Re: fiance's reduced sex drive

[Guest guest]

WOW YOU SOUND JUST LIKE MY HUSBAND! I CANT TELL YOU WHAT YOUR FIANCEE

FEELS BUT WHEN I WAS ON LEXAPRO I DIDNT WANT MY HUSBAND ANYWHERE NEAR

ME, I THOUGHT THAT EVEN A HUG WAS HIM TRYING TO HAVE SEX BECAUSE I HAD

NO DESIRE FOR SEX, NONE. I DIDNT WANT ANYONE AROUND ME I JUST WANTED

TO STAY HOME BYMYSELF AND WATCH TV AND DO MY HOMEWORK. KEEP TRYING TO

TALK TO HER AND DONT GIVE UP I JUST TOLD MY HUSBAND THIS SAME STUFF 2

WEEKS AGO AND IVE BEEN TAKING LEXAPRO FOR 2 YEARS.

[Guest guest]

I'd be surpsrised if anybody could feel sexual on that toxic cocktail.

Quitting the provera might help but I doubt it. If you want a sexual

relationship, you will have to persuade her to come off the drugs and

hope that things reverse (provided, of course, that it is safe for her

to come off them at this time).

To give her some incentive, you might want to tell her about this

group. The longer she stays on them, the greater the chance that the

effects will persist when she stops.

Vornan

>

> please help me to adjust to this by giving me some tips. she is on

> prozac, klonapin and zantc also she just came off of depo prevera.

her

> overall level/capacity of any form of intimacy (never mind actually

> having sex) is completly out the window. she barely even let's me

> touch her in an innocent way. this is really wearing on my self

esteem

> as i am left to try and decypher what is going on because she won't

> even talk about it...other than for me to just drop it, stop bringing

> it up and don't try to initate it.

>

[Guest guest]

hello,

thanks for the reply. i have been doing some research and there are a

number of natural herbs that can be taken to increase sex drive. the

problem is that it seems as if she doesn't even have the desire to do

anything about it...is that normal. the comment about your husband

going to give you a hug and you responding as if he wanted sex is all

to common and often. when i feel as if i am not even desired for an

innocent touch it just makes feel so worthless and unneeded. things of

coarse escalate to her saying/insisting... " there you go again...your

mad because i'm not IN THE MOOD for sex...here we go again...would you

just give up and give it a rest " . now think about it for a second, how

the hell would you feel? hopefully you are open and understanding

enough to his feelings and needs. if you are i am willing to bet that

you weren't always...if so how did the transformation take place...what

can i do or say to help her understand that this really hurts me and

ultimately us?

thanks

>

> WOW YOU SOUND JUST LIKE MY HUSBAND! I CANT TELL YOU WHAT YOUR FIANCEE

> FEELS BUT WHEN I WAS ON LEXAPRO I DIDNT WANT MY HUSBAND ANYWHERE NEAR

> ME, I THOUGHT THAT EVEN A HUG WAS HIM TRYING TO HAVE SEX BECAUSE I

HAD

> NO DESIRE FOR SEX, NONE. I DIDNT WANT ANYONE AROUND ME I JUST WANTED

> TO STAY HOME BYMYSELF AND WATCH TV AND DO MY HOMEWORK. KEEP TRYING TO

> TALK TO HER AND DONT GIVE UP I JUST TOLD MY HUSBAND THIS SAME STUFF 2

> WEEKS AGO AND IVE BEEN TAKING LEXAPRO FOR 2 YEARS.

>

[Guest guest]

it wasnt easy. we went through many, many fights about it. he fought i

sat there. i wouldnt say any thing. because of the lack of desire i

thought anytime he came near me thats what he wanted even though he

didnt. i know your fiancee doesnt want to talk about it. i didnt

either i just wanted to be left alone. my best friend and sat me down

and told me straight out i was runining my marriage and that i wasnt

the same person that he knew anymore. he kept telling me and finally i

realized that i wasnt feeling, happy, sad, mad. nothing. have you went

to the doctor with her. discuss your feelings about what the med has

her acting like. hopefully she will realize. it sucks but my hubby

felt the same way rejected. he says when you get rejected enough why

would you want to be around anymore. keep telling her you love her and

remember you havent done anything wrong.