Re: Re:food processors and changing behavior and therapy

[Guest guest]

Reaves wrote:

,

I would encourage you to " follow your gut " . I think we could all

feel guilt over the choices we make for our kids if we let

ourselves. Because my son can not tell me what he needs I find

myself making the best choice I can for him without always being sure

if it is what he needs. His behaviors are not always consistent and

so I find myself guessing and sometimes second guessing my

decisions. I know that my decisions are made in love and with his

best interest at heart and I have to be o.k. with that. In the past

I was put unnecessary stress on myself and our family trying to get

him to every possible therapy and get every vitamin and healthy food

in his body (ground flax seeds, fish oil etc.). I am convinces that

none of that had the " life or death " impact that I wanted it to. I

wanted it to make such a difference for him but I do not believe that

it did. Time has helped the most and Colton has become more calm and

affectionate as he has grown older. I think my relaxing and

accepting and even helped him relax. I wanted so much for him to be

able to enjoy what we enjoyed and but now I allow him to have his

space and he seems so much happier. I know everyone's child is

different but I would encourage you to know that you are a good

mother and that your gut will lead you well.

Lori, mom to Colton, DS, ASD 12 years old

[Guest guest]

Sorry, my computer has a mind of it's own this morning. I must puree

my FIL's food. I use a blender and my processor. I have no trouble blending

anything we are eating. At one time I pulled Zeb from OT during his preschool

years. The OT did not use age appropriate materials or work with him using

appropriate strategies. The OT's idea of hand or hand was physical and

aggressive. Zeb became very upset with this OT. After voicing my concerns with

the sped director, I was no longer allowed to accompany him into the therapy

room. I immediately discontinued the services before I followed my gut and broke

her arm. Ah memories.

Charlyne

Mom to Zeb 15 DS/OCD/ASD?

charlyne olko wrote:

Reaves wrote:

,

I would encourage you to " follow your gut " . I think we could all

feel guilt over the choices we make for our kids if we let

ourselves. Because my son can not tell me what he needs I find

myself making the best choice I can for him without always being sure

if it is what he needs. His behaviors are not always consistent and

so I find myself guessing and sometimes second guessing my

decisions. I know that my decisions are made in love and with his

best interest at heart and I have to be o.k. with that. In the past

I was put unnecessary stress on myself and our family trying to get

him to every possible therapy and get every vitamin and healthy food

in his body (ground flax seeds, fish oil etc.). I am convinces that

none of that had the " life or death " impact that I wanted it to. I

wanted it to make such a difference for him but I do not believe that

it did. Time has helped the most and Colton has become more calm and

affectionate as he has grown older. I think my relaxing and

accepting and even helped him relax. I wanted so much for him to be

able to enjoy what we enjoyed and but now I allow him to have his

space and he seems so much happier. I know everyone's child is

different but I would encourage you to know that you are a good

mother and that your gut will lead you well.

Lori, mom to Colton, DS, ASD 12 years old

[Guest guest]

Reaves wrote:

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> ,

>

> I would encourage you to " follow your gut " . I think we could all

> feel guilt over the choices we make for our kids if we let

> ourselves. Because my son can not tell me what he needs I find

> myself making the best choice I can for him without always being sure

> if it is what he needs. His behaviors are not always consistent and

> so I find myself guessing and sometimes second guessing my

> decisions. I know that my decisions are made in love and with his

> best interest at heart and I have to be o.k. with that. In the past

> I was put unnecessary stress on myself and our family trying to get

> him to every possible therapy and get every vitamin and healthy food

> in his body (ground flax seeds, fish oil etc.). I am convinces that

> none of that had the " life or death " impact that I wanted it to. I

> wanted it to make such a difference for him but I do not believe that

> it did. Time has helped the most and Colton has become more calm and

> affectionate as he has grown older. I think my relaxing and

> accepting and even helped him relax. I wanted so much for him to be

> able to enjoy what we enjoyed and but now I allow him to have his

> space and he seems so much happier. I know everyone's child is

> different but I would encourage you to know that you are a good

> mother and that your gut will lead you well.

>

> Lori, mom to Colton, DS, ASD 12 years old

>

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My daughter does not say any words either so most of the time i do feel

like i have to think for her and go with my gut. I feel like as long as

she is getting aba therapy thtas really what is important right now.

She will still get her speech and ot at school but i was just getting

tired of pulling her out of school every week to take her to therapy out

of school when nothing really was getting done or seeing any

improvements. i felt thta the therapist didnt know what else to do with

Haylee so they just kind of did the same thing every single week and

they didnt care either if we showed up or not it seems. i do have some

guilt every now and then not taking her but when im sitting there

watchng them with Haylee im thinking this is such a waste of time and

half the time haylee is not interested and i see them get frusturated

and then i feel bad which i shouldnt. this small town i live in i bet

weve seen just about half the speech therapist around here because they

just quit and go to another facility around here so i dont think its a

matter of finding a better speech therapist. although, i did have one

that was really good (she taught haylee how to sip from a straw) butshe

moved to ga. i guess now that haylee is 6 im thinking this way i dont

know, maybe 5 1/2 yrs. of taking her to therapy has gotten to me but

again my gut is telling me everything will be alright with the decision

i have made. and youre right you stress yourself out trying to please

everyone and doing whats supposed to be done as far as services go. oh

well.......too bad people have no clue what we have to deal with.