Introduction

November 20, 2010

I agree, I can tell you from experience that it is practically impossible to work and raise an aspie child. I tried! Talk about the guilt! I used to work PT for many years from the time when my ds was about 6 until he was 11. I had a hard time keeping up with the housework, w/appts. dealing with his meltdowns. He was diagnosed ADHD & OCD @ 5, PDD-NOS @ 8, ASD, AD,HFA, OCD, ODD @ 16. Right now I'm not working,

..:~Anita W~:.

From: chris Dunn <christineshello@...>Subject: ( ) Introduction Date: Saturday, November 6, 2010, 8:54 PM

It is very interesting what you are saying, because I find myself in the same situation my son is 8 he is HFA but still has meltdowns and I have to help him with the school homework, and clean the house, take care of my son, cook take him to the appointments (OT, swimming, doctors, etc) and I want to work because I feel guilty that my husband holds 3 jobs to support everybody and I don't work, but to be honest I don't have the stamina, the energy to work, my days are long and tiring. I think we should take a poll and ask if the mothers of the asperger's children work outside the home or not. If other mother can please come forward and say if they work or not, that would be great, also I would realize that may be is physically impossible to do both things (take care of a special needs child and work outside), may be I am wrong and it is possible. I am exhausted most of the time, I don't have in laws or parents to support me, I don't

have sisters or brothers so it is just my husbands and myself going through all this in life.

Please let's answer this questions are you working outside? full time? is it possible?

November 21, 2010

My son has Aspergers, ADHD, OCD, and tactile issues. I worked until he turned 2, but only 2 days a week. Then I taught piano for 12 years, which I did from my own home so I didn’t have to leave him or get child care. (I only had 10 students.) Now he is 18 and graduated last June. Since then, and some months before that, I’ve been doing a lot of research trying to figure out how to handle an aspie as a young adult. He refuses to work; he’s taking one class at Edmonds CC but he’s not very motivated. All he wants to do is play computer games. He went through a period of time where he saw a counselor at DVR, and then I was able to get him eligible for the Division of Developmental Disabilities. I have talked with his case worker several times and she has been very helpful. Next week we have an appointment for a DDD assessment, which will possibly get us a little money to get therapy at the UW Care Clinic, where they do not accept insurance. Then I got him on SSI, and we are charging him rent and having him pay for his cell phone plan, part of his tuition, and bus transportation. I am his representative payee; otherwise he would spend it all right after getting it. I am trying to teach him how to budget his money. Anyway, I can’t really explain what I’ve been doing all these months – it’s kind of a muddle in my head. All I know is that I have been so busy with research on the internet, emailing, and phone calls. There’s no way I could work outside the home right now! He needs so much monitoring and supervision, and on top of that, he has a very oppositional and argumentative temperament. I always feel like I’m stressed out about something. What makes it more difficult is that my husband and I often do not agree on how we should interact with him. - Kay From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of anita wagnerSent: Saturday, November 20, 2010 8:49 PM Subject: Re: ( ) Introduction I agree, I can tell you from experience that it is practically impossible to work and raise an aspie child. I tried! Talk about the guilt! I used to work PT for many years from the time when my ds was about 6 until he was 11. I had a hard time keeping up with the housework, w/appts. dealing with his meltdowns. He was diagnosed ADHD & OCD @ 5, PDD-NOS @ 8, ASD, AD,HFA, OCD, ODD @ 16. Right now I'm not working, .:~Anita W~:. From: chris Dunn <christineshello@...>Subject: ( ) Introduction Date: Saturday, November 6, 2010, 8:54 PMIt is very interesting what you are saying, because I find myself in the same situation my son is 8 he is HFA but still has meltdowns and I have to help him with the school homework, and clean the house, take care of my son, cook take him to the appointments (OT, swimming, doctors, etc) and I want to work because I feel guilty that my husband holds 3 jobs to support everybody and I don't work, but to be honest I don't have the stamina, the energy to work, my days are long and tiring. I think we should take a poll and ask if the mothers of the asperger's children work outside the home or not. If other mother can please come forward and say if they work or not, that would be great, also I would realize that may be is physically impossible to do both things (take care of a special needs child and work outside), may be I am wrong and it is possible. I am exhausted most of the time, I don't have in laws or parents to support me, I don't have sisters or brothers so it is just my husbands and myself going through all this in life. Please let's answer this questions are you working outside? full time? is it possible?

November 21, 2010

Well, I'm a stay at home dad and not a mother, but yeah, I'm in the same boat.

We currently homeschool, but even when I wasn't, there was enough on the table

to keep me busy (add car repair, home maintenance, and IEPs to the list). Aside

from the fact that I have a long list of things that need to get gone, I also

need to be level headed when dealing with my son's behavior, and I've got enough

stress already.

-

>

> From: chris Dunn <christineshello@...>

> Subject: ( ) Introduction

>

> Date: Saturday, November 6, 2010, 8:54 PM

>

> It is very interesting what you are saying, because I find myself in the same

situation my son is 8 he is HFA but still has meltdowns and I have to help him

with the school homework, and clean the house, take care of my son, cook take

him to the appointments (OT, swimming, doctors, etc) and I want to work because

I feel guilty that my husband holds 3 jobs to support everybody and I don't

work, but to be honest I don't have the stamina, the energy to work, my days are

long and tiring. I think we should take a poll and ask if the mothers of the

asperger's children work outside the home or not. If other mother can please

come forward and say if they work or not, that would be great, also I would

realize that may be is physically impossible to do both things (take care of a

special needs child and work outside), may be I am wrong and it is possible. I

am exhausted most of the time, I don't have in laws or parents to support me, I

don't have sisters or

> brothers so it is just my husbands and myself going through all this in life.

>

> Please let's answer this questions are you working outside? full time? is it

possible?

>

November 22, 2010

Try being a single parent with a supposedly " co parent " in denial. You can do

anything you want without money. Be creative. Use every State avenue. Burn

your phone up. Have low expectations for everyone but you and your child.

in NJ