CYNDI

[Guest guest]

You did nothing wrong - autism is the culprit. You cannot be blamed for the

quirks and defensiveness of your child. I would suggest that you ask the OT

who helps with his sensory defensiveness if there are specific exercises

that can be done to help with head and face touching.

I can tell you that I can touch Elie's head, brush his hair (with a bristle

brush ony) and shave hiom, but he will not have anything to do with it. At

one point he would use a nylon scrungie, but it has been years since hea

greed to that.

All in all - I just work around the issues. Someday they will change and I

won't know why or how.

Sorry I cannot give more specific advice.

> Margaret, I did not see the comics. is 12yr old and he cannot do

> anything in the tub.He is tactile defensive and hates touching the

> washcloth, and his head.I had him trying to wash his head and I would

> even let him wet my hair until he got cellulitis of the head and face

> 2 yrs ago.Now he cannot stand anyone to wash his hair or touch the

> top of his head.I had to get a helmet so he would stop hitting the

> top of his head and then he hit his eyes.I had to decide if I wanted

> him to go blind or let him hit the top of his head.He wants to wear

> the helmet but then he hits his eyes.He drops the washcloth and will

> not hold it to wash.I sing to him and he loves that.Trying to make a

> game out of bathtime but he will not do anything for himself.I wonder

> some days where I went wrong and why he will not do this.What can we

> do different. Any ideas? Cyndi B

> >

> > Hi, Everyone.....Sara....I thought of you this morning while

> *helping*

> > Gareth with his shower. I have to wash his hair due to sensory

> issues and still

> > have to soap up the wash clothe for him. If I left the whole

> process to him,

> > there would be very little or no soap involved!!! He washes his

> hair with a

> > drop of shampoo on one hand, takes that hand over only the top

> part of his

> > head, and then rinses. He will never use liquid soap and rarely

> touches the

> > bar soap. It's really sad.....19 y/o and still needs help. As

> for drying, he

> > takes the towel over his stomach area and under his arms....then

> he gets

> > dressed.

> >

> > Did anyone see 'For Better or Worse' today in the comics? That is

> > Gareth.....very day, all day long!!! " Do you love me? " Do you

> like your son? " We

> > all had a good laugh this morning....including Gareth!!!

> >

> > Take care, Everyone.

> > Margaret

> >

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