Guest guest Posted January 31, 2011 Report Share Posted January 31, 2011 On anger: I could not agree more with that a healthy realization of and abilirty to express anger is essential for well-being. I spent the first 40 years of my life desperately afraid of anger. (NEVER expressed it. Didn't even know I had it. ) I've spent the past ten years learning that alot of anger lived hidden in my soul, and in learning to say " hello " to it, and to allow it to inform my life, I've learned that my anger was and is something very precious. The trick for me is learning how to allow my anger, without allowing it to be unleashed and causing harm to myself or others. When carefully bounded, it is HUGELY empowering. This may be a tangent, or maybe not... socially, we learn that people want/expect/need for people with disabilties to be smiling and cheerful. We learn that we get positive strokes when we are the smiling gimps, and people aren't so receptive to anger. Problem is, there is alot of injustice in the world and alot to be upset about. I choose to be real, gentle in my expression of anger, but authentic in expressing my dissatisfaction. That seems healthy to me. Peace, Lynna From: linda@... Date: Mon, 31 Jan 2011 14:14:07 -0500 Subject: Re: Re: School and Kids I think anger is natural when you are socially isolated, your needs are ignored and your feelings trampled on regularly. And, we can display a little anger on this list because we are all in the same boat. Anger is healthy. Holding it all in can really mess you up. We'd be branded as slightly nuts if we spoke like this on any other site. I don't go around angry, I'm fairly well-balanced, I think, but I do stick up for myself and others with disabilities through my newspaper column, regular advocacy and my websites. If you educate yourself, you can teach others. Knowledge is power. I'm taking an online course on Visitability through U. of Buffalo and intend to complete the entire program which includes a great deal on Universal Design and everything you need to know to clue others in. It's just more of what I already know. A gal's gotta do what a gal's gotta do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 Lynne - So right on. If we're smiling, simple gimps, as you put it, we're less of a problem. If we are angry and passionate about the ills done to us then we become a problem. " They " don't want problems. My one ace in the hole when the city or regional government doesn't do something we need doing in a timely fashion is to know that if I call 10 of my friends who use wheelchairs and scooters, make up signs and picket, and tell the local paper when and where, the city will jump hoops and go nuts to get it done because they don't want problems with people with disabilities in the press, on You Tube, etc. Anger, if focused and directed can turn into passion and passion plus information can move mountains. C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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