Re: social issues at school

[Guest guest]

School was the worst time of my life...How I wish I could have been home

schooled. The kids were just plain evil!!! It left marks on me to this day...I

trust no one! I'm very much a loner and don't like to be around very many

people, partiess or crowds.

It didn't do any good to tell either, because some of the teachers weren't much

better and it made things worse! Teachers can;t be every where and see every

thing and kids aren't dumb. Even when the teachers did see, things were most of

the time ignored.Y ou see if you are phy. disabled chances are people think you

have a mental disability too.and if you have a disability you most likely don't

have feelings.......they think!

School really did a number on me. The school called my mom and said I had a

attitude! How could I when, I seldom talked! I was just very shy and

frightened....I was tortured from the time I got to school until I got off the

bus.

From grade school too high school and in high school my friendships never lasted

long. Just couldn't do the things that they could and they felt like I held them

back.

Good Luck

Geri

[Guest guest]

Hi Lori,

I don't think this is off topic at all. CMT related or not when you have CMT it

is harder to find a group of friends to spend time with. My two CMT kids that

are still in school often say that during break time many kids are running to

the field to play sports or just plain waking around all lunch never sitting

down.

I remember it all to well as a CMT kid myself. You can always talk to the school

psychologist but that has never gotten us anywhere for very long.

Honestly if he is that miserable I'd change his school or home school him for a

while. Maybe he has some bullies picking on him and is embarrassed to tell you?

I never told anyone when I had trouble.

I put my older CMT son in a very small private school that worked wonders for

him.

They have some great home school networks where he can meet kids and do

activities. I have had to change classrooms, teachers, schools, and home

schooled for a few months. Not all CMT related just kids issues some times.

Something is going on with him.

[Guest guest]

Geri,

I could have written most of your post. I think a small school setting or home

school is a good idea. My kids are having a horrible time at high school.

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[Guest guest]

,

Good to know, that you know where I'm coming from. The pain is not

forgotten....but forgiven.

Geri

[Guest guest]

From my own experience and research,

I think the kids needs psychological and emotional connections. Adults also

have the same need.

I would suggest that kids are taught to find and identify people who are

friendly and nice to get along with. The people can be classmates, people in

church, family members, and so on. When I was in shool, I tried to have

good academic performance to exchange friendship. That is, other people

think that I am smart, thus they need to build friendship with me to get

help in their study and exams.

Even children without CMT have social problems too. Some are fat. Some don't

have good academic performance. Some think themselves are ugly. Some think

they come from poor families and feel low self esteem. Some's parents are

very rich and spend all their time working, thus the kids feel abandoned.

............... A lot of different kinds of shame exist in kids' mind. But

they are incapable to deal with their own shadows. Thus, they project their

own shame to other kids to make themselves feel better.

We need to help the CMT kids to build healthy psychological boundary to know

that everyone is different.