Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 Yo Matt, People will always say things, always have, always will. Take the challenge, go deep within and rise above it. This is what I do. Gretchen P.S. I hope your Mom doesn't have to be in the hospital much longer. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 Hey ya Gretchen, yeah I hear ya. When they think I am drunk I just say yes, and then laugh inside. Keeps me sane. Thanks for the well wishes for Mom, I hope she is no in there much longer either. Matt Re: Things people say!!! Yo Matt, People will always say things, always have, always will. Take the challenge, go deep within and rise above it. This is what I do. Gretchen P.S. I hope your Mom doesn't have to be in the hospital much longer. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 Once, I walked on campus. A man spoke loudly, " your shoes are very heavy " ( I have foot drop, but the shoes are not heavy) I replied --- My steel legs are heavy .............. then, he became very quiet and felt very sorry about his words ...... On Tue, Aug 10, 2010 at 2:24 AM, Matt & Marg <mm.morse@...> wrote: > > > Hi all, I was at the hospital visiting my mom today, who does not have CMT. > Anyways the lady across from her in her bed, said to my mom you are keeping > your son awake. He is sitting there yawing. I know it a little thing and she > does not know I have CMT, the lady that is. It bugs me when people say stuff > like that. Just like the " are you drunk at 9:30 in the morning " , you know > like when you just fall over while standing there talking to someone at > another cubicle. Anyways, had to get that off my chest, thanks for > listening, I feel better now. :-) > > Thanks > > > Happy Monday. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 When people say or do insensitive things, I try to give them the benefit of the doubt and to respond gently and graciously. Alot of times (most of the time), they're trying to connect but don't have a frame of reference to always do it in a way that is graceful. There have been times in my life when I wasn't so kind and responded with sarcasm or in a haughty tone. I kinda see it now as my opportunity to change the world by being gracious and to help people understand disability better and to help them get over the awkwardness that underlies most of the " dumb " comments. I think that goes a long way to exposing and diminishing the stigma attached to disability. (Conversely, before when I reacted negatively to their comments, I think it increased the stigmatizing factor.) Lynna From: @... Date: Tue, 10 Aug 2010 11:55:25 +0800 Subject: Re: Things people say!!! Once, I walked on campus. A man spoke loudly, " your shoes are very heavy " ( I have foot drop, but the shoes are not heavy) I replied --- My steel legs are heavy .............. then, he became very quiet and felt very sorry about his words ...... On Tue, Aug 10, 2010 at 2:24 AM, Matt & Marg <mm.morse@...> wrote: > > > Hi all, I was at the hospital visiting my mom today, who does not have CMT. > Anyways the lady across from her in her bed, said to my mom you are keeping > your son awake. He is sitting there yawing. I know it a little thing and she > does not know I have CMT, the lady that is. It bugs me when people say stuff > like that. Just like the " are you drunk at 9:30 in the morning " , you know > like when you just fall over while standing there talking to someone at > another cubicle. Anyways, had to get that off my chest, thanks for > listening, I feel better now. :-) > > Thanks > > > Happy Monday. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 Caroline, I have has someone make the same comment that my shoes look heavy. One time someone said They could tell my sister (a CMTer) and were related because we walk the same. It amazes me what falls out of peoples mouths sometime. They obviously don't think before they speak. Cyndi Saxton Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2010 Report Share Posted August 11, 2010 I was in a mall in a shoe store, Wild Pair, looking for some tennis shoes for my braces. The young guy who worked there came up and said he liked my boots and the decorations on them, I had on metal braces and boots. I never told him I had on braces. I just thanked him. He was being honest, he liked how they looked so I didn't want him to feel bad or anything. I actually bought a pair of Nikes for my plastic braces from him. I have a friend who just started wearing AFOs. He had a mild case of polio as a kid. Because of the problems he had heard about plastic braces and hot weather he got metal ones. He has been totally surprised how no one has said anything about his braces. He was expecting some comments but has had none. Bob > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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