Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 I believe the information in these 2 links is still valid. http://www.ds-health.com/benke.htm http://www.ds-health.com/prenatal.htm Also believe I've seen the risk of recurrence stated in different ways. Dr. Benke says 1 in 100 or double the risk for age, whichever is greater. I've seen it given as risk for age plus 1%. But think those often work out not too different. -- Bob Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Dunno about the latest, but when I was pregnant with my daugher, now 18 mos old, they told me that my chances as a " repeat " mom, versus other moms my age who didn't have a child with DS, were about 1% higher (I'm over 35). They said that this number was really just a " cover your butt " and that there really doesn't seem to be any difference. Annika is fine. > > Without getting into the whole amnio and should a woman test or not, > what are the chances of having a 2nd baby with Down syndrome? I have a > condition called Neurofibromatosis Type 1, and with each child, I have > a 50% chance of passing it on, regardless of my age. But I thought I > heard lately that age does not matter for a woman to pass on DS. I > know many mothers under 30 who have had DS babies. Just curious what > the latest info is. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Up to age 40, it's about 1%. After that, it goes up with age-related risk. I just happen to be volunteering today at the DS clinic here, and asked the nurse practicioner that runs the clinic. Carole, mom to , 11 1/2 Dallas, TX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Before I had my son w/DS at age 32, my chances were about 1/700. No one in my huge family had a child with Down Syndrome. The geneticist told me afterward that at age 33, my chances were about 1/100, but as I got older they went way up. For example by the time I was 40 they would be 1/25. Fortunately we had already had our daughter, who is very bright ( & " normal " ), so we opted out of having any more kids. The geneticist said she didn't know exactly why our chances went up, but based on statistics our chances are higher. I do know a family who has 2 kids with DS. It seems like of the families that I know, many of them are either pretty much done with child-bearing when they have a child with DS or they decide that they are. Please don't be offended, this is my OPINION, but whenever I see a pregnant mom of a child with Down Syndrome, I think of how brave they are to do it again. For those of you who have adopted, I think you are wonderful. I didn't choose this life, but you did and some of you have multiple kids with various disabilities. My hat is off to you. I'm not a very patient person, but my son has forced me to learn it. We are thinking about coming to Indianapolis & if so, I would love to meet those of you who are there. - KCMO, mom to 15 DS, ASD PDD-NOS **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape. http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 , Hi my name is Cyndi and my son 12 has DS/autism.I was 31 when I had my son and the Dr. did not suspect anything. I did some bleeding and I felt that my body was trying to abort the baby so I called the Dr. and asked him to do another ultrasound.The ultrasound was going fine and I was about to be dismissed when my husband asked the ultrasound tech,does our child have 10 fingers and toes and everything a little boy should have? The ultrasound tech that we were hiding genetic defects in our family without coming out and saying that at the time.The tech went to get a high risk Dr. to look at the ultrasound because of my husbands questions and not because of something she saw.The high risk Dr. said based on the fact that his legs look short into the circumfrence of his head I had a 2% chance of having a child with DS.I called my Dr. and was upset.He told me he would look at everything and get back with me and when he did this is what he said. " I have looked at everything and your baby is going to be fine afterall you had a perfectly healthy baby the 1st time " .They missed so much his heart defect, the Down Syndrome, and letting me lay so long I had to have him natural child birth.In my small circle of existing friends after 's birth both of them had children with DS and both of their children was the second child and not the first.My mother was 35 when she had me and I am not Ds.I think not only is autism on the rise but so is Ds. I belong to the local Ds group and myself with 2 others had tried to have meetings about DS and autism but we 3 are the only ones who show up.I would love to expend the support group here.Before I knew about this group 3 yrs ago I started an online support group but very few people have joined.I would love to meet others in our group.I have not meet anyone his with a child that is dual dx that has the challenges most of our children have with SIB,head banging,not potty trained,fecal smearing,screaming,etc. My friends kids only are DS and seem pretty normal to me maybe just a little slow. I knew as a young person I could not handle having a child with DS and that was my worst fear. Little did I know having autism was way worst.I like you have had to learn to accept the things that I cannot change.I agree the ones on this list that have chosen to adopt a kid with Ds/autism those are the special people.The teachers, and aids that work with these kids those are special people.I am not special but I try hard to help my little guy be the best person he can be.I to have a daughter that is extremely bright and is wonderful with her little brother.My daughter loves her little brother and has been a big helps since she was 3yr old when he was born. How old is your daughter? Cyndi B > > Before I had my son w/DS at age 32, my chances were about 1/700. No > one in my huge family had a child with Down Syndrome. The geneticist told me > afterward that at age 33, my chances were about 1/100, but as I got older they > went way up. For example by the time I was 40 they would be 1/25. > Fortunately we had already had our daughter, who is very bright ( & " normal " ), so we > opted out of having any more kids. > > The geneticist said she didn't know exactly why our chances went up, but > based on statistics our chances are higher. I do know a family who has 2 kids > with DS. It seems like of the families that I know, many of them are either > pretty much done with child-bearing when they have a child with DS or they > decide that they are. Please don't be offended, this is my OPINION, but > whenever I see a pregnant mom of a child with Down Syndrome, I think of how brave > they are to do it again. For those of you who have adopted, I think you are > wonderful. I didn't choose this life, but you did and some of you have > multiple kids with various disabilities. My hat is off to you. I'm not a very > patient person, but my son has forced me to learn it. > > We are thinking about coming to Indianapolis & if so, I would love to meet > those of you who are there. > > - KCMO, > mom to 15 DS, ASD PDD-NOS > > > > **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape. > http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise? NCID=aolcmp00300000002489 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 My daughter is 18 now & will be headed off to college next August.? She was 2 1/2 when was born.? She is pretty good with him, but doesn't really make much effort to interact.?? She wants to travel the world and I'm going to support her in that for the near future, but I feel that I need to talk to her about the distant future when we cannot take care of anymore.? My?dh is 55 and I'm 48, so?we're not so young anymore.?? Still we should have a while before we have to make any decisions. I'd really love for to be able to live in some sort of community, maybe an apartment building like someone else described with other adults like him.? Right now I'm just trying to teach him to bath himself & brush his own teeth.? It took forever to get him to learn to dry his hands.? He is also non-verbal, so that presents it's challenges.? He is learning to use a communications device, but it is currently broken.? We had to send it back to the manufacturer. mom to 15 DS ASD PDD-NOS ________________________________________________________________________ More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! - http://webmail.aol.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 we had nathan when we were both 20years old. I think the odds were something like 1/20,000 We were advised not to have anymore as our chances increased. We werent going to have anymore but then got surprised with nicholas, who allthough doesnt have DS has given more trouble, lol, but we love both our boys dearly and since i had nicholas we opted not to have anymore. Sometimes I think all the stress and worry i was in when pregnant with nicholas somehow passed into him, causing him to have anxiety and OCD, but hubby just found out recently he has the same thing, so dont feel as bad. shawna In a message dated 1/13/2008 3:48:52 P.M. Central Standard Time, teresatech77@... writes: Before I had my son w/DS at age 32, my chances were about 1/700. No one in my huge family had a child with Down Syndrome. The geneticist told me afterward that at age 33, my chances were about 1/100, but as I got older they went way up. For example by the time I was 40 they would be 1/25. Fortunately we had already had our daughter, who is very bright ( & " normal " ), so we opted out of having any more kids. The geneticist said she didn't know exactly why our chances went up, but based on statistics our chances are higher. I do know a family who has 2 kids with DS. It seems like of the families that I know, many of them are either pretty much done with child-bearing when they have a child with DS or they decide that they are. Please don't be offended, this is my OPINION, but whenever I see a pregnant mom of a child with Down Syndrome, I think of how brave they are to do it again. For those of you who have adopted, I think you are wonderful. I didn't choose this life, but you did and some of you have multiple kids with various disabilities. My hat is off to you. I'm not a very patient person, but my son has forced me to learn it. We are thinking about coming to Indianapolis & if so, I would love to meet those of you who are there. - KCMO, mom to 15 DS, ASD PDD-NOS ************************<WBR>**Start the year off right. Easy ways t _http://body.http://body.<WBRhttp://body.<WBRhttp://body.<WBRhttp://bo_ (http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489) [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape. http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Elie never could learn to use a computer for communication - he liked to play with it too much. But we have successfully used PECS on cards an the Writing with words 2000 which is a division of the MEyer BOardmaker programs. I like the actual cards or paper in a notebook because I don't have to worry about loss. Elie ow is able to express himself well enough that he doesn;t walk around with his PECS collection, but we do still write social sotries as needed to help him understand issues. > My daughter is 18 now & will be headed off to college next August.? She > was 2 1/2 when was born.? She is pretty good with him, but doesn't > really make much effort to interact.?? She wants to travel the world and I'm > going to support her in that for the near future, but I feel that I need to > talk to her about the distant future when we cannot take care of > anymore.? My?dh is 55 and I'm 48, so?we're not so young anymore.?? Still we > should have a while before we have to make any decisions. > > I'd really love for to be able to live in some sort of community, > maybe an apartment building like someone else described with other adults > like him.? Right now I'm just trying to teach him to bath himself & brush > his own teeth.? It took forever to get him to learn to dry his hands.? He is > also non-verbal, so that presents it's challenges.? He is learning to use a > communications device, but it is currently broken.? We had to send it back > to the manufacturer. > > > mom to 15 DS ASD PDD-NOS > __________________________________________________________ > More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! - > http://webmail.aol.com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 , I could have written much of what you wrote today. I have a Master's Degree in Social Work and my first job out of college was as a preschool social worker at an agency that served children and adults with developmental disabilities. I loved that job and the clients I worked with. I later worked in the Semi Independent Living Program and spent a lot of time in the Sheltered Workshop. I remember saying to God, " I hope you are not preparing me for something. " Although I loved individuals with developmental disabilities (and my favorite show in high school was Life Goes On, it was about a teenager with DS and his family) I did not want my child to ever be born with DS. Today I I would love for my child to only have DS as Autism to me seems so much more disabling. Do you live in Indiana? I would love to meet you and your family and for you to meet Colton. He is also 12. Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2008 Report Share Posted January 16, 2008 , I do not even want to thank about my daughter turning 16 this year and cannot imagine 18. Wow. My daughter wants to live at home and go to college thank goodness.My husband is 42 and I am 43.This experience has aged me physcially quite a bit. is non-verbal and will not try to wash himself but will try to brush his teeth.His routine is bath, pj's, and then he has to get the toothpaste,toothbrush out of the drawer.I take the lid off and together we put the toothpaste on the toothbrush.For years I have sand the Barney song about brushing teeth and he tries.Afterwards he puts the cap on the toothpaste,grabs his toothbrush and puts it all back in the drawer.I have seen a few lifetime movies about putting kids with DS in homes and I cry every time. There are times right now that I do not know how much longer I can physically keep assisting him and yet and cannot think about the day when I have to leave him with strangers.One of his case workers told me I need to start looking now and make sure he is on a list.The case managers said she has a client that's child is 18 and the waitlist is 10-15 yrs out. has been on the waiting list since he was born for one facility but I need to check out more.We have to much to think about and I will think about all that tommorrow. Cyndi B > > My daughter is 18 now & will be headed off to college next August.? She was 2 1/2 when was born.? She is pretty good with him, but doesn't really make much effort to interact.?? She wants to travel the world and I'm going to support her in that for the near future, but I feel that I need to talk to her about the distant future when we cannot take care of anymore.? My?dh is 55 and I'm 48, so? we're not so young anymore.?? Still we should have a while before we have to make any decisions. > > I'd really love for to be able to live in some sort of community, maybe an apartment building like someone else described with other adults like him.? Right now I'm just trying to teach him to bath himself & brush his own teeth.? It took forever to get him to learn to dry his hands.? He is also non-verbal, so that presents it's challenges.? He is learning to use a communications device, but it is currently broken.? We had to send it back to the manufacturer. > > > mom to 15 DS ASD PDD-NOS > ______________________________________________________________________ __ > More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! - http://webmail.aol.com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2008 Report Share Posted January 17, 2008 Our next son to Elie who is 13 years older than ELie stayed home and went to local college until he was 21. Then he transferred to GA (from VA) to finish school. The first week wasn't too bad, but then we had a storm closure of school due to a hurricane and I was home alone with Elie (husband had the duty). Elie was 9 and at the worst of combativeness and disaappearing, lots of lying on the floor kicking and screaming at night because he would wake up every 10-15 minutes. No big brother to help!! I thought that I would just put him out in the storm and disappear myself. Got thru it, but the next day I was on the phone to every helping person I had ever spoken to and every doctor (pre ASD dx) trying to figure out what I could do. IT was awful. So I say NOW to all of you who are getting help from older sibs - make a plan for when they leave. Then think about, and make a plan B. Because sure as you make a plan, things will change. And I was in my middle 50's when this went on so I was already wearing out. So plan again. Also, if you have or are planning to change states, due your due diligence and learn the new states regs, opportunities, WAIVERS, respite, camp, 501 © 3's that can help. We have been in three states with Elie. Each one has something to offer better and something missing that another state did better. There are tradeoffs. But planning for them helps with the culture shock. > , I do not even want to thank about my daughter turning 16 this > year and cannot imagine 18. Wow. My daughter wants to live at home > and go to college thank goodness.My husband is 42 and I am 43.This > experience has aged me physcially quite a bit. is non-verbal > and will not try to wash himself but will try to brush his teeth.His > routine is bath, pj's, and then he has to get the > toothpaste,toothbrush out of the drawer.I take the lid off and > together we put the toothpaste on the toothbrush.For years I have > sand the Barney song about brushing teeth and he tries.Afterwards he > puts the cap on the toothpaste,grabs his toothbrush and puts it all > back in the drawer.I have seen a few lifetime movies about putting > kids with DS in homes and I cry every time. There are times right now > that I do not know how much longer I can physically keep assisting > him and yet and cannot think about the day when I have to leave him > with strangers.One of his case workers told me I need to start > looking now and make sure he is on a list.The case managers said she > has a client that's child is 18 and the waitlist is 10-15 yrs > out. has been on the waiting list since he was born for one > facility but I need to check out more.We have to much to think about > and I will think about all that tommorrow. Cyndi B > > > > My daughter is 18 now & will be headed off to college next August.? > She was 2 1/2 when was born.? She is pretty good with him, but > doesn't really make much effort to interact.?? She wants to travel > the world and I'm going to support her in that for the near future, > but I feel that I need to talk to her about the distant future when > we cannot take care of anymore.? My?dh is 55 and I'm 48, so? > we're not so young anymore.?? Still we should have a while before we > have to make any decisions. > > > > I'd really love for to be able to live in some sort of > community, maybe an apartment building like someone else described > with other adults like him.? Right now I'm just trying to teach him > to bath himself & brush his own teeth.? It took forever to get him to > learn to dry his hands.? He is also non-verbal, so that presents it's > challenges.? He is learning to use a communications device, but it is > currently broken.? We had to send it back to the manufacturer. > > > > > > mom to 15 DS ASD PDD-NOS > > > __________________________________________________________ > __ > > More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! - > http://webmail.aol.com > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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