Back to growing up as a family and the future

[Guest guest]

When we were approached by the sister of the sister in law about the

Group Home thing, I felt that I could enlighten her about how people

may feel or think at the present without going back to the group

home scenarios of the 50s and 60s.

My husband and I have thought of purchasing a small home near our

home

and possibly having a few other people that we know would work for

be room mates. Hopefully we would know their families and

could support each other in our efforts.

I think we could have some help for the people who lived at the

house,

have transportation for the people who live at the house and find a

comfort zone for all members of our family.

I truly am not sure about what my older children will do, exaclty

and what situations they may find themselves in. Maybe they will

marry, maybe they will be single, maybe they will have children,

maybe they will have their own businesses. I guess at this point in

time we do not have a clear crystal ball for anyone of them.

We have thought about setting up our will so that the older children

will get our $ and that they will help with the money that the

two older ones will get. I am pretty sure they will do this.

I'm not sure that they will have to be fully responsible for

as he may actually want to be on his own. We do think he will need

help though.

So far we have been a tight family and seem to be there for each

other.

I also help closely with my Mom, and if learning by example helps, I

hope that my example will affect my children.

We have also helped other family members in the past. The

experiences have brought us lots of fun and laughs along with a few

tears.

But, hey! Isn't that what life is about?

Jean

[Guest guest]

Depends what state you are in. GA for example - at this point- will not

allow any more group homes which have more than 2 people. So if I buy a

house for Elie and a friend and staff, he would not be able to get waiver

funding to pay for the residential portion.

IF you leave money to your other kids for this child, your other kids will

be taxed on the proceeds. You might want to ask how you state handles

special needs trusts or (my agent provider suggested this, but I am still

investigating) a testmentary trust. These are trusts to supplement but not

surplant other sourvces of funding.

Because this is such a complicated issue, and because families change over

time, continueing the conversation is always useful..

You could also look at specialneedshousing@... for some other

ideas, issues that people are discussing.

The important thing is the dialogue.

> When we were approached by the sister of the sister in law about the

> Group Home thing, I felt that I could enlighten her about how people

> may feel or think at the present without going back to the group

> home scenarios of the 50s and 60s.

>

> My husband and I have thought of purchasing a small home near our

> home

> and possibly having a few other people that we know would work for

> be room mates. Hopefully we would know their families and

> could support each other in our efforts.

>

> I think we could have some help for the people who lived at the

> house,

> have transportation for the people who live at the house and find a

> comfort zone for all members of our family.

>

> I truly am not sure about what my older children will do, exaclty

> and what situations they may find themselves in. Maybe they will

> marry, maybe they will be single, maybe they will have children,

> maybe they will have their own businesses. I guess at this point in

> time we do not have a clear crystal ball for anyone of them.

>

> We have thought about setting up our will so that the older children

> will get our $ and that they will help with the money that the

> two older ones will get. I am pretty sure they will do this.

>

> I'm not sure that they will have to be fully responsible for

> as he may actually want to be on his own. We do think he will need

> help though.

>

> So far we have been a tight family and seem to be there for each

> other.

>

> I also help closely with my Mom, and if learning by example helps, I

> hope that my example will affect my children.

>

> We have also helped other family members in the past. The

> experiences have brought us lots of fun and laughs along with a few

> tears.

>

> But, hey! Isn't that what life is about?

>

> Jean

>

>

>

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Sara - Life is a journey- we choose the path.