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[Guest guest]

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I actually

have only one biological son (Tyler). He has two paternal half-brothers, one-

with ADHD(age 23) and the other- undiagnosed (but most likely AS… He

is almost 25 and they didn’t used to diagnose it back when he could have used

the help). My wonderful little daughter is adopted. Most likely, your baby will

be much different from your first child. Even if she ends up with a diagnosis

of some sort, the symptoms most likely would be much different than what you

are currently dealing with and may actually fit quite well with your family!!!

My 23 year old is very outgoing and socially responsive. He really helped his

older brother out, who to this day doesn’t have a social clue and doesn’t read

social cues (They even still share a house!!!) My 25 year old is very bright

and was able to help his younger brother out with college, something my ADHD

son was having a horrendous time with… They both have really pulled in and

helped Tyler understand how to deal with the obstacles he faces. helps

Tyler feel okay for being different and not always getting the social thing,

and also good about being very intellectual. helps Tyler pick up on

social cues, as he has his older brother . All three tend to be a bit

shell-shocked when dealing with my daughter, because she is so…. Different from

them!!! She is bright and funny, but is also very socially engaged. She is not

hyper, but is sensitive… You would think she was from another planet, yet they

still really engage with her and she loves every minute of their attentions!!!

Anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that everyone is born with their own

personalities and their own set of strengths and weaknesses. Some are within

the “normal” spectrum and some aren’t. Having two outside the norm isn’t necessarily

harder than one, because they may really counterbalance each other’s weaknesses…

It can be a wonderful thing either way!!!

Rabecca

Wow Rabecca,

sounds like a wonderful trip, hope you have a wonderful time and that you

will have some fabulous stories to tell us when you return.

Happy Anniversary, Happy Graduation, Congratulations on the Black Belt

too.

Enjoy your family time together and I hope that you get some romantic time

with hubby too.

By the way I can't remeber if you wrote about your daugther in your post a

while ago. But is she your youngest and has she been diagnosed with

Aspergers or anything at all. The reason that I am being nosiy is because

we are expecting our 2nd child this May and I am worried of what is to come.

Our specialist said that I should try not to worry too much as I could have

an NT child even though my son is HFA, PDD-NOS. He said that if we have a

girl that there is less chance of them having Aspergers. Just thought

that

you would have some insight.

Take care and Aloha.

in Ajax

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon,

I have heard good things about Woodstock HS but it all depends on the teacher.

Heidi Fernandez

[Guest guest]

There is much I haven't shared with this group, in terms of my "war stories." See no reason to whine, 'til I really need to. That day will come, of that I am sure.

My son acquired Type I Diabetes when he was 16 years old. Typically, when a juvenile develops the condition, it is due to an autoimune disorder. This was the case with Kris. I have been researching it since that day. It might be productive for this young man to be able to spend a day with some one his age who has the condition. However, the "scared straight" approach does not work for every one, perticularly for some one at his developmental stage.

The reason I mentioned strength training is because it might have more of a positive appeal than plain ol' exercise does. I will look around for some helpful sites. I have a in Child Development, so I know quite a few places to look.

"Genius is childhood recaptured" - Beaudelair__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Well said! I couldn't agree more.

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