Guest guest Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 > > I've been posting like crazy this morning and I know why. > > 1. I am avoiding going to pick out paint. How does one decide on a > color when one has no preference? Also, I hate shopping. > > 2. Avoiding my own thoughts. So many things are getting me down and I > don't want a pity party. I just get sick of living in a world that > doesn't seem to get any better. > > Someone give my butt a verbal kicking out the door! Logically, I know > that if I get the paint I'll be able to throw myself into that job. > The completed job will allow me to put my home back in order and give > me a sense of calm. Plus I'll be to busy to read or think about the > crap that bugs me. Oh, that's avoidance too. > > Kim > I would try to help you, but I would either feel hypocritical or have to go get my work done. *LOL* I have two bags of bulbs that need to be planted soon or else I'll have to wait until spring... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 > > I've been posting like crazy this morning and I know why. > > 1. I am avoiding going to pick out paint. How does one decide on a > color when one has no preference? Also, I hate shopping. > > 2. Avoiding my own thoughts. So many things are getting me down and I > don't want a pity party. I just get sick of living in a world that > doesn't seem to get any better. > > Someone give my butt a verbal kicking out the door! Logically, I know > that if I get the paint I'll be able to throw myself into that job. > The completed job will allow me to put my home back in order and give > me a sense of calm. Plus I'll be to busy to read or think about the > crap that bugs me. Oh, that's avoidance too. > > Kim > I would try to help you, but I would either feel hypocritical or have to go get my work done. *LOL* I have two bags of bulbs that need to be planted soon or else I'll have to wait until spring... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 What colors calm you or feel like they belong in your home, I went against my nature and painted my walls pink, but sponged over them with a shade of white, and used a shade of burgandy on the woodwork. I don't like red, but the over all effect is very soothing and calming, I found that once I painted my living room, dining room and hall way,( burgandy rugs, and chocolate brown furnature, and a wood, built in for the tv, lots of wood, dining room is all wood). its the most comfortable place to be in my home. I was apprehensive at first but once it was done its really soothing. Go get samples and hold them up and play see what you like that is soothing for you. Bethsox_100 <epitome_hawke@...> wrote: >> I've been posting like crazy this morning and I know why. > > 1. I am avoiding going to pick out paint. How does one decide on a > color when one has no preference? Also, I hate shopping.> > 2. Avoiding my own thoughts. So many things are getting me down and I > don't want a pity party. I just get sick of living in a world that > doesn't seem to get any better. > > Someone give my butt a verbal kicking out the door! Logically, I know > that if I get the paint I'll be able to throw myself into that job. > The completed job will allow me to put my home back in order and give > me a sense of calm. Plus I'll be to busy to read or think about the > crap that bugs me. Oh, that's avoidance too. > > Kim>I would try to help you, but I would either feel hypocritical or haveto go get my work done. *LOL* I have two bags of bulbs that need tobe planted soon or else I'll have to wait until spring... Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 > I would try to help you, but I would either feel hypocritical or have > to go get my work done. *LOL* I have two bags of bulbs that need to > be planted soon or else I'll have to wait until spring... I just got a reprieve in the form of a phone call from hubby who says he will go with me tonight to look at paint samples. I did the same thing with bulbs two years ago, ordered them, they came and sat for weeks. Should have saved my money though, the darn squirrels ate most of them. Next year I'm planting Yarrow. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2007 Report Share Posted November 14, 2007 > 1. How does one decide on a color when one has no preference? You know, I just picked out paint for my house this past summer, so I can tell you how I did it... I took a series of Nature Photos I liked a lot and used them to find my pallet. It was fun because it took the pressure off of coming up with a color scheme myself, I just used the photos I had taken. Other ideas I had were to look through magazines and copy what they had done that I liked - and interestingly I've found a few rooms that look similar to the color schemes I came up with using my photo! If you're interested, I could post links to photos of what we did - it's not done yet, but it could give you an idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > > What colors calm you or feel like they belong in your home It used to be a tan and blue. We like wood, have light honey oak cabinets but need to get new tile, carpet, and furniture. We also have a six burner stainless steel stove to take into consideration. I feel calm when my home looks orderly, color doesn't seem to effect my mood or at least I don't realize a difference. I went against my nature and painted my walls pink, but sponged over them with a shade of white, and used a shade of burgandy on the woodwork. I don't like red, but the over all effect is very soothing and calming, I found that once I painted my living room, dining room and hall way,( burgandy rugs, and chocolate brown furnature, and a wood, built in for the tv, lots of wood, dining room is all wood). its the most comfortable place to be in my home. I was apprehensive at first but once it was done its really soothing. Go get samples and hold them up and play see what you like that is soothing for you. That sounds nice. I think I want something that has depth as well. I do have a booklet on how to paint to make the walls look like linen and other textures too. Maybe my problem is that I'm too wishy-washy when given so many choices. Thanks for the imput. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > > > 1. How does one decide on a color when one has no preference? > > You know, I just picked out paint for my house this past summer, so I > can tell you how I did it... I took a series of Nature Photos I liked a > lot and used them to find my pallet. > > It was fun because it took the pressure off of coming up with a color > scheme myself, I just used the photos I had taken. Ah Ha! That is a great idea too. I too have many nature pictures I could utilize. > Other ideas I had were to look through magazines and copy what they had > done that I liked - and interestingly I've found a few rooms that look > similar to the color schemes I came up with using my photo! > > If you're interested, I could post links to photos of what we did - it's > not done yet, but it could give you an idea. Thanks, that would be nice. I wish my camera weren't broken or I'd take some pictures to show you guys how hideous the house looks right now. Kim > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > > Thanks, that would be nice. I wish my camera weren't broken or I'd take some pictures to show you guys how hideous the house looks right now. Before we got our new floors I used to say our carpets looked like " Pollock " paintings... Downstairs it's still bad... embarrassingly so. Here are a few of the inspiration photos: http://www.flickr.com/photos/jedielfqueen/276737964/in/set-72157594354086888/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/jedielfqueen/276737963/in/set-72157594354086888/ http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/bottom3.jpg http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/back-1.jpg And here is the blue room: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5109-1.jpg http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5110.jpg The Green Room: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5107-1.jpg http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5108.jpg And..... the Pink room: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_2838.jpg http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_2840.jpg I was going to hang the photos all over, but unfortunately when I took the photos I didn't know about resolution, so they are all very small and cannot be blown up without a pixilation effect. We've put a few of them in the bathroom... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 Wow the blue room is really nice, calming. I really like blue, but many people say it is a cold colour - it just looks so calming and cool to me though. Really liked the style of that white dress too, is that something you, or someone is making/made? I also like the green room - the walls are very nice, smooth and clear of clutter - infact you're very tidy. I tend to end up collecting, hoarding stuff and seriously need to have a good tidy/sort out/chuck out/send to charity/sell soon. Wasn't too keen on the pink, was a bit bright for my taste and I not really a fan of pink. I find colour very important, now you got me wanting to decorate :-) However I can't just decorate how I want where I live, the house is rented, so I would have to okay any colours I use with the landlady. I might just re-paint the living room before I leave, I really want to move next year. This is a cold damp house I living in at the moment, with no garden. > > > > > Thanks, that would be nice. I wish my camera weren't broken or I'd > take some pictures to show you guys how hideous the house looks right now. > > Before we got our new floors I used to say our carpets looked like > " Pollock " paintings... Downstairs it's still bad... > embarrassingly so. > > Here are a few of the inspiration photos: > http://www.flickr.com/photos/jedielfqueen/276737964/in/set- 72157594354086888/ > http://www.flickr.com/photos/jedielfqueen/276737963/in/set- 72157594354086888/ > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/bottom3.jpg > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/back-1.jpg > > And here is the blue room: > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5109-1.jpg > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5110.jpg > > The Green Room: > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5107-1.jpg > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_5108.jpg > > And..... the Pink room: > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_2838.jpg > http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/IMG_2840.jpg > > I was going to hang the photos all over, but unfortunately when I took > the photos I didn't know about resolution, so they are all very small > and cannot be blown up without a pixilation effect. We've put a > few of them in the bathroom... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > > Wow the blue room is really nice, calming. I really like blue, but > many people say it is a cold colour - it just looks so calming and > cool to me though. That is my favorite room in the house - it's where I do my reading, sewing and yoga. It is very calming, it doesn't feel cool at all. Maybe it's the shade? > Really liked the style of that white dress too, is > that something you, or someone is making/made? It was a wedding dress I made for someone this past summer. I sew costumes mostly, but haven't done any of that lately because of other projects. > I also like the green room - the walls are very nice, smooth and > clear of clutter - infact you're very tidy. I tend to end up > collecting, hoarding stuff and seriously need to have a good > tidy/sort out/chuck out/send to charity/sell soon. I used to be a huge hoarder and have in the last 3-4 years really tried to get rid of the clutter just because it was so hard to feel calm in a mess. My bedroom has a lot of fabric stored still, so that's my next project. *L* It's bare mostly because it's newly painted and I'm procrastinating on what to do with it. I want to hang photos, but deciding what is really hard. > Wasn't too keen on the pink, was a bit bright for my taste and I not > really a fan of pink. When I selected that color just about everyone thought I was nuts, but I stuck to my decision figuring if they are all right and it's terrible it's a small room that I can redo. People generally either love or hate the room... most actually love it (or are too polite to say they don't *L*) It's much better in person and the favorite bathroom that people use when they come over. > > I find colour very important, now you got me wanting to decorate :-) > However I can't just decorate how I want where I live, the house is > rented, so I would have to okay any colours I use with the landlady. > I might just re-paint the living room before I leave, I really want > to move next year. This is a cold damp house I living in at the > moment, with no garden. We lived as if we were in an apartment for 7 years before I had the guts to make a change away from neutrals. It's a much happier place to be now. If you wanted a change that is easy to take down I have heard of people thumb tacking fabric to the walls in their apartment. Some places sell fabric for as little as $1 a yard... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > Your flower & butterfly photos are very nice. I like the vivid colors. Thank you! > The blue room is the same shade my daughter picked and has in her room. > She's a blue fanatic! It's my favorite color too. We used it all the way up the stair case and into the hall upstairs as well. I may do something similar in our bedroom, but not sure at this point. > I am not fond of the green or pink. They are very bright. *L* >My son's > room is a color we call Link Green. Link is a video game character from > the Legend of Zelda. My youngest son wants red in his room! We may just do one wall red... My oldest refuses to have anything in his room changed, which is a problem because his ceiling and walls are the worst worn and he needs the carpet ripped out because of his allergies. Any ideas on getting an aspie to accept such a major change would be welcomed. *L* He's come to tears many times over it so we have dropped it for now. > I tried to go back through all of my photos and > saw that I have only a few of the rooms that I am redoing. None that > show what colors used to be there, the focus was on the persons sitting > in the rooms. Thanks for posting the pics. That seems to be the same thing in our rooms. Here is a photo of the blue room before the changes: Before: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/Family/set1.jpg And I forgot an other trick I do to figure out what something will look like. From this photo you can see that I took a picture of my staircase and then colored in what it would look like once painted. I did this with the color scheme as well... went to one of those paint selection places to see if my three colors would work together: My room painted on the computer: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/Family/blueroomtemp\ late.jpg A couch I want for my green room with a possible rug: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/Family/greenroomste\ ppingstones.jpg The color scheme thing I did on line: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/Family/silveryblue2\ ..jpg http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/Family/wildpink.jpg http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v735/epitome_hawke/Family/peony.jpg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 " Avoiding my own thoughts. So many things are getting me down and I don't want a pity party. I just get sick of living in a world that doesn't seem to get any better. " I know what you mean. Lately I have been having my own trials and triubulations. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > I know what you mean. Lately I have been having my own trials and > triubulations. I'm all ears if you want to disclose anything. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > > > > I know what you mean. Lately I have been having my own trials and > > triubulations. You know that I understand if you don't want to talk about it too. I have almost given up here at home, trying to be frank about how I feel because nothing seems to help. I either keep it in my head that I want to keep going or mull over the alternative and I've been on this track for a long time. Can a person be considered suicidal if they don't have an actual plan? I know it sounds aweful and no one wants to hear that someone they know actually thinks about death all the time but too bad, I do. Kim > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > > Kim asked: " ... <snip> ... Can a person be considered suicidal if they > don't have an actual plan? ... <snip> ... " > > YES. I'm here and I'm gonna keep typing, so don't fret over my state of mind ok? I have you guys and that helps tremendously. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > > Kim asked: " ... <snip> ... Can a person be considered suicidal if they > don't have an actual plan? ... <snip> ... " > > YES. I'm here and I'm gonna keep typing, so don't fret over my state of mind ok? I have you guys and that helps tremendously. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > I think the best thing to do when this happens is to indulge one's > self in things that are comforting. A long hot shower, lots of > chocolate, plenty of sleep or whatever works well. We talked about hot showers & baths and I said we turned down our water heater to save money. Well after my last luke warm shower I said the heck with the bill and went down and turned that puppy back to HOT! > > I think there have been folks who say that sleeping a lot is a sign > of depression and that to get into that funk is not good. It's > avoidance. I suppose it is. But I also think that the mind and body > know what they need, and if not facing the world for a while prevents > the mind and body from taking its own life, then I see nothing wrong > with long extended sleeps. My husband did that, sleep, sleep, take some pills, sleep.... I just can't do it. I would like to hide but the little ones need me. > The only thing that prevents me from doing so is that where I live I > am surrounded by bright happy people that are not affected by > anything that life throws at them, and they seem to believe that I > should act the same way. I knew a co-worker at my old job who put in > a tape of really " fun " music when 9/11 was going on so she didn't > have to deal with all the bad feelings associated with it. These are > the sort of people who make me even more depressed. Ugh, that would get under my very last nerve! Is it, misery loves company or just wanting people to be real? Kim P.S. Notice how I am still avoiding my picking a color? At least I'm not avoiding those bad thoughts anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > I think the best thing to do when this happens is to indulge one's > self in things that are comforting. A long hot shower, lots of > chocolate, plenty of sleep or whatever works well. We talked about hot showers & baths and I said we turned down our water heater to save money. Well after my last luke warm shower I said the heck with the bill and went down and turned that puppy back to HOT! > > I think there have been folks who say that sleeping a lot is a sign > of depression and that to get into that funk is not good. It's > avoidance. I suppose it is. But I also think that the mind and body > know what they need, and if not facing the world for a while prevents > the mind and body from taking its own life, then I see nothing wrong > with long extended sleeps. My husband did that, sleep, sleep, take some pills, sleep.... I just can't do it. I would like to hide but the little ones need me. > The only thing that prevents me from doing so is that where I live I > am surrounded by bright happy people that are not affected by > anything that life throws at them, and they seem to believe that I > should act the same way. I knew a co-worker at my old job who put in > a tape of really " fun " music when 9/11 was going on so she didn't > have to deal with all the bad feelings associated with it. These are > the sort of people who make me even more depressed. Ugh, that would get under my very last nerve! Is it, misery loves company or just wanting people to be real? Kim P.S. Notice how I am still avoiding my picking a color? At least I'm not avoiding those bad thoughts anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > White couch, with kids? Your brave! With the multitudes of bloody > noses my daughter has and the intesity in which they gush, I couldn't > ever think of white. As they are getting older I am getting braver... but it's the 'leather' part that makes it a bit easier to clean and it doesn't store the dust mites as badly. > My mother's home, my home as a kid was always neutral. My mom had every > color of ecru, just renamed on the walls with the exception of the > kitchen, which was always yellow and bathroom, that went through some > weird phases (like the psychedelic butterflies) and the carpets were > always a mottled tan to hide the dog & cat hair. She refused to put > anything darker on the walls for fear of making the rooms look smaller. We moved a lot and I think we always had white walls because of that...except for the time my mom painted a rainbow on my wall. My parents still have very neutral walls and traditional furniture... It all looks very nice, but is very safe - though my mom is getting a bit more daring in her kitchen. I was inspired mostly by friends of ours from Switzerland who have various rooms with bright colors and neat/clean style. It always feels so clean, spacious and peaceful there and I wanted that feel for my home. Their colors are much darker though... but she likes my pink bathroom a lot. *L* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 > White couch, with kids? Your brave! With the multitudes of bloody > noses my daughter has and the intesity in which they gush, I couldn't > ever think of white. As they are getting older I am getting braver... but it's the 'leather' part that makes it a bit easier to clean and it doesn't store the dust mites as badly. > My mother's home, my home as a kid was always neutral. My mom had every > color of ecru, just renamed on the walls with the exception of the > kitchen, which was always yellow and bathroom, that went through some > weird phases (like the psychedelic butterflies) and the carpets were > always a mottled tan to hide the dog & cat hair. She refused to put > anything darker on the walls for fear of making the rooms look smaller. We moved a lot and I think we always had white walls because of that...except for the time my mom painted a rainbow on my wall. My parents still have very neutral walls and traditional furniture... It all looks very nice, but is very safe - though my mom is getting a bit more daring in her kitchen. I was inspired mostly by friends of ours from Switzerland who have various rooms with bright colors and neat/clean style. It always feels so clean, spacious and peaceful there and I wanted that feel for my home. Their colors are much darker though... but she likes my pink bathroom a lot. *L* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 Kim wrote: " This sounds all too familar. I'll let you have the gold really cared for gold anyway. " Thing is, I don't want the gold but whatever ... R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 Kim wrote: " This sounds all too familar. I'll let you have the gold really cared for gold anyway. " Thing is, I don't want the gold but whatever ... R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 " I'm here and I'm gonna keep typing, so don't fret over my state of mind ok? I have you guys and that helps tremendously. " We're here too, although we might not always respond promptly. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 " I'm here and I'm gonna keep typing, so don't fret over my state of mind ok? I have you guys and that helps tremendously. " We're here too, although we might not always respond promptly. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2007 Report Share Posted November 15, 2007 " At least I'm not avoiding those bad thoughts anymore. " Maybe it's because right now, after all this time of keeping them in, it feels a good time to be dealing with them. Personally, I don't see why people MUST deal with whatever they are feeling instantaneously. Aren't people better able to deal with their feelings when they are the most receptive to them? That NOT dealing with our feelings can cause disruption in our lives is important, yet the older I get, the more I am coming to believe that if something weighs so heavily on my mind that I cannot function, the best thing to do is to remove that thing from my life...and I do that, but only when I am mentally prepared to focus on it. Most of the healing I have done in my life has been the result of self-motivation. But it has taken a long time. I don't think it is bad thing if the result is good. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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