Close To The Family By Doug kson, Simms and DeFour http://is.gd/8mF1 Once a week last summer on a pasture in southeastern Wisconsin, Dutter could be seen walking alongside a horse with his 12-year-old son , who sat atop the horse holding the reins. The father and son were regulars for more than two years at the Darien horse farm, where a nonprofit organization called SMILES offers therapeutic riding lessons for people with physical, cognitive and emotional disabilities. Firn, the director of instruction, remembers Dutter as a patient and supportive dad. " We saw no conflict, " said Firn, adding that news of the family's tragedy has come as a great shock. On Tuesday, an anonymous 911 caller directed Madison police to a sport-utility vehicle parked in front of Haen Family Park on the city's Far West Side. Inside, police say they found Dutter and his son with gunshot wounds. , who had a developmental disability, died that day. His father died Wednesday. Authorities say Dutter, 36, recently of Middleton, shot his son, then himself. Police have released no information about a possible motive — officers involved in the case are scheduled to meet this morning, said police spokesman DeSpain. Officers were not able to interview Dutter before he died, he said. The death of the father means there is no longer a potential criminal case, raising questions as to how much more information police will release to the public. Members of Dutter's family have not responded to requests for comment. For now, only threads of a life that seemed to be becoming increasingly difficult are known. Dutter filed for bankruptcy last fall, citing liabilities of $109,002 and obligations that included a monthly child support payment and $18,700 in student loans. At the time of his bankruptcy filing, his recent income had included about $6,700 in state unemployment compensation. He had been taken to small claims court several times in the last three years by various plaintiffs, according to online court records. Despite the financial stress, Dutter devoted much time to . In August, he created a public Web site in which he updated family and friends on his son. The site says it is the place to go for " all , all the time. " " This is 's very own Web site for those who want to see grow in life, " the site says. Much of the site reflects 's love of Halloween — he had recently visited a pumpkin patch, and pictures abound of his trip to Fright Fest, an annual event at Six Flags Great America in Gurnee, Ill. The Web site is candid about 's numerous medical issues, listing 10 medical professionals he was seeing at the time of his death, including a neurologist, an orthopedist and a pediatrician specializing in autism. was in the sixth grade at Glacier Creek Middle School in Cross Plains, where school administrators offered counseling Wednesday for students and staff. Middleton-Cross Plains Schools Superintendent Don said this was 's first year in the school district. He attended school in the Beloit area last year. Dutter was divorced from the boy's mother and shared parenting responsibilities. Dutter and his son had moved to Middleton only in the last few months. Dutter's parents reside in Beloit in a brick, ranch-style house where they raised five boys. Henry Dutter is a semi-retired Beloit firefighter. Rosemary Dutter is a retired schoolteacher who sells real estate. For neighbors, news of the tragedy has been baffling. " ( Dutter) didn't give us any sign that he was an unfit parent, " said Tom Brandenburg, who lives across the street from the Dutters. would play basketball with Brandenburg's son, , in their driveway. One Christmas, Dutter dressed up as Santa Claus and brought a present as a token of thanks for playing with , said Brandenburg's wife, . Rosemary Dutter is known around the neighborhood for circulating petitions to stop a condo development and for accompanying on walks. Dr. Kanchana Biswanathan, who has lived next door to the Dutters for 15 years, said she had seen and his father this past summer and nothing seemed out of place. She said she had noticed that Rosemary Dutter had taken care of quite often. She considers the Dutters wonderful neighbors and dedicated grandparents. " After taking care of their own children and then taking care of a grandchild with special needs — that was a lot, " Biswanathan said. Growing up, Dutter attended Beloit High School before leaving after his junior year in 1989 to join the U.S. Navy, according to Registrar Roseann Hoffmann. He earned his high school degree in the Navy and served overseas, she said. At various times he had worked for a mortgage firm and as a branch manager for a bank in Milwaukee. Last year, he was a substitute teacher's assistant in the Beloit School District, according to spokeswoman Badger. It is unclear whether he was employed at the time of his death. In addition to , Dutter has an 18-year-old daughter who attends Utah State University in Logan. Last spring, in a newsletter for McLenegan Elementary School in Beloit, school officials thanked Dutter and his mother for helping to provide transportation for students to SMILES (Special Methods in Learning Equine Skills), the horse farm for people with disabilities, Firn, the farm's director of instruction, said was a determined student who loved horses. " He was just a good kid trying real hard, and they were just a good family trying real hard to give him every opportunity they could, " she said. State Journal reporter Sandy Cullen contributed to this report. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 It doesn't make sense but I'm afraid we're going to see more of this kind of thing under the current economy. I don't mean to sound cold-- I'm just stressed and depressed about it, just not enough to understand Dutter's choice. Of course, the first thing that occurs to me is that Dutter's friendly family doctor handed him a scrip for Effexor or whatever to help with Dutter's financial stress. That could be why police might cite " privacy " (so they don't have to report the drugs and get those screaming calls from the district about it). But it could just be that the historical rates for murder-suicide always rise during financial crises. Add child's chronic medical problems to that and stir. Or during slavery or Jim Crow, which I frankly think have some less blatant psychological parallels for autism families (overwhelming sense of human betrayal, lack of justice, social partitioning, stolen future, being on the receiving end of some genetic theory of inferiority, etc.). This happened even back when there wasn't an epidemic and when there weren't SSRIs (just rum, jake and laudanum). > > Deaths Shock Those Close To The Family > > By Doug kson, Simms and DeFour > http://is.gd/8mF1 > > Once a week last summer on a pasture in southeastern Wisconsin, > Dutter could be seen walking alongside a horse with his > 12-year-old son , who sat atop the horse holding the reins. > The father and son were regulars for more than two years at the > Darien horse farm, where a nonprofit organization called SMILES offers > therapeutic riding lessons for people with physical, cognitive and > emotional disabilities. > Firn, the director of instruction, remembers Dutter as a > patient and supportive dad. " We saw no conflict, " said Firn, adding > that news of the family's tragedy has come as a great shock. > On Tuesday, an anonymous 911 caller directed Madison police to a > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 OT....not really. Many families I've known have felt this hopelessness and helplessness. Caregiving can turn into a syndrome that can and often does affect mental health, especially when there is not a natural circle of support. Please folks in your efforts to move forward the quality of life for hyindividuals with ASD ensure there are support systems for parents, families, and individuals with ASD. Suicide rates are high and mental health issues affect about 30% of individuals with ASD. This is important, very important and communities need to come together, have places and resources for supporting families in these situations. We too should as parents never, ever question or judge each other because no matter the differences we are never in that other person's shoes 24/7 nor know what drives them nor is affecting them or their family. Please make sure your whole wellness is also something you are aware of. We are only assisting our kids if we take can of ourselves too. Yes this is something that occurs in families where disability is not a factor, however in this case this dad may have felt he had run out of choices and options to help his son. We need to work toward ensuring there is more family support so there is help if needed. Carolyn > > > > Deaths Shock Those Close To The Family > > > > By Doug kson, Simms and DeFour > > http://is.gd/8mF1 > > > > Once a week last summer on a pasture in southeastern > Wisconsin, > > Dutter could be seen walking alongside a horse with his > > 12-year-old son , who sat atop the horse holding the reins. > > The father and son were regulars for more than two years at > the > > Darien horse farm, where a nonprofit organization called SMILES > offers > > therapeutic riding lessons for people with physical, cognitive and > > emotional disabilities. > > Firn, the director of instruction, remembers Dutter as a > > patient and supportive dad. " We saw no conflict, " said Firn, adding > > that news of the family's tragedy has come as a great shock. > > On Tuesday, an anonymous 911 caller directed Madison police > to a > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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