Guest guest Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 I'll be blunt. The only way I got away from this with my wife, was to completely destroy all our possessions and start over with nothing but our wedding rings. 100%. no excuses. we did it four times keeping some things, and everytime, the mold and symptoms came back and reestablished.. if you really, reallly want to be free, leave it all behind. don't despair. It's just stuff. GOD will provide, and Angels will help. All computers must have data sent over internet to new servers and re download into new computers. do NOT keep ANYTHING. you will just prolong the agaony get rid of any cars too. they will just immediately reinfect remediation is a joke, it's literallly, scientifically, IMPOSSIBLE. save yourself years of further torture. destroy everything. make NO EXCEPTIONS find out where the nearest toxic materials dump is and have it taken there. we moved FOUR TIMES and didnt' destroy all, it never worked ! at the end, we arranged for friends to buy us new clothes, new glasses, new keys, new drivers license, and we tripped bagged up our last clothes leaving a note of special instructions for the hotel and ran accross a hotel hall NAKED (a kind of air lock maneurver !) to our new stuff. the spores are invisible and get into everything. we have been CLEAR for the past 8 years, since, and recovered our health. i don't use this email. if you want' to talk, I'm at cell phone 626 277 3581. or email david@.../ I'm busy and moving right now but I'm glad to talk. yes, it's extreme. but, are you ready for it to be OVER for GOOD?? david clark, http://www.linkedin.com/in/davidfclark/ > > Hi all, I'm sorry to be off-topic. I guess I just hope anyone can send a word of comfort. I am so angry. I left to go to my MIL's, and felt so much better. My dizziness, vertigo, ear pain, sinus pain, had etc. left. I started Cipro for my two infections. I had a small episode of allergies from petting and kissing cats, but otherwise felt, relatively speaking, great. I get back to the moldy condo, and what happens? Some allergies, no big deal, just some eyes weeping, nose running. Okay, I can deal with that, I think. After all, I have a cat here, maybe she's made me sick and I'll just have a few allergy symptoms like at my MIL's. Maybe most of my symptoms were related to the infections, I think. Maybe they seemed worse than they really were, I reason. Oh, no. Symptoms after symptoms have piled up through the night. My skin itches all over, my ear canals feel like someone is drilling through them, the bridge of my nose and cheeks feel like a fist is inside, pushing out against my skin. My skin starts burning up, I feel really sick, and for the first time I have a fever. I'm just so upset. I don't know how much more evidence I need, or how many more times it will take for me to leave and feel halfway normal again, only to return and feel the onslaught, for me to realize that this building is sick. Sick to me, sick to my cat, sick to my husband (though not as much as to me). > > Does this happen to anyone else--do you go through this thing where you leave, feel better, start thinking it's not as bad as you think, and then return and wonder why in the heck you ever questioned yourself? > > It's just so hard because I am an evidence-based person, a skeptic at heart. This whole thing puts me into mental gymnastics. I have my own evidence--at least, a strong correlation, which is all anybody has without absolute cause and effect--but it is so hard for me because as has been said so often, I will never have certainty. I suppose nothing is certain, though. There is evidence for all sorts of scientific theory we accept as fact, but not necessarily a cause-and-effect-level of certainty. Sigh. > > Thanks for reading. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 I feel your pain, I can relate. I had to leave my husband and move into a hotel to test a change in environment. I had to visit several hotels first because I became suddenly allergic to cats, pollen, dust mites,etc, so I found one that did not allow pets, the windows did not open, the air conditioning was inside,as opposed to hanging out the window. then I covered the bed with plastic and bought new linens of my own. Got a book called My House is Kiling Me. Spent a few days there recovering, felt so much better, Within a day of returning home I felt that old searing pain return to all the mucus membranes in my face, eyes. I knew aJt that point something drastic needed to be done to the house or leave. We did the best we could to make it a place I could live, like replacing carpets with hardwood, all curtains thrown out, totally painted, and more. Then we discovered the big monster in the master shower - it was totally molded behind the walls all the way up to the ceiling and into the attic. This mold had blown all over everything we owned and loved, including our children,pets. At this point, I knew I had to move out or I would die. I had surgery to remove lesions from my sinus, I was losing tons of weight because I couldn & #39;t come out of my bubble long enough to cook a meal. My husband would throw a carryout into my clean room like a caged animal would live. At first, the husband was upset, because strangely he did not have my symptoms. I packed a very small bag of clothing, a few personals, told him I loved him but had to leave or I would die. I moved into my favorite hotel and that is where I stayed for the next 5 months while the home continued to be remediated. It was hard to tell him I would never be able to return, no matter what the remediation. How lonely to spend x-mas, thanksgiving, new years in a hotel. But you will do this so you can breathe without pain. we are living in a rented home for now and he is more understanding now that the doctor has explained things. We have the luxury of experimenting with what we can bring and not. My experience has been that things like dishes, that are nonporous, can be washed offsite somewhere and brought into the new location. Think laundromat or self car wash. Had trouble with the dog despite thorough weekly baths. May shave off most fur and try again, but no sure yet. Compauters with fans or keyboards with gaps where dust has settled are not allowed. we went out and bought some cheap, minimal furniture and clothes at wall-mart.So this is our life now, need to dump our stuff from the old house and eventually sell and move on. Not easy. I am now a completely different person. Minimalist, not very social due to allergens carried in house. Hope to get better some day. Good luck with your tough decisions --I make my husband go naked too, from the garage door right to the shower! This is the only fun I have lately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 I'm sorry but I cannot believe that not once in those 8 years you did not come upon another bad exposure. Really? Then you do not have MCS or mold sickness because mold is everywhere as far as I can tell and chemicals, etc are all over. Unless you are a very lucky man! That's possible too. PS I'm still waiting for God to provide... > > I'll be blunt. The only way I got away from this with my wife, was to completely destroy all our possessions and start over with nothing but our wedding rings. 100%. no excuses. > > we did it four times keeping some things, and everytime, the mold and symptoms came back and reestablished.. > > if you really, reallly want to be free, leave it all behind. > > don't despair. It's just stuff. GOD will provide, and Angels will help. > > All computers must have data sent over internet to new servers and re download into new computers. do NOT keep ANYTHING. you will just prolong the agaony > > get rid of any cars too. they will just immediately reinfect > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2010 Report Share Posted September 5, 2010 Thank you for sharing this. I have some questions if you dont mind.. Im curious how long it took for you to get well once you took the final escape and if you did any detox? or antifungal treatment? How contaiminated was your house and was your cat ill? What symptoms did you have, continued to have, and how long before they went away? Any decrease at all, any relief with each move? Im getting some people need to go more extreme than others. I know someone who is at about 90% in less than a year relocating, brought in things, reacted to them and had to let them go.. still in same house.. not mold checked. He may find he needs to take further steps in the future. Still somewhat reactive to certain environments but ti seems leaving them is fine for him. Biggest issue is gut health. He also used csm, antifungals, rife, an antiviral, sauna, colon cleanses and more. ?? We are moving, taking our dog and nothing else. I am washing my glasses until I can get new ones (its time anyway) and washing credit cards, etc. wiping off cell phone until I can replace. changing out cars as well. I am monitoring shoemaker biotins pthway labs and re testing for infections (lyme, babesia, viral, etc) and keeping up with methylation protocol as well as KPU and my gut, candida (am I am going to try no grain and sugar best I can).. thus far I know to address these things. The receptionist at my DR office has a sister who had stachy in hr bathoom. She didnt leave the house during remediation or after and it seems she is fine. My husband has one of shoemakers dreaded genes and he is fine as far as we can tell... what he and I both would call minor symptoms.. so far. My kids, chronic candida and gut issues. Animals all fine. So.. what is the right path to take??? I dont know. I just know to get out of here as cleanly as we can and then if that doesnt work try again. I dont know how people figure out if they are extreme responders unless through trial and error. We are lucky to have a place to go that will not be permanant and are purchasing cheap furniture, clothes, thinking sparse but comfortable for my kids. I could care less at this point. If I am still not better when we decide where to relocate, we will not take anything with us again and consider the dog.. but I think like barb said.. the coat does change and we hope bating her often will help, but we shall see. Its the cats that concern me and are staying here until we decide what to do with house here and them. I think I am sensitive to their dander and honestly dont still have a grasp on how to keep a cat clean.. you would think they would get sick more than the dog since they lick themselves and dont get baths. Robin > > I'll be blunt. The only way I got away from this with my wife, was to completely destroy all our possessions and start over with nothing but our wedding rings. 100%. no excuses. > > we did it four times keeping some things, and everytime, the mold and symptoms came back and reestablished.. > > if you really, reallly want to be free, leave it all behind. > > don't despair. It's just stuff. GOD will provide, and Angels will help. > > All computers must have data sent over internet to new servers and re download into new computers. do NOT keep ANYTHING. you will just prolong the agaony > > get rid of any cars too. they will just immediately reinfect > > remediation is a joke, it's literallly, scientifically, IMPOSSIBLE. > > save yourself years of further torture. destroy everything. make NO EXCEPTIONS find out where the nearest toxic materials dump is and Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 Gail, you last statement made me chuckle. hehe, finding a joyfull minute in all of this is priceless. > > I feel your pain, I can relate. I had to leave my husband and move into a hotel to test a change in environment. I had to visit several hotels first because I became suddenly allergic to cats, pollen, dust mites,etc, so I found one that did not allow pets, the windows did not open, the air conditioning was inside,as opposed to hanging out the window. then I covered the bed with plastic and bought new linens of my own. Got a book called My House is Kiling Me. Spent a few days there recovering, felt so much better, Within a day of returning home I felt that old searing pain return to all the mucus membranes in my face, eyes. I knew aJt that point something drastic needed to be done to the house or leave. We did the best we could to make it a place I could live, like replacing carpets with hardwood, all curtains thrown out, totally painted, and more. Then we discovered the big monster in the master shower - it was totally molded behind the walls > all the way up to the ceiling and into the attic. This mold had blown all over everything we owned and loved, including our children,pets. At this point, I knew I had to move out or I would die. I had surgery to remove lesions from my sinus, I was losing tons of weight because I couldn & #39;t come out of my bubble long enough to cook a meal. My husband would throw a carryout into my clean room like a caged animal would live. > > At first, the husband was upset, because strangely he did not have my symptoms. I packed a very small bag of clothing, a few personals, told him I loved him but had to leave or I would die. I moved into my favorite hotel and that is where I stayed for the next 5 months while the home continued to be remediated. It was hard to tell him I would never be able to return, no matter what the remediation. How lonely to spend x-mas, thanksgiving, new years in a hotel. But you will do this so you can breathe without pain. > > we are living in a rented home for now and he is more understanding now that the doctor has explained things. > We have the luxury of experimenting with what we can bring and not. My experience has been that things like dishes, that are nonporous, can be washed offsite somewhere and brought into the new location. Think laundromat or self car wash. Had trouble with the dog despite thorough weekly baths. May shave off most fur and try again, but no sure yet. Compauters with fans or keyboards with gaps where dust has settled are not allowed. we went out and bought some cheap, minimal furniture and clothes at wall-mart.So this is our life now, need to dump our stuff from the old house and eventually sell and move on. Not easy. I am now a completely different person. Minimalist, not very social due to allergens carried in house. Hope to get better some day. Good luck with your tough decisions --I make my husband go naked too, from the garage door right to the shower! This is the only fun I have lately. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 You sound very lucky in alot of ways. You were able to find a hotel you could tolerate (I couldn't even stand the carpeting) and afford to pay for it. You seem to have a doctor that understands what is going on (Are you in NY because I'd love to go to him!). Your husband sounds pretty great! I did the same thing in my house but used up all our money doing it and now when problems arise so does my credit card balance. It's not easy to keep ahead of this. I just told my son that he can't come to my house anymore because he lives in a moldy basement and I've allowed visits for 2 years and now I'm paying for it-really sick again. Stay healthy! Surella > > I feel your pain, I can relate. I had to leave my husband and move into a hotel to test a change in environment. I had to visit several hotels first because I became suddenly allergic to cats, pollen, dust mites,etc, so I found one that did not allow pets, the windows did not open, the air conditioning was inside,as opposed to hanging out the window. then I covered the bed with plastic and bought new linens of my own. Got a book called My House is Kiling Me. Spent a few days there recovering, felt so much better, Within a day of returning home I felt that old searing pain return to all the mucus membranes in my face, eyes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 Dave, why are you moving this time? > > >we moved FOUR TIMES and didnt' destroy all, it never worked ! > if you want' to talk, email david@.../ I'm busy and moving right now but I'm glad to talk. > >david clark, > http://www.linkedin.com/in/davidfclark/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 I have to agree with Dave on this, get rid of everything thats the only way your going to recover. I tried bringing a few things with me after my first exposure and it just made my situation worst. I dont know what Im going to do with my truck as my credit is so bad due to the mold exposure I cant get a loan. Im hoping that my laptop isnt contaminated it's the only thing that will help me keep my sanity once I move and I wont have the money to buy another one. I had to move 4 different times within about 2 months till I finally got it right, Im not looking forward to that again, at least it's still warm and I wont have to freeze because I dont have any clothes like I did last winter. > > I'll be blunt. The only way I got away from this with my wife, was to completely destroy all our possessions and start over with nothing but our wedding rings. 100%. no excuses. > > we did it four times keeping some things, and everytime, the mold and symptoms came back and reestablished.. > > if you really, reallly want to be free, leave it all behind. > > don't despair. It's just stuff. GOD will provide, and Angels will help. > > All computers must have data sent over internet to new servers and re download into new computers. do NOT keep ANYTHING. you will just prolong the agaony > > get rid of any cars too. they will just immediately reinfect Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 IMO, it depends on how bad the mold is and what kind of mold before we can suggest throwing away everything. Being we can't see each others houses and how bad of an issue they have, telling one to throw it all out is not always the best thing to do. Heck, we have enough to worry about without having to worry about buying everything new. When moving from our moldy home, I too had to throw out things but 80% of my things were washable. I washed ALL of our clothes and doubled bagged them in thick trash bags. Heck, I even washed my husband's suits and to my surprise, I did not destroy them in doing so. When I washed the clothes, I ran them through 2 cycles with the one before the rinse being vinegar. However, I was a bit easier on the better clothing. I also washed all of our linens and blankets. If it was washable, I washed it. I only had to throw out a few articles of clothing because they would not come clean with wash. I got rid of all of my leather purses and shoes because the leather tends to breed mold when in a damp building. I had to get rid of my mattresses (3 of them) and my very nice sectional couch because there was no way to remove the mold from those. With my wood furniture, I cleaned it all with a strong disinfectant on the day of the move. I cleaned every piece of furniture inside and out. I washed all of our dishes pots, pans, nick knacks and etc before I packed them. When I got to our new home, I found only one piece of furniture which still smelled musty so out it went. I did find some cords which stunk so I took them outside and cleaned each one with disinfectant and let them sun. I then bagged them up and put them away. They no longer stunk. I just washed and disinfected everything. I know there are some homes which everything must be thrown out but being we can't see what each other is dealing with in their homes, we really can't suggest to them to throw it all out. I started 2 months before we moved and I cleaned up until our moving date. I placed the things in the room which was not so affected by mold and had everything in double plastic and thick trash bags. My daughter and her boyfriend said I was OCD because I went to extremes in cleaning everything... but who cares, because I got it all done. I recovered and I did not throw everything away. If one is not willing to go the extra mile and knock themselves out cleaning everything, in that case, everything does need to be thrown out. I was very sick when I had to do all of that cleaning but I did it and had less to worry about replacing. I still have not replaced all of the mattresses and only recently replaced my sofa. > > > > I have to agree with Dave on this, get rid of everything thats the only way your going to recover. <SNIP> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 This sounds like a great strategy and is one in which many of my clients have also found successful. Each house must be evaluted on a case by case basis, with a dose of common sense added in. Connie Morbach > > > > > > > > I have to agree with Dave on this, get rid of everything thats the only way your going to recover. <SNIP> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 Jackie, I'm glad to here you recovered w/o throwing everything out. We're a work in progress. We didn't test, w our budget. I wasn't a list member before moving & didn't know what I do now. W/O seeing our place a local mold specialist advised us to throw out everything fabric unless we washed it & let it dry in the sun. He too said wash & bag clothes. We noticed our clothes smelled after getting here. I threw more out & washed what we wanted 5 times to get it out. Little by little I noticed some things bothering me, so threw most furniture we started with out. We've been buying a little at a time. I check out estate sales & craigslist for big furniture items to save. If the house smells weird or isn't spotless I leave. Keep in mind, I have no idea if it was contaminated or now was reacting to what it was made of. My husband bought a computer desk w melamine, b/c I wasn't with him. I had to get rid of it. It's hard for family members to understand the bigger canaries sometimes. Now I react more than used to to what kids binders & backpacks are made of . We kept our computers w our budget & wiped them off. Would take us a a few years to replace anyway. We're not having problems w them that I can tell. Kathy From: CU <jackiebreeze@...> Subject: [] Re: OT: rant: I cannot believe it's all come back = THE FINAL ESCAPE. NOT EASY. Date: Tuesday, September 7, 2010, 11:30 AM IMO, it depends on how bad the mold is and what kind of mold before we can suggest throwing away everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 This was true for me too. I was able to save a couple of hand knitted blankets by washing them and used vinegar too. I found some pictures behind a moldy frame that were untouched. But the truth is it must have been VERY hard for you to do this. I know alot of things I might have saved got thrown out because I was too sick to do the cleaning. At one point it was impossible for me to go into the basement and my saintly mom went down with some handimen and just threw out everything. I try not to think about it because its not worth it-the basement is good now and that's what counts. Good for you that you had such a success! and ignore the OCD comments-no one will understand it as well as you. Surella > > IMO, it depends on how bad the mold is and what kind of mold before we can suggest throwing away everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 It was very hard and on top of it, I was going back and forth to my elderly mother who was in her final year of life. Mom at times was very demanding and could not understand how sick the mold was making me. I am pretty sure that I injured my back while doing so much work. The back is another story for another kind of group but the injury is connected to the mold issue. I just had to keep on pushing myself because I knew we did not have money to replace everything with me being out of work and we could not go naked so I had to do what I had to do. It was very rough to the point that I thought I was going to die through it all. > > This was true for me too. I was able to save a couple of hand knitted blankets by washing them and used vinegar too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 MY daughter thought so too,but a therapist assured me my cleaning and bagging things had a purpose, namely to avoid illness, whereas OCD has no rational purpose associated with the behavior. Since my daughter didn't seem so affected as me, I think she was trying to manipulate my behavior to get her old Mom back. > > This was true for me too. I was able to save a couple of hand knitted blankets by washing them and used vinegar too. I found some pictures behind a moldy frame that were untouched. > But the truth is it must have been VERY hard for you to do this. I know alot of things I might have saved got thrown out because I was too sick to do the cleaning. At one point it was impossible for me to go into the basement and my saintly mom went down with some handimen and just threw out everything. I try not to think about it because its not worth it-the basement is good now and that's what counts. > Good for you that you had such a success! and ignore the OCD comments-no one will understand it as well as you. > Surella > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 I admire your will and strength. Thats not OCD.. thats smart. And it worked for you. Thats good to know to balance out experiences on the list. Robin > > > > This was true for me too. I was able to save a couple of hand knitted blankets by washing them and used vinegar too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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